my bff is really whinny what should i do!! i cant take it any more! and i dont want to hurt her feelings!
2006-07-06 19:18:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's probably what you have to do. Walk away. Nobody got time for the pain...and nonsense.
2006-07-06 19:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by bhamphatback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many possibilities about what's going on with her. Life is too short to have a supposed friend who you can't be around anymore, but if you have valued the friend, you might want to find out more about why the sudden change. Use this experience for learning what you like in a friend and tell the friend you're moving on if you discover there's nothing psychologically wrong, or you just don't want to put up with it. Not all people can be therapists for their friends. You might also ask the friend if she realizes she's being whiney; it could be she's going through abuse at home or needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to tell what's really going on. A big change in personality is a sure indication of something drastic going on in her life. I think once you look at all the possibilities, you'll make the right decision, but be fair and put yourself in her position to have empathy. It's funny how what goes around comes back around!
2006-07-07 02:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to fix it without hurting her feelings? Not gonna work. You have to sit down with your bff and tell her that yes, it's okay for her to complain and let out her frustrations with you when she needs to, but not all the time! Just let her know that it bothers you sometimes and you would appreciate it if sometimes she can just, you know, stop. It might help if after you say the bad things, tell her something good about her that makes her feel okay about the situation too. Maybe mention that time she really helped you out with a problem, and how good she is at giving advice. If she's truly your best friend, she'll realize you're not trying to offend her, you're just trying to work out an issue. Good luck! :]
2006-07-07 02:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by babyrooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two things i can think of at the moment you could talk though it wit her c what is bothering like a friend would do and tell her how you feel bout it or number 2 could be say to her i cant be friends with a person who is going to be whinny towards everything and jus walkaway then she might wake up to her self...
2006-07-07 02:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by ditsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, all that comes out of her mouth, is always SOME HOW connected to herself! Yeah I have a best friend like this... Does she have a hard life? What I think you should do is listen to her, you never know what happens behind closed doors! So just be patient with her... Then talk to her about things, ask her how her home life is, and love life... then after she is through talkin about herself, tell her how you feel! Hope all goes well!
2006-07-07 02:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be that your best friend has a problem that she needs to get out of her system. Why don't you ask her to talk about it. Give her the opportunity to drain herself and then maybe she will be different.
Encourage her to talk it out and listen to whatever it is bothering her, I"m sure she will be a much better person afterwards. Your friend will respond better if she knows that you understand and that you sense something is troubling her. Your friend may have deep concerns that she needs to share with a sympathetic ear ( you).
Try this and I"m sure your friendship will last for eternity.
2006-07-07 02:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask yourself what makes this person a best friend? does your friend have honest complaints? friend help friends with other problems and being whiny is a problem in itself, friendship is not always comfortable so if you weigh the value of the friendship and decide it is worth it, you may have to have an uncomfortable talk with your friend. and bff means best friend forever, so if you do not really mean forever then take this as a lesson for your next "bfrn" = best friend for right now
2006-07-07 02:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by jordan_rhett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember this one episode on Southpark where Cartman wanted his mother to bake him a pie. he said to her.
"GO IN THE KITCHEN AND MAKE ME SOME GOD DAMN PIE WOMAN" or something like that. (By the way..i'm not trying to sound offensive here)
Yeah I know that means nothing to you but all I'm saying is this, your best friend, its her choice to be acting like this, and if you choose to let her continue...she will never change. My advice to you is this. You have to stand up to her and tell her how you feel. If she values your opinion and cares for you as a friend then just maybe she would understand.
Hope that helps you out.
2006-07-07 02:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm....interesing.I just got back from my best frineds house and he's always telling me to stop cusin in front of his parents and to stop talking about drugs in front of his lil brother.
But anyhow i'll skip the details and just tell you that maybe it's time that you two ether admit what annoyies each other or to just stop seeing her for awhile.
2006-07-07 02:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by mrnibbles01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, or find a new best friend!! They come cheap, and you can always forget them!
2006-07-07 02:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋