I have just started work in my Company for 2 months. I like this place, except I got harass by my China colleague. Sometimes when he talk, he lean close to my arm. Got once, he almost felt my breast when he stretch across me! I back off alittle as I was sitting on the chair! (because the chair is not adjustable) and I even stop breathing. I was really scared of him. And he keeps staring at me, it makes me feel really uneasy... I tried to ignore his conversations unless work concern.... He told me he shouldnt get married so early and he even sms me to ask me out even though he knows I had a bf and is getting married soon! I wanted to tell my boss but I am scared he might not believe me.... Can anyone pls help.....
2006-07-06 21:25:31 · 11 answers · asked by Faith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him to stop. If he doesn't report him to your superiors and file a complaint. If you're afraid of him trying to get back at you, just go straight to your superiors.
2006-07-06 21:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle it is to tell him straight to stop it. You may have to tell ur bf about it and together you can work out a way. The man may just be suffering from some neglect try to know about his bkgrnd and see if you can be of help. The harassment is the least of the problems. He is not likely going to do that for long for he also knows that it's wrong. However, be sure you don't fall into the temptation.
2006-07-06 21:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep track of what was said, when it was said, and where it was said, and take that information to your boss. Specifics are hard to fake, and it will make you look less like a hysterical woman and more like a person who just wants to be allowed to work without being scared if you have that kind of records. It is your supervisor's job to stop things like that from happening, and the colleague has probably harassed other women.
2006-07-06 21:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell this person that you find the things that he is doing objectionable and tell him exactly what you are talking about. Look him directly in the eyes when you tell him. Ask him to please stop immediately. You need to document the time, date and place that you had the conversation with him. You need to document what you said and what he said and you need to make sure you ask him at the end of the conversation if he understands what you said. You also need to tell him that this is between you and him and it will not go any further unless he violates it.
I would also suggest that you send him an email thanking him for understanding and accepting what you discussed with him. Maintain a copy of that as well.
File both in a safe place (home) and go on with your work. Be nice and cordial with him as if nothing had happened. If it happens again I would suggest that you document when/what he said and then go to personnel services.
2006-07-06 22:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by R B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this creep to stop, as you dont want him to be so close to you.
Tell him No .. you dont want to go out with him, as his wife would not like to find out he is asking women out. Imply the wife would find out, and he may leave you alone.
He is harrassing you, and he knows you are scared to cause trouble.If you let him continue you will just make matters worse.
Tell him you do not want him leaning over you.
Tell the boss if it continues and keep the text messages to show the boss so he knows you are telling the truth.
Maybe get your boyfriend to meet you after work.. so this guy will see you with him.
2006-07-06 21:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by julie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come straight out and tell him that he is in your "personal space" and could he please not get so close when he is talking with you. If he sees that you aren't intimidated by him, he may back off. If it continues, go to your personnel department or the boss and talk to them about it. The next step would be to file a complaint.
2006-07-06 23:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by TellMeMore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have no reason to be afraid.r jerks scary? they r just jerks. stand up for your self. remember- in this life you teach the people how to treat you. if they feel you are week everyone will want to put their foot on you and take an advantage. never be quite about this. its a mistake you will do.earn respect. don't u deserve it?
be strong. and good luck.
2006-07-06 21:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by tinker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is the next time he does it grab his privates and tell him the next time your going to put it thru the pencil sharpner
2006-07-06 21:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by mlnacn04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one of your male counterparts to sexual harass him.
2006-07-06 21:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be bold.....kick his balls off! He'll get your msg; then file a sex harassment report.
2006-07-06 21:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by dbloozehaus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋