How do we teach Social Graces to Teenagers?

Answer 1

Teens are people too. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Explain to them what they need to know and why they need to know it. Most of all, remember they are looking to you to be their role model. What you do, they will copy. As long as you approach the situation(s) with humor, you should come out alive. ;)

Answer 2

Don't teach, Instruct.

Once at the teens it becomes difficult, but it is still an ongoing process. At on time sports were part of this work. There was more protocol attached to entering, playing and leaving games.

In the teen years, if they fail in a grace, you can seemingly be viewed as critical if you correct. I think roll playing, debate, acting, and music are involved. Now much missing from our school systems.

Finally if you have a good connection; the real option is to take them aside and point out what they need to do. If they know it's going to make their position better they will respond.

Do not teach but instruct. If you can point out your failures in the same or similar situations so much the better. They are your kids. Chances are they will have your faults.

If you are so hot that you can't point out a similar fault, just use a big general mistake you have made. I know I have never run out of material.

Answer 3

It's a bit late to begin when they are teenagers. Research suggests that people learn core values by the time they reach about 4 years old. In an ideal world (if we could find one) they would learn from childhood how to behave socially - whether you mean dining etiquette, being respectful to adults, opening doors for their elders and so on and so forth. Behaving as a role model for them is very important during this time. Rewarding or praising them when they acquire skills or do something well is really the best way to encourage them. Sadly, if they don't know these basics by the time they are teenagers, it will probably only become something they value themselves if their career depends upon it later on. Otherwise, they may never learn to behave cordially.

Answer 4

Treat them with social graces. Teenagers have to feel respected in order to return respect. If we, as adults, don't model social graces (which I assume to be manners and respectful behavior), how are we providing them with useful examples of the graces they lack?
When we don't listen to them, shut them down, act rude to them and one another-- we are teaching them how to treat us.

Answer 5

It should have started at home, and if you are not their parent or teacher or in a position of responsibility with them, you are basically in a loosing battle. Once they reach the teen years, their behaviour patterns are already well ingrained, and it usually takes some tragic event or something that causes them to have an epiphany to change. The thing to do is raise your own children properly, as you can't change the world, but you can change your own world.

Answer 6

Talk to them very politely. Be friendly with them. Firstly, you have to be a good teacher in front of them. They should love your way of teaching. You think that why somebody would like to listen you. If you were a student how would you like to learn them. If they don't know then don't get angry because nothing will happen by that instead those teens would hate you so talk softly with them.

Answer 7

I don't think that social graces are taught... they're just learned. Don't worry, the teenagers will pick them up!

Answer 8

You start when they are young and just accept that as teenagers they will push the boundaries a little and "forget" the social skills they have already learned.

Answer 9

Social graces can't be taught over night they are taught from birth, all you can do is to apologise to people and let them know you have taught him/her, he/she just refuses to use them,also remember the old saying you can take a horse to water but you can't make him/her drink.

Answer 10

I completely agree with Crowfeather, and would like, if I may, add this one idea: you are unique in the entire history of the Universe--don't blame any imagined faults on others, even your parents. Be yourself and utterly honest. You will succeed!