I am wondering if when a gay female hits on a straight female she is more cautious about it. For example, would she sort of make hints to test things out... as compared to when flirting with another gay woman she would be more forward or obvious with it? What do you think? Please only answer if you have insight & understand the question. Many Thanks...
2006-07-06 18:31:14 · 16 answers · asked by urbanbutterfly 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honestly I am not trying to stereotype. I am just curious as to what people think. I really dont want to offend anyone, sorry if I did...
2006-07-06 18:39:27 · update #1
Well fist off not all lesbians have a good gaydar (ability to tell who's gay/strait). So if we can tell the girl is strait there is really no reason to chase her. Some lesbians do chase strait girls and try to "turn" them which usually turns the strait girl's life upside down which isn't fair. So cautious... no, loose interest... depends on the lez. Most lesbians... as far as I know have gaydar but the ones who don't miserably test the waters then make a move and just see what happens.
2006-07-06 18:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 0⤋
Gay men allowed? If I KNOW a guy's gay, or if I'm pretty sure (aka: in a gay bar, he's not necessarily, but he probably is, and if he's not he's anyways not going to be offended), yeah, I'll be a little less subtle. But, then, if I'm not sure about a guy, I wouldn't say I necessarily "hit on him" until I know (though I will start looking for signs that he might be gay; they're secret and I'll never tell :P).
If I KNOW a guy is straight, he's off my radar, regardless of my attractions or feelings for him, because that's a pointless persuit and will only make him uncomfortable and me unhappy.
2006-07-07 18:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay women generally don't hit on straight women. Unless they're masochistic or just foolish. It's a great mistake to think that gay women or gay men go after straight folks - why would anyone want to aim for someone who's not interested? What a colossal waste of time and energy!
2006-07-07 03:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by marshnewby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm naturally shy and I don;t want to offend a straight woman especially if I think she is attractive. Usually, I ALWAYS proceed with caution. You feel out how comfortable a person is and get to know them. A lot of straight women would flirt with me, not intending anything more than just flirting, That's cool. a lot were intending on it. I usually would wait until I know exactly what THEIR intentions are, then continue in the direction they were leading me to.
2006-07-07 12:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm in a gay bar, I hit on anybody I think is worth my time. I'm a blatant flirt, and I like to charm. If a woman happens to be straight, I apologize, give her a wink, and go on my way. I'm getting more and more confident now, whereas I used to be painfully shy. If I know for a fact a girl is gay/bi, then yes, I'm more open in my flirting. But if I'm trying to figure it out, then I might be a little more subtle.
2006-07-07 02:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't hit on a straight female, but I imagine there are lesbians out there who would consider it as a challenge. If I was attracted to a girl but unsure of her sexuality, however, I would definitely approach her with more caution than I would a girl who I knew to be lesbian. The reasons for this would be that I wouldn't want to embarrass myself and/or her, or make her feel uncomfortable in any way. I would need to feel fairly confident that she wasn't going to throw a drink in my face if I made an advance, so yeah, I would suss out her intentions before making any moves!
2006-07-07 02:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by moo71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cautious when flirting with any lesbian. That way it's easy to back down if it wasn't reciprocated.
So this person may not know that the woman she is flirting with is straight, or may think she is bi..whatever...I can't say what someone else is thinking.
I can say no one likes to get shut down..so she may just be seeing if that female is interested.
2006-07-07 01:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by yikes_its_a_humdinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay..I am a straight female, I came to be friends with a Bi female, who was living with a guy at the time I met her, eventually, she told me she was gay, and yes, she did, gently, over time, make advances to me, but in settle ways. She was more verbal about how she really wanted us to be more than friends. It took a long time for her to accept that I wanted nothing more than her friendship. It was a long time ago, but I will always remember her,( she opted out of my life and our friendship without a word), and I still wonder whatever happened to her.
2006-07-07 02:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by DivinePath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are a lot more cautious when flirting with a straight woman. They're afraid to scare her off or get rejected.
2006-07-07 10:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by perfect.enemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that if she knew she was straight, and still wanted to see if she would even consider it that she would make hint to test it out to make sure she didn't upset her in the process, but mainly if she did hit on her she probably thought she might be gay.. in my experience straight girls flirted with me more than i did them, or atleast i thought they were straight, they never wanted to do anything when they really got into flirting with me. they just like the fact that they knew that i thought they were attractive and that i would treat them nice and sex didn't have to be involved
2006-07-07 09:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by truthbear1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋