is it normal?

Question

my fiance is pregnant (3.5 months) she never wants sex and is always tired, and complaining about "pressure" in her abdomen all day. is this normal, the doctor seems kinda stupid, so i cant trust her, she says its from the baby growing so fast. but im not sure...

Answer 1

It is normal,

Many women are not very interested in sex while they are pregnant. Exhaustion, raging hormones, tender breasts and self-consciousness about her growing girth can put a pregnant women’s sex drive on hold. Take heart in the fact that most couples resume an active sex life sometime during the first year of their baby’s life. Some women (slightly more than half) find that they are less interested (or not at all) in sex during pregnancy

There are reasons why sex might not be as pleasurable: fear of hurting the baby, nausea, fatigue, awkwardness, etc.


Hmm.. you did not give too much details, however I must say that obviously hormones play the role:

Yes, the tummy feels different, harder, and a lady can feel body is changing, but at the same time I know couples, (in fact many) who have MORE sex during that period of time as the 'risk' is gone and the lady is pregnant already.

I personally can see two issues here:
1. Your fiance is not feeling to well, she is not married and having a baby, there is alot of guilt on her shoulders
2. Your fiance is not feeling physically well and she is scared she will damage a baby
3. For Your fiance this is her first pregnancy and she done not want anything to go wrong so she looks for excuses: but if you together (living together) she could help you by masturbating you
4. If you dont live together maybe she just decided she needs a break as to stabilize the relationship.. she is already pregnant and has no got her on home: ouch. What else you want from her?? It is you who would need to provide a home (this can be psychological)

Answer 2

yes it's normal. i've went thru 2 pregnancies and the pain is from the baby putting on pressure on her cervix (the bottom of the uterus) so it hurts. her body is going thru so many changes and she's definely not enjoying it. as for the sex, not to offend yoou, but if you need it, you have a hand! :) the baby cannot "grow fast"... i've never heard of this... but the baby does grow a little every week then at the last month or 2 of pregnancy, the baby gains an ounce every week... that's a good thing! good luck with the pregnancy.

Answer 3

YES its normal! How can you not trust a doctor?!?! Are you really that selfish and want to have sex so bad that you will admit to the entire Yahoo! community that you do not trust your doctor so that we can all respond that its not normal to feel this way and therefore you can have sex with your poor fiance who is carrying your baby?!?!
You try having something grow inside of you and see if you feel any pressure or not.

Answer 4

Every woman who's had a period thinks she's an ob/gyn. The vast majority know nothing; they simply rehash "old wives' tales".

It is not "normal" in the sense it is most common; however, it happens frequently enough to not be concerned.

IMO the most likely scenerio: your fiance doesn't feel attractive because she's starting to "get fat". She thinks you just want to "get off" and don't think she's "beautiful"; probably psychological.

In Re: to the Dr. saying, "the baby's growing too..." She doesn't want to deal with the aforementioned BS. It's not her job.

Answer 5

It dosen't feel good anymore when you are pregnant cause you feel sick and tired all the time.
And yes it does hurt to have sex while pregnant well it did me anyhow. We stopped having sex when i was 5 months and didn't start back until 2 months after i had our son..But that is normal. If she dosen't feel like it then don't make her feel bad for it cause pregnancy is a hard thing to go through

Answer 6

Yes. It's very normal. God I remember my stomach and back feeling like it had been ran over by a mack truck. Or a fleet of horses running over my lower stomach. Pregnancy definately has it's woes. Your sex drive lowers, last thing you want to do is be poked, when you're being poked and prodded by a human being inside your nether regions. It's not any reason to be concerned. It's normal and natural. Massage her before any sex happens. Rub her feet, calves, legs, lower back...and softly her lower belly... She may be more apt to give in, if you do.

Answer 7

Not alone the sex part but a women literally wants to be left alone a lot. Me who couldnt fall asleep without my hubby holding me tight needed to sleep in a separate bed from my fourth-fifth month onwards.

Answer 8

IT'S NORMAL, NORMAL FOR HER. SHE IS SENSITIVE AND FEELS SOME BODY CHANGES ALREADY. EVEN IF HER BODY IS JUST THE SLIGHTEST BIT DIFFERENT NOW, IT'S HER PERCEPTION OF PREGNANCY IN GENERAL THAT DETERMINES HOW SHE'S FEELING. MATERNAL INSTINCTS AND FEELINGS COULD BE PLAYING A BIG PART AND THEY ARE TOTALLY OPPOSITE OF SEX SO THAT COULD BE PART WHY SHE'S NOT FEELING SEXUAL. SHE IS GETTING USED TO BEING A MOTHER AND WANTS TO DO A GOOD JOB. SHE'S PROBABLY CONSCIENTIOUS AND TREATS ALL HER JOBS IN LIFE VERY SERIOUSLY. MOTHERHOOD IS A JOB AND ESPECIALLY CHILDBIRTH, CHILDBIRTH IS THE HARDEST JOB A WOMAN WILL EVER DO.

Answer 9

aot of women are different some will want sex others will not its very normal for her to be exausted and moody her hormones are rapidly changing just support her. the first 3 months and last 3 months are the hardest.

Answer 10

lol wow that sounds just like me....some women just lose the feeling or wanting to have sex i know it sux but it something your probably gonna have to live with the whole 9 months....dont worry tho it wont last forever but you should still be there for her no matter what cuz this can be hard on her or even harder on her then on you....good luck