i think i'm falling for a married man,help!?

Question

we've been chatting on here for a month now..we like the same things and have the same out look on life,we started off chatting as friends but its turning into more.He is like the twin i never had and he feels the same..we havnt met,but both feel that if we did it would be electric..he says he has plans to leave his wife when he has enough money saved and after hearing the history i believe him,but ......when we're not chatting i have my doubts about the whole thing and wonder if staying in contact with him is a good idea....i've never felt like this about any one before and never had any intention of getting involved with a married man when i started out....do i carry on as we are and see what happens? or get out now ?i've never found anyone i could be so open with before and he is the same,where do we go from here?

Answer 1

I think do whatever you feel is best, if u really care about him and feel a real connection carry on with it a see where it leads you for now, theres no harm in it he may be married, but if it isnt working out then theres a chance... but before you move forward with it i think its best to wait until he is seperated from his current wife.

Answer 2

I didn't even read all this because He's Married ! Ask his wife how's your marriage ? Ask her is he a cheater , a sneak ? I noticed my son would come on the computer , esp . when his wife was in the shower and he'd link over if she came in the room ( he'd tell the person I got kicked off the computer or it's not my computer so I use it only when I can ) .Once he used my email address to write her , she email him at my address .I replied and said I don't know you but my son is married ,Please keep my email address because if he's going to leave his wife , maybe they should not be getting along so well .Then I told him , he was so mad but when his wife asked what happened he told her , my mom received an email from a old friend of mine and she thinks I'm flirting .She said what friend , let me see , etc. Never gave her the email or explained pass that .Then lady emailed me again , I just said sorry he doesn't seem to respect women much but I will tell you , he doesn't tell his wife he's unhappy and said your an old friend .If you chose to continue , don't be mad at his wife but at you and him ! He stays in his apartment now and when he comes down the hall , she comes with in minutes. He was chatting for about two months and the lady trusted his word , he just made one mistake by using my email address .Or he would probly kept her around for a while . Good luck but if you were married would you want a husband like that ?

Answer 3

In my opinion, you should stop it now. First, and most importantly, he is married. My guess is he has children too? It is completely unfair to break up their family. His poor wife! I feel so sorry for her not knowing her husband is having an 'internet affair'!
Secondly, you do not really know this guy though you may think you do. You say you have never met him so how can you be so sure he is the one? Chatting to someone online is completely different to chatting to someone in person. Things can be said through writing that cannot be said in person, in particular, lies. You can build up a fantasy of what that person is like which is not at all like their reality.
If he is going to leave his wife, he needs to talk to her about it and not wait until he has saved money! How he can put money before his own wife's happiness is disgraceful. He needs to tell her now if he is serious about leaving her and let her go and find her own new life.
Please also remember the amount of men who have affairs and tell the woman they are going to leave their wives but never do. He is maybe just looking for a lusty affair but has no intention of leaving her for you. He married this woman because he loved her and probably always will love her
I hope you find happiness whoever it may be with...

Answer 4

A couple things to consider. 1st, you don't know what the story is with his marriage because you are only hearing one side. Chances are the wife would truly have a different story. You need to take what he tells you with a grain of salt because he is trying to make you like him. he probably wouldn't tell you the parts he has played in the marriage going south, like you probably are not the first internet fling he has had or tried to have. 2nd. the old saying if he does it to her he will do it to you is definately true. What makes you think that you are so much better then another woman that you will be able to stop his wandering fingers(keyboard talking). Don't flatter yourself, even if he ever did leave his wife, and most of the time that is just talk to get into you pants because if he wanted to be single he would have been before he met you, you won't be able to change him. Let it go and run, run, run. And trying to meet a guy face to face instead of online might be a good idea too!!!!

Answer 5

my take on this is - how can a woman be with a man who is planning to leave his wife? if the breakdown of the marriage is mostly (if not entirely) his wife's fault, wouldn't he have left her already? to plan and save $ for the breakup, it just doesn't make sense to me. and u have not met him. to give him the benefit of a doubt, what i will suggest is that you do a check on him like in the form of a private investigation if u are really serious about the guy. however, if u can bring urself to do it, i will strongly recommend u pulling out now and save yourself the heartache. take a trip somewhere (where internet connection is not so accessible)...time will heal all wounds.

Answer 6

I'd get out while you still can. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, but if you really feel he is "the one" I'd make sure you know as much as you can about him before moving forward together. It'll be action packed with past issues if you know what I mean. If it looks as if there was a chaotic history with his possible soon to be ex I'd expect certain issues to carry on with his future relationship(s).
I reccomend you get out before you bite off more than you can chew. That's what I say. Good luck on finding your way.

Answer 7

hay julie its not me is it .................................. no wait it cant be cause i have enough money .........lol only joking hunie, if you have your doubts when your not talking then maybe its not ment to be ,you should feel the chemistry wether your chatting or not,you dont want to be that OTHER WOMAN expecially when theres kids involed(your or his)do carry on but be carefull he may know what to say but can he perform in the long term, its ok chatting and flirting but its another story when your face to face,if he is married and class you as a good friend you should encourage him to speek to his wife about their problems first before making plans for that big meet, if it is just the electricty your wanting buy some more power cards.

Answer 8

Just enjoy the fun you have for the moment...

If something happens and he leaves his wife, then be there for him... But until then, it is best kept at a distance... Certainly, you don't want to get dragged into some sordid and painful divorce - even though you aren't the cause of the break-up...

Just be VERY careful...

Answer 9

Run, don't do it. Married men always make some excuse as to why they cannot leave their wife. They promise you they will but have no intention of leaving. If he loved you he would leave her now because nothing else would matter to him apart from being with you.

Answer 10

well dear I have gone though your problem It require many things to ecplore actually it very difficult to judge people though internet etc. there are many faces of men because they have work outside the home they better knowledge of things oustside girls sre generally entreapped wait for few months the picture willcome out in true colours . No hurry dear. I man who have pateince can stay longer has strenght but who is impatient has no respect for himself as well as other