I am 18 years old and reasonably mature. My guy friend has been my pal for about 5 years. My boyfriend of 6 months became his friend about 2 years ago. The three of us hang out a lot, and I enjoy my friend's company. However, he has a problem: He slaps me on the butt almost every time we're together, even in front of my man! I have asked him repeatedly to stop. The first few times, I was polite about it, but he did not stop. So, I got progressively angrier in my tone with him. I tell him every time he does this that it makes me uncomfortable and that it is disrespectful and degrading, and he gets mad at me every time I tell him not to do it. I don't know which is worse, the fact that my friend is disregarding my feelings or that my boyfriend won't interject. How do I make this stop?!
2006-07-06 18:48:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
did your friend of 5 years slap you on the butt before you and your boyfriend of 6 months started going together? or did it start when you started dating your boyfriend? could be that the friend of 5 years is a bit jealous, maybe has some attraction/territory issues with your boyfriend over you. like you're his "property" because he can still slap your *** and get away with it.
does this guy of 5 years have a thing for you? maybe that's why he get so mad when you tell him to stop. your boyfriend may think this guy is just being your ol' buddy and not being possessive toward you.
bottom line: (no pun intended) you set a boundary. you gotta enforce the boundary and enforce the consequences. but you have to decide how much you're gonna put up with and what your consequences are. this is your battle, not your boyfriend's.
2006-07-06 19:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by fabulousisjane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really bad that your boyfriend is not sticking up for you...Tell your guy friend that if he does it again, you will call the police and have him charged with 4th degree sexual assault. Tell him you've asked him to stop and if he continues, you will no longer be his friend. Why is he doing this to you and why doesn't your boyfriend say anything?
2006-07-07 01:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, perfect jealousy feuled story here. Dont hang with him anymore. He is no longer your friend; he wants to get what's under those pants (thats where the constant *** touching comes in). Since his friend hooked with you, he's probably been fantisizing for those past 2 years to get with you as well.
2006-07-07 01:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Phillip R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the next time he slaps it you are going to slap him in the dick and see how he likes it make sure your boy friend is there just in case but if you do hit him hard hell stop trust me it hurts even if its soft
2006-07-07 01:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IS UP WITH YOUR BF? I MEAN WHAT THE HELL DOESN'T HE KNOW OR SEE THAT IT PISSES YOU OFF? AND HE STILL DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING? YOU REALLY DO NEED TO TALK TO YOUR BF CUZ THAT'S NOT COOL. TELL HIM TO BE A MAN AND STAND UP FOR YOU! WTF?
I'M PISSED OFF ABOUT YOUR BF, BUT I'M GONNA TAKE A BREAK ON THAT FAT HEAD TO ADDRESS YOUR FRIEND. IF IT IS UPSETTING TO YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CONTINUES TO DISRESPECT YOU THEN YOU NEED TO TELL HIM WHEN HE DOES IT AGAIN:
OKAY DUDE THAT'S IT. I'VE ASKED YOU ON NUMEROUS OCCASSIONS TO STOP TOUCHING ME AND STOP BEING DISRESPECTFUL. YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. I'M TIRED OF IT. SO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU AND ME WE'RE NOT COOL. I REFUSE TO HANG OUT WITH YOU AGAIN UNTIL YOU CAN LEARN HOW TO RESPECT ME AS A WOMAN AND AS YOUR FRIEND.
AND THEN YOU WALK AWAY GIRL AND DON'T LOOK BACK. I'D LEAVE YOUR DAMN BF THERE TOO! UGH. AND JUST TO LET YOU KNOW WHICH IS WORSE SWEETHEART! YOUR BF NOT SAYING ANYTHING IS WORSE! IT IS! IT'S WORSE CUZ YOUR FRIEND IS JUST A HORSES A$$ THAT CAN'T KEEP HIS HANDS TO HIMSELF!
YOUR BF IS WORSE CUZ HE'S A DAMN WUSS WHO CAN'T STAND UP FOR HIS WOMAN! I'M NOT FREAKING SAYING START A FREAKING FIGHT BUT DAMN IT! GROW A SET OF NUTS DUDE AND TELL YOUR DAMN FRIEND TO KEEP HIS HANDS OFF YOUR WOMANS A$$!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE.
2006-07-07 01:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a baseball bat to him, tell him if he touches your behind one more time, your going to play baseball with his head. If your boyfriend loved you, he would say something to your friend.I would tell your boyfriend that if he loved you so much, why don't he stick up for you?
2006-07-07 01:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are behaving badly.
Better get this friend out of your sight and then see how yr man behaves.
2006-07-07 01:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cant respect you and what you say... maybe hes not the kind of person you should be friends with. maybe you should stay away from him. if he asks why, tell him. dont let guys treat you like that.
2006-07-07 02:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing something like that to him in front of his girlfiend, or if he doesn't have one, in front of whoever he has, so they will ask why. Then tell them what you told us.
2006-07-07 01:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He slaps backside you slap face!
2006-07-07 01:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by icedragon1420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋