should i remain friends with someone with a drug problem?

Question

my friend is addicted to methadone and its so hard to hang out with him because he starts passing out at night all the time, i love him and when we hang out he can be so nice but when he's messed up i just get irritated with him.. any thoughts?

its so hard for me to watch him do this to himself, i want to help him but he goes to outpatient drug classes and he doesn't seem to take them seriously. he never did heroine he just takes methadone reacrationaly i guess and he takes a crap load of it.. i was there for the intervention and then he went to drug classes but there not working, i have talked to him and it doesn't seem to do any good. im at a loss here.. i mean.. what should i do take him to a halfway house and have him talk to people there that are homeless because of drugs?

Answer 1

I know you love him, but being his co-dependant wont help him. If he does not want to quit, he wont, classes or treatment wont help. You have to be honest with yourself and quit denying that this man has an addiction and you will have to let him hit his own rock bottom before he makes a choice to get better, dont go down that road with him, it just makes his addiction worse.

Answer 2

The key word is Friend, If he really is and you do care about him, just tell him that you don't like being around him when he is messed up, and tell him why maybe even take a video of him so you can show him what he looks like. It wouldn't hurt either to get some info off the computer on meth, and the effects it has on the person. Some people think that friendship is for only good times, but true friends stand by you know matter how bad you screw up, BUT you don't have to hang out with him just let him know that you are there for him, but you won't watch him slowly kill himself.

Answer 3

Methadone is a drug which stops the effect of all opiats. Methadone is a drug that one is supposed to use for the rest of your life, and if he is blacking out, it indicates that he is getting a too big dose each day. Get him to take a serum test, so he can adjust his daily dose and get a normal life again. Methadone is THE help for a lot of opiat addicted people. Better off with methadone than heroine..

Answer 4

If you haven't already, try talkingt to him and asking him to seek treatment. Tell him that you're worried about him and that you want to be able to hang out without him passing out all the time. If that doesn't work than get his friends and family members together and do an intervention. At that time you could tell him that he has to get treatment or you can't be friends with him until he does. Some people who have an addiction (of whatever) have to hit rock bottom before deciding to seek treatment.

Answer 5

welli have many many friends with drugg addictions, and it is really hard too wonder and ponder the idea of just giving up on them. But i guess those kinds of pple have a hard enough time as it is, but on the other hand have there own free will to be able too stop. So my suggestion is too sit your friend down (when hes not high) explain you love him, and u wanna see him happyer, let him know that if friendship is more important then druggs GREAT! but if not cya. Let him know you'll still keep in contact and a place will be waiting in ur heart until he decides too get his act together. it will be one of the hardes things u'll do, confronting somone is the ONLY way they see what there doing wrong.!!

i truely hope this helps,
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--yours truely jenna.

Answer 6

Well ! Dear friend I sincerely believe that if you truly consider him to be your friend then, you should remain to be a friend and rather make your best efforts to help him get out of this pit. In my opinion the true test of our friendship is at the time our friend is in adverse conditions. You should also consider that one day you might end up falling into a problem , and then wouldn't you like to have a prudent friend by your side,who helps you face the problem?
I know it is easier said than done and if the sitution is extreme and beyond anyone's imagination, you must abstain from meeting quite often but I won't recommend total cut off.
Yours sincerely
Vanchit

Answer 7

If he's a friend then he needs your help. You can only help someone so much but the best help is if your friend helps himself first. He needs to admit that he has a problem, WANT TO FIX THE PROBLEM, and this is where you come in to guide him in the right direction. You can only hold someones hand so far. I have a friend that is going thru the same thing. Its a hard situation to be in believe me i know!! Good luck, i hope it all works out for him and you.

Answer 8

If you don't like hanging out with him when he's messed up then I'd suggest not hanging with him. But if you really care for him as a friend then I would say something to him, in as caring away as possible. Mention that it bothers you when he's messed up and you want to spend time with him, but he's passing out. Usually a possitive feedback like "loving to spend time" with someone really helps them to get on the right track. If he doesn't care enough to give it some effort then you just need to break away from them, cause it's only going to get worse.

Answer 9

do you mean he is on a methadone treated in order to get off of another drug then perhaps they are worth the problems otherwise any chemical addict is too much to try and hope for a relationship from.

Answer 10

Maybe you should have an intervention and help this dude out. But if you think that you're going to adopt the life-style he has, it's time for you to go ahead and leave him.