need help with dancing please help?

Question

alright my question is how do i dance? pretty blunt isnt it? well i mean i have an idea on how to dance its just that im scared im not gonna do it right so i dont do it at all. the dancing im talking about is mostly grinding. if me and my girlfriend go to a party or a dance we usually just hang out and sit there except i really want to learn how to dance without being worried of making a fool out of myself. i know she wants to dance its just that she will not without me and i also feel like i am preventing her from having fun. so any suggestions on what to do?? i have done it before but not much and im pretty sure i screwed up. whenever i want my girlfriend to try and help me we usually just end up starting to grind and then just doing sexual stuff so i cant really ask her for help with dancing because we always get carried away lol. but i really want to learn and exspecially that this comming year i am going to be a junior in highschool meaning the junior prom so please help thanks!!

Answer 1

My suggestion to you is to practice together first, either at one of your homes, or in a studio. Just turn on some music and let the beat take your body over. For example, you know when you listening to music in a car and you start moving your head to the beat, or even stomping your foot to that uncontrollable beat? We just let that same inspiration take over the rest of your body. Just let the beat work its way through your body. If you foot starts moving, let your legs and hips move next. Continue this until your whole body is moving. This is also a great date. It does not involve pressure from your friends standing over you. This allows you to develop your own dancing style. Have fun and good luck!

Answer 2

And apart from telling you that well either you have it or you dont or send you to the yellow pages, which in itself does not really help you right now, LISTEN to the music. Let your body express itself to the sound of music. That is what dancing is all about. It is a form of expression. If you two have a slow dance, which all teen proms have, just hold her close and tenderly and just rock slowly to the rythm. Dancing is about fun as well, me and friends invented all our dances! It was fun! You do not have to go ball room dancing on her. No need to go that far. Just be natural. Go with the moment and the flow. RELAX.

Answer 3

You can take a dance lesson or class. Start with hip hop or street dancing. Take the basic it's cool. Yes you're preventing her to have fun and yourself too. And also yes don't ask her to teach you, other person would be fine and an experienced teacher, ok.
Dancing is feeling the music, maybe your feeling her instead of the music. Try to listen to the beat and feel it inside your heart and body. Hope I helped you.

Answer 4

When you and your girl friend are alone try to get some dancing in and if I were you I would tell her your dilemma, women love to take care of men and I'm sure she would be glad to help you out and critic you and help you if your not getting it right, but I'm sure your not half as bad as you think you are!!! Give it a try! Hey if your both bad dancers, y'all just get out there together, have a great time stinking it up as a couple instead of being wall flowers!!!You look more like a dork sitting there than you would if you got up and did anything!!

Answer 5

Yea, it's kind of true that there is no right and wrong to that type of dancing. The worst you can do is stand or sit in a corner instead of getting up and just having fun. I doubt you'll look like a total idiot. You're just afraid that is what will happen. But no one notice, and no one care. I bet if you watch others dance, half of the guys look like idiots. I had a girl friend who was tall and danced like crap, but no one cared b/c she liked to do it and did it anyway. Just do it.

Answer 6

i have been dancing on degree because that i changed into 2 years previous, it quite is 13 years next month. i do not opt to bop, i love it previous each and every thing else. Dancing for me ability.. to be able to stroll out on degree and develop into somebody else and stay somebody else's existence even only for a second. it really is the in ordinary words way you should quite convey feeling. Dancing brings out my favourite area to me. that is a dismal, indignant area with furtive little emotions and an aching opt to sense eye-catching. I word a positive replace in my mood after dancing. I frequently sense happier because by using dancing i am going to launch each and every of the unfavorable feeling from me. I actually were dancing actually because that beforehand i am going to undergo in ideas, and that i will not imagine my existence without it. i'm a sufferer of bipolar disease, and that i placed my coping with this really a lot thoroughly right down to dancing. It has affected my ability to convey so splendidly truly from being thoroughly unable to understand happiness to understanding the thanks to achieve it. Dance facilitates the tips to be freer and extra open to the countless opportunities all of us hear a lot about. I did like the survey plenty, thank-you. :)

Answer 7

On behalf of people with two left feet, I just want to point out something.

The advice to "just listen to the music and move with it" works for most people, but not for everyone. For decades I was a terrible dancer. I got up on the dance floor occasionally and managed to get through a dance or two. But nothing ever felt or looked right. Finally I took some ballroom dancing lessons, where the steps were broken down for me and I could practice them over and over until I got them right. Nowadays I'm a good social ballroom dancer, and I can also dance easily in clubs.

For people like me who just can't seem to get it right no matter how hard they try, I suggest one of the following:

1) Have a friend who is a good dancer demonstrate a couple basic steps and show how they fit together into a routine.

2) Get some mail-order instructional DVDs or videos and study some simple, basic steps from them. These have the advantage that you can pause or play slowly for study, and you can study routines over and over anytime you want.

3) Go to a dance studio and get lessons.

When doing any of these things, don't just learn the steps (the footwork). Study the hip and hand and shoulder movements (the styling) as well. Then practice, practice, practice until the steps start feeling natural. Every night, put on a couple favorite songs and do the steps and routines for 10 minutes. It doesn't take a lot of time, but for people with two left feet it is definitely important to do the practice until it feels natural and then *stay* in practice by doing the steps and routines at least a couple nights a week. You lose the steps quickly if you don't practice them regularly. Practice individual steps, and then string some steps together for a basic routine.

With options 2 and 3 (mail-order DVDs and studio lessons), you may not be able to obtain lessons in exactly the dance you want to learn. But a lot of basic, simple moves are the same in most dances. If you get good at one style of dance, then it's easy to translate the movements and steps over to another style of dance very quickly. So work with whatever's available, get good at it, and then it will be fairly easy to pick up whatever is being danced locally. The main thing is to get some basic steps under your belt in any popular style of dance.

As for mail-order videos and DVDs, I always suggest www.dancevision.com. It's mainly about ballroom dancing, but it also has beginner materials on other styles. I suggest Nightclub Freestyle (bopping in place to fast music) and Nightclub Slow Dancing (swaying in place to slow music). These two are the most basic styles of dance and movement, and the same moves are used in many other dance styles. DanceVision also has beginner material on other types of club dancing such as hip hop, salsa, and nightclub two-step

Links to instructional DVDs:
http://dancevision.com/store/dvds/absolute_beginners/DACD118/
http://dancevision.com/store/dvds/absolute_beginners/DACD119/

Just my two cents, of course.

Answer 8

Best way, search dance studio in your city on yellow page or online. You just need to take some classes and give your confidence up. Everybody learns from ground zero. You will be fine by prom I ensure you.

Answer 9

Today you can do what you wish and no-one really cares.
If you are happy with your dancing..dance away.
If not...go and take some lessons.

How can someone online make a judgement about the way you dance...?????
I can tell you how well I play the trumpet but you cannot judge me till you actually hear me..Same with your dancing..we must be able to see you dance first to make any comment..

Answer 10

Mostly just RELAX, it's not the end of the world if you miss a step. Go to your room, turn on some music you like, stand in front of a mirror if you have one, and just move to the beat. Like others have said, nobody cares if you don't look like JOE COOL, just have fun.