Why is it so difficult for people to understand that there is such thing as true love and soulmates?

Question

I married at 20 years of age and at the time thought that I was in love. A few years down the track and I was begining to realise that I was not happy...I did not know why and how to fix it....Until one day it happened, I met someone...someone who made me feel complete. It was an instant attraction between us, one that can not be put to words. It was only ever spoken through our eyes...as we are both married and with kids...
The point Im trying to make here is that although this attraction between us is uncontrolable and we have no power over it. We have to accept that nothing could ever happen between us, no matter how unberable and heartbreaking it is.
Why is that? why is it that 2 people who feel so strongly for one another,and that together they could live a complete and fulfilling life full of happiness and yet society does not recognise it as that. Due to family commitments and society acceptance we are forced to sacrifise true happiness, and to love as God truly intended...

Answer 1

MAYBE SACRIFICE IS WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LEARN IN THIS LIFETIME.. I THINK YOU HAVE PAID YOUR DUES AND THAT YOU BOTH SHOULD DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO BE TOGETHER. I WOULD SACRIFICE THE FAMILIES BECAUSE LOVE IS WHY WE ARE HERE. SO YOU GOT OFF TRACK AND MARRIED THINKING IT WAS THE REAL DEAL. YOU LOVED YOUR CHILDREN PLENTY AND SO NOW BE AN EXAMPLE OF HAVING THE COURAGE TO LOVE. YOU'RE ALWAYS GONNA LOVE YOUR CHILDREN AND THEY ARE ALWAYS GONNA LOVE YOU.

I RECENTLY MET MY SOUL-MATE AND IT FELT JUST AS YOU DESCRIBED. IT'S A DEEP INNER PEACE THAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU ARE WITH YOUR SOUL-MATE AND WHEN YOU ARE NOT IT FEELS LIKE HALF OF YOU IS MISSING. MY SOUL-MATE IS DIVORCING HIS WIFE RIGHT NOW FOR ME AND WE CAN HARDLY WAIT TO MOVE TO OUR NEW HOUSE AND START A WHOLE NEW LIFE TOGETHER. WE DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE IN THIS WORLD. IT'S OUR TIME, AND WE'RE GONNA SMOTHER AND BE SMOTHERED IN EACH OTHERS LOVE, WE'VE ALREADY STARTED SPOILING EACH OTHER ROTTEN. AND WE BELIEVE GOD IS SMILING ON US.

Answer 2

First off what you might be feeling is more like "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" Your marriages are obviously past the honeymoon phase so you are possibly looking to get that feeling back again. Instead of trying to do that with another person why not attempt to get that magic back with the person you married?

Children can tend to "cool" a marriage off but there was something you felt for your spouse at one time - try to get that back and stop looking elsewhere for a forbidden love.

You are a very responsible person by staying with your mate and I must say I respect that decision.

I do believe you can feel those feelings for someone else - I am just a very strong believer in marriage - work on your marriage - for you to look elsewhere just tells me there are troubles that need to be worked on. Good luck hun!

Answer 3

I believe in true love. I believe that everyone has a soul mate. BUt what exactly is true love, it is different for everyone. I think that there is one perfect person but we dont necessarily end up with that person or maybe we dont ever even meet them. So for me that would be my soulmate. I found my soulmate my sophmore year of highschool. I knowsome will say I was too young but I felt what you felt. He completed me, in fact he still does and I still feel that way although it has been five years since we have seen or spoken to eachother(he feels the same by the way). But to me, a true love and a soulmate can be different. What I felt with my soulmate was that he completed me(and for the record I think a soulmate could be a woman too) and what I feel with my husband is that he makes me better but that i need to feel whole by myself before i can feel whole with him if that makes since. I think that a soulmate is exactly what I mentioned but that a true love is someone who helps you be all of you on your own becasue you are with them. it is hard to put across what i want to say but basically i think that your soulmate is someone that you are meant to find one day, but that your one true love is the person that you will be with for the rest of your life. I know i am going on and on but again a soulmate could be a woman also. a friend that you feel completes you. please email me anyone and let me know if i have you all thouroughly confused oh well it made since in my head:)

Answer 4

It's your own fault for getting married at too young an age. If you would have been patient and waited you would have found your real soulmate. But you will probably end up getting a divorce anyways.

Answer 5

It is not difficult to understand that ther is such thing as true love and soulmates. What is difficult to understand, is when people throw away something good, in pursuit of what they believe as newfound TRUE LOVE and SOULMATES.

Answer 6

Please do not imagine i'm being cruel. i'm realy not attempting to be, yet you enable him bypass, and now that is too late. you may want to enable him bypass thoroughly now. holding on to his reminiscence is what's perhaps coming up issues on your marriage. you may want to must have the braveness to stay for now. in case you do not you'll not in any respect realy have a strong courting with all of us. continually keep in mind your brother, yet bypass on. that is what people do. you'll continually keep in mind and love him yet you're nonetheless alive. Do you realy imagine that is what he needed for you? you've a existence now, stay it. enable bypass of Ben and your brother yet save the memories. it would want to help save your marriage.

Answer 7

because divorce occurs more often than love. Because people have broken hearts. Because people just live with pain in their hearts and more than often it is too deep to fix and heal.

Answer 8

Because they have not found it yet. To believe and understand you must experience it first hand

Answer 9

because they have never trully felt true love so they don't know what it is and how it feels