2006-07-06 21:11:26 · 15 answers · asked by crispey_honey 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i meant should the concept be forced upon a girl
2006-07-06 22:11:35 · update #1
there is indeed no confirmed success rate in both the kinds..
2006-07-06 22:20:02 · update #2
I dont think so!
do you want to know why? here goes:
there are millions of youngsters in our country who are brain-fed since the childhood on what to do.. what not to do.. what to wear, what not to wear, what to eat and what not to.. what to speak and what not to..!! well, in a way, they would become so inert to the developments in the world other than their own and they dont have individualities..( i am not saying this happens to everyone.. i am just dwelling over an angle which other answers in this forum have not touched) such people do not know what they want and they would not question things beyond their reach or thoughts.. i mean, they are used to do things the way they are told to.. and they never question why they have to do things a particular way and why not in someother fashion, thus becoming inert!! such individuals need to be guided thru the whole of their life by someone else.. initially the parents, next the life partners.. by chance if both the partners are such inerts, then god knows.. whoever has the better command over the other wins.!! these kind of people as far as i know would not know what kind of partner they would want .. and what to expect from him/her.. now, here the arranged marriage works..!! ofcourse i have written about the worst of the scenario of an individual for whom arranged marriage would work..!!
now coming to any random normal people, the same concept works cos they know what they want from their would-be life partners and are not hesitant in being choosy, be it males/females. how do you think so many marriage beaureus and online matrimonials are thriving if the concept of 'Arranged Marriage' is not working???
the basic principle of these sites is just like shopping.. only you select a person based on his/her profile and then you interact with her and check out the possibilities of compatibility.. if things work out fine.. you proceed or go back to step one. the process repeats until you find the 'right one'. except that there is nothing like 'love' in between them.. initially. current generation has the privilege of rejecting a proposal if they do not think he/she is not worth it. as far as i know, the previous generations dint have the luxury.
bottom line: arranged marriages do work and do have less divorce ratio. they need not be abolished.
on a personal note,(based on my guess) if someone is contemplating on getting you married to someone else on the basis of "arrangement", I guess you should reject the person outright (if you dont like him) without hesitation and let your elders/parents know what you want from your life. Just because something has come upon you shouldn't make you to despise the system. If they are asking you to do it though you dont like it.. you may despise them but not the system.. cos the system allows you to express your views but your parents dont..!! now do u fall in the category I had mentioned at the top of my answer or do u enjoy freedom of choice.. you have to answer it to yourself.
2006-07-10 07:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by casanova_indica 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No as this concept helps many introvert, average looking and timid girls to find their better half. But yes the system should be modified. Not like parents are saying that is the reason the wedding will take place to a particular person but the girl & the guy needs to agree.
2006-07-07 05:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Upal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all say yes because its not an american way of getting married. In some cultures its normal. Though times are changing, in some cultures its disgraceful to marry someone not picked out by the parents. Its a concept that we as americans will never understand, though I am Japanese and my dad is trying to set me up with women. So in a sense I know what its like in a way, I think it sucks but thats because I am a free spirit
2006-07-07 04:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by niceguy4agze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I have deep respect for the CONCEPT of arranged marriages.
The IDEA is to make sure that your son/daughter is married off to someone who comes from a 'good home' and will be a good match for that person.
I know several people who had arranged marriages.
There IS some 'personal freedoms" in the selection process.
In many instances, they find someone on their own that is meeting with approval.
2006-07-07 04:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Comfortably Numb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because arranged marriages have a much lower divorce rate than one based on love. Arranged marriages are usually made between a man and woman who have many things in common. There are no preconceived ideas going in. No BS about "happily ever after".
2006-07-07 04:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, arranged marriages should be abolished because it is the cause of broken families where the victims are the children.
2006-07-07 04:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, especially because of peoples beliefs. Why abolish something that a mass of people believe in?
My boyfriend is a Muslim, and it is common for people in his culture to be arranged, but he still chose who he wants to be with.
Plus, I have noticed that arranged marriages work out quite well.
2006-07-08 15:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Seinfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that statistically arranged marriage has been proved to be more successful than love marriage?
2006-07-07 04:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by life_is_rhythm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Because it is part of a given culture. Western world think they have all the solutions to worlds problem. Well, they don't. Some indigenous cultures prefer to maintain their customs and tradition. It works for them and their cultural tradition. As outsiders, we should LEARN to respect it.
2006-07-07 04:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bu Ang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think it shoule be abolished. Why would a person want to marry somebody they didnt love or choose to love? I think that it is totally wrong.
2006-07-07 10:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋