i am scared right now. i wish i had some comforts. i regret having sex without protection for that 3 mins. i know we should've been more careful. we havent had sex without condom but this time we got a lil' too excited. i know i won't have any STDs or HIV but what i'm afraid of is if i'm going to be pregnant. my bf didn't come but i know there's still a chance i could b. my bf told me he didnt get the chance to precum because it was so hard getting his penis inside of me and i was so dry that his penis started stinging. we tried to have sex but we stopped having sex after 3 mins because of how hard it was to get in. no matter what we both still regret. i'm a very very very paranoid type. i kept askin him if he by accident precum/*** but he positively told me no and not to worry. so now i'm trying to seek for hope: has anyone here had unprotected sex but got away with it without getting pregnant? i dont want to have kids thats y im so concerned. thanks for all your help... sigh
2006-07-06 22:51:53 · 13 answers · asked by dorkydork 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
what if worst comes to worst... what can i do if i don't want to have a kid? how do i find an abortion agency? i don't want to go to a cheap place and put my body to risk neither. i'm going to plan for the worst just in case. i know i sound paranoid... but if anybody knows anything about abortion... let me know please?
and oh yeah... are there any pregnancy symptoms that a person could get the FIRST day they're pregnant? my minds playing all sorts of tricks with my dumb head so maybe that's why i feel like i'm feeling symptoms when it's barely the first day. thank you once again... sigh
2006-07-06 22:55:36 · update #1
regarding the above post: i know i sound harsh speaking of abortion. i know it would offend some of you... i'm deeply sorry for that... but MY values are a bit different. i'm planning to NOT have kids... meaning even IF i'm married i STILL won't have kids. so right now i'm scared not because i'm thinking of myself... but because i really don't want kids. yes i know i shouldve prevented it by using a condom but i already said i know that i made a mistake. sorry... but i just need some comfort and people who have experiences with this... that's all
2006-07-06 23:09:29 · update #2
and yes... this relationship was a 5+ yrs relationship... i'm NOT being irresponsible if that's what some are thinking preventing them from genuinely helping me. we were together for a long time and never were we with someone else. that's how committed we are. we only have sex with each other and lost it to each other. both really careful type... but this time we messed up. my bf told me he would take full responsibility if worst comes to worst so please people... don't think wrongly of me preventing you from helping me... no matter what... thank you... for just coming by :)
2006-07-06 23:16:48 · update #3
DON'T PANIC! First of all, you don't have to keep berating yourself - while it's never a good idea to have unprotected sex unless you're in a monogamous, committed relationship, I think most people would agree that, in the throes of passion, common sense has a funny way of disappearing from your radar.
First, see if you can get that morning after pill - I'm not sure where you would go to get it but you can probably ask your doctor. Secondly, in the event that you do end up pregnant, there are LOTS of options - you don't have to continue the pregnancy, but you don't have to have an abortion either. The important thing right now is to realize that there's no use crying over spillt milk so just remember that no matter what happens, YOU HAVE OPTIONS!!!
And...not that this is any of my business: but what is your bf doing trying to force himself into you when you're DRY???That's your body's way of telling you uhm HELLLOOOO something's not working here - you either weren't aroused enough to be lubricated or if this is a recurring problem I can HIGHLY recommend KY Jelly!
2006-07-06 23:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd been with my ex for 1.5 years, and the ONE day we had unprotected sex I fell pregnant. I now have a 4 year old boy.
I've now been having unprotected sex for 5 months with my current partner, and no joy so far... We're trying for a baby.
It all depends really. It sounds quite unlikely, and you really don't get symptoms one day after conception, in my experience.
You still have time to take the morning after pill, though, if only one day has gone by. If you are that worried, hurry up and get it!! You can take it up to 72 hours after having sex!
If you don't do that, you may end up in an abortion clinic, and that's a horrible experience, whether you want a child or not!
Sometimes men can precum without even noticing it - I'd say better to be safe than sorry!
Good luck!
2006-07-07 00:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly yes. unless ur bf is a pre-ejaculator then you really shouldnt worry about precum. I have had sex with a few and not used a condom. My ex and I had sex for over a year and never once used a condom. We did have a scare one time but it actually had nothing to do with sex. I know u r worried and everyone is one time or another but i think you should be in the clear. Good luck and use a condom no matter what.
2006-07-06 23:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my husband for 6 years 4 of those 3 years we always had unprotected sex and never anything happened. and then we started trying for a baby and had one. a son. and now we still have unprotected sex and i am not pregnant. he doesn't do his business in me so i am never worried. but if you are that freaked then use a condom or get on the pill. and i am sorry don't wanna sound mean but abortion is not a form of birth control. i am sick of people who don't look at the consequences of having sex. if you aren't ready to have a kid then you aren't ready to have sex without protection or even have sex at all. think about someone but yourself. when your abort you kill the baby. that is murder. my aunt had an abortion and she has nightmares every night about it and is a manic depressant. and this was almost 22 years ago she did this. so think about things before you do them.
2006-07-06 23:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex for like 3 or 4 years and have not pregnant so you can have sex unprotected and not get pregnant so just don't worry if you miss a period then you would have to worry.
2006-07-07 01:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by just_gethere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to me before and I was very lucky. I had unprotected sex and did not get pregnant. Stay calm until you find out for sure! You won't be able to tell yet, but you can take a pregnancy test soon to be sure.
2006-07-06 22:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by angib18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off just relax wait about a week and see your doctor, i wouldnt be worried about pregnancy i would be worried about STDs, if you are pregnant its not the end of the world its your body and you can do as you please, in your case abortion sounds like an option or else adoption might be better for you, i strongly suggest seeing a doctor but in my opinion its highly unlikley you are pregnant. SEE YOUR DOCTOR ASAP!!!
2006-07-06 23:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can use Lubricants to make it not dry, just purchase it from pharmacy. It can help a lot!
i was having unprotected sex with my bf since this year. Well he said he can control well
2006-07-06 22:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very unlikely that you will be pregnant if he couldn't even get it in you properly, let alone come.
Do nothing because stressing will make your period late. Wait until it comes. Stop worrying and I hope you've learned your lesson.
2006-07-06 23:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've done it a couple times for diffrent amout of times i have slid by but then again doesn't mean the girl didn't lie to me or something but the one time i committed to it I now have a 3 year old :)
2006-07-06 22:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by OZoNE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋