Are there any secrets to get over shyness?

Question

I just get these gut-wrenching feelings when I have to do something public....like giving speeches or something. I have a hard time with making myself known. It just seems like I'm the one in the back of the crowd that no one seems to notice. I need help.

Answer 1

The only thing you can do is put yourself out there. Trust me, I've been there. The only way to get over shyness is to make yourself do the things that make you nervous. Eventually, you will become more comfortable with the things that make you uncomfortable. Walk up and talk to people you know, but don't associate with regularly. You will be noticed afterwhile.

Answer 2

1]try to get as many friends as possible b/c anybody that doesnt make friends is always a shy person.2]try to ask alot of question in the classroom so as to create a good relationship with your teacher.3]avoid doing all those things that make you feel inferior infront of people.4]when there is an arguement among friends try to contribute even if you just contributed a sentence.finally,make sure you dont say the wrong thing at the right time.try to argue your point out ,dont easily give in to a persons arguement untill you are sure the person is right.after all this is done, you will surely overcome shyness and henceforth be a bold person.

Answer 3

Its not easy, I am shy too. What I try to do is practice being more outgoing and taking chances at what I will do and the more you do something like speaking up or giving a speach the easier it gets. But regardless its not something that is easy to over come. Just take it a little at a time. As I have gotten older I have cared less about what people thing and its easier to take chances.

Answer 4

Just consider the audience to be non-existent and go on with your delivery in a balanced, self-assured manner. Focus your eyes (at first) on a fixed spot at the table or the lectern and, later on, try to look the audience in the face with a light smile occasionally. Speak loudly and clearly without munching or swallowing your words or letters. Remember that you're speaking about something others do not know as well as you do. It's a matter of practice and you'll be fine. With all my best wishes.

Answer 5

Shy people are advised to take one social risk a day.
Start small if you need to and try to keep them doable.
Today I will say hi to someone at work for example.
After taking a social risk, I found that I had to go through all kinds of trauma. At first I couldn't do it every day because of this.
I kept trying and now I feel pretty good about myself in public.
I worked my way up trying more difficult things when I felt ready.

Answer 6

Cure Social Anxiety Shyness - http://SocialAnxiety.uzaev.com/?SEYA

Answer 7

My secret is the life ive lived that has caused my shyness.

Answer 8

Well...people have bad self-confidence for several reasons (as you well know). You best know what scares you so you need to support yourself enough to let yourself go beyond that road-block. However, meditation is always available to people who want to surpass their fears. You can do some research on Vipassana Meditation. This really works for making people get rid of unwanted thoughts etc. Hope I could help :-)

Answer 9

I get that, but for some reason I only have to say Hello to everyone and all the butterflies have gone, just be a bit more confident, do things in front of a mirror first to boost your self confidence

Answer 10

I posted an answer about hyperventilating during public speaking for another question (see the following link). I don't know if you have that particular problem. But you might want to check it out, in addition to the useful things that the other folks said. Some breathing exercises before speaking might help you.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhEQoRrmHPVtH3WBNjFYqkHzy6IX?qid=20060707030808AAFq1bu