Why are people insane (fustrated) in their private life but in public life they show are normal)?

Question

Private life would be in their home, car, within their family and possibly within their community. Public life is when they are walking and shopping and especially at work. I wan t to know what is their true identity sane (normal) or insane (fustrated)?

Answer 1

People generally trend towards putting their best foot forward in public, and relaxing more around family. It is a matter of comfort and comfort zones.

Answer 2

To show temperament, or any human behaviour that attracts attention may well be construed as some form of insanity; come on! We’ve all been there.
We all are aware that, that what is happening outside of us, is an on going play of whom we represent the players. We want to hide our real feelings in order not to be different, and so we adopt the personae of what we imagine to be ‘normal’ to hide the fact that what really is going on deep inside us, is a seething mass of emotional contradictions often leaving us in a state of been unable to differentiate nor actually select whether to laugh or cry?
And like the weather we have periods when our state of flux is worse than other times. Quite often those considered insane are but a breath away from being a genius, and sometimes, it is enlightening to be out of our heads, for we can often see more clearly our place in heaven and earth?

Answer 3

Codes of behaviour exist both in private and public situations. For every social interaction we engage in we decide to what extent we wish to be an individual and to what extent we wish to be a member of a group.

'If we live completely as an individual pursuing our own interests and taking no account of other people's needs and wishes, we soon become extremely lonely. If we live completely on our own, lacking the checks and balances that other people place on our interpretation of what goes on in the world, we become an extremely idiosyncratic person whom other people regard as odd, even mad. On the other hand if we merge ourselves completely with a group we cease to be the person we are. We become a nothing. Rather than face either of these fates we have to find a balance, day by day, between being an individual and maintaining relationships with other people.'

People don't have a true identity. They are constantly changing and the self as an independent thing with a definite and fixed personality is an illusion.

The question hints at something of a problem in society where people are frustrated. I think so. The problem, for me, is that many people work in jobs where their individuality is markedly restricted.

Just as a dress code or uniform (suit and tie or overalls) is often enforced, so there is a similar code placed on personal expression. Within the home one is usually more free to act how they wish. It's a problem. At work people are not allowed to express anger with colleagues or customers and such anger builds up internally only to be released at home in the family environment.

This frustration may also derive from working in jobs that fail to provide any meaning or outlet for individual expression and fulfilment. Thus the individual may become confused, frustrated and despairing with a life that seems to lack meaning. In some working environments there is an unspoken code which states that the meaning of one's work is to earn money to buy more possessions and work well in order to gain promotion and attain higher social status.

The disparity between the job we do and the activities we do which generate a sense of meaning in our lives ultimately leads to social problems. In terms of work, I think it's advisable to try and find a job which in some way reflects one's individual personality.

Answer 4

That's the social pressure - one HAS to be as "normal" as possible. Everyone is measured on what he earns, what car he's driving and so on.
To be insane is not accepted. Would you employ an insane person ? That's why insanity is hidden untill the worst case happens.
No job, no money, no nice car, no "better" social life ...

Answer 5

Because some of us have been educated not to show our feeling`s in public, which is why when someone does have a breakdown due to not being able to talk about their feeling`s, people are shocked because they were unaware that person was unwell

Answer 6

I don't think you can know "true" identity,,Because i think most people leave their problems and frustration at home,,So they put on the fake smile and go out shopping or something but maybe they're really upset or sad...

Answer 7

There are consequences when you show "insanity" in public. Most of these have got to do with norms and law.

Answer 8

That is what we find in society.We laugh in public place and show happiness and privately we cry. Maodern society is a farce.,a drama you can see without ticket.

Answer 9

They don't share their private life with the outside world, and it is to save face.

Answer 10

we pretend to be normal in public because we don't want other people to know our personal troubles and problems

... to preserve our self image and to protect ourselves from public ridicule