My Gf's dad discovered she was a lesbian and was dating me (Myspace! lol). He's never accepted the fact she's a lesbian, but as of late he seems to be more accepting. The only thing is though, he has been telling her things that she tells me that hurt..alot!
He told her he'd rather see her with some other girl (her friend, who is SUPER DYKEY no offense!) because she has a nice face, and is cool and is nice to look at. Theres been a few other things hes said. Ive never met the guy, but i've met her mom and she doesnt seem to mind me much. Im not a bad kid, nor a trouble maker, and I love his daughter deeply. I like her sisters too, I mean i get along with the rest of his family but him!
I dont know if im over-reacting, but what should I do?
2006-07-06 18:07:49 · 14 answers · asked by Marki 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had a similar problem with my gf's father when we first started dating. I am the first female she's ever been with (hopefully the only lol) and he despised me in the beginning. There were issues that came up with some friends of hers and he basically just thought I was a bad influence. (however I wasn't). He said he accepted her wanting to be with girls but why me? etc. She told him look, this is who I care about, I want you in OUR life, but if you can;t accept that I am sorry. This is my choice. Then he actually got to know me, and now they love me to death. I'm one of the family. Her parents have been there for me at times when my own family wasn't. They are wonderful. My point is....first if you really care about each other, make that known. And she needs to be firm about that. Second don;t hold it against him, he may have a misconception about you that can be rectified by #3. get to know him and vice versa. Let him see the real you and that you truly have the best interest in mind for his daughter. I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out well. Even if he doesn;t come around, don't get mad about it. Be supportive. That way he could never say that YOU came between he and his daughter. :D
2006-07-07 08:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by scorp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like "Daddy" isn't interested in his daughter's feelings at all. He may have resigned to the fact that she is gay but it sounds like he wants her to hook up with someone that HE finds attractive for reasons that I'm sure he will keep long-hidden in his own mind. Pay no attention to what he wants or thinks is best for her. It's not about him. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and relationships. People who need "approval" from others to determine their happiness will never find it. Good luck dear!
2006-07-06 18:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Doc W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never met him - maybe you should. Give him time to get to know you and I'll bet he'll stop the ad hoc matchmaking. Maybe getting him and mom involved in PFlag would help them to both understand where you and GF are coming from - and maybe they'd be more supportive.
2006-07-06 21:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by marshnewby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just assosiating u with finding out his daughter was gay-its got nothing to do with you as a person as he's never met u. Ur not over reacting tho- cos ur just feeling that he's being/making personal comments about u but as i said u've never met.
And to be honest he wouldnt be happier seeing his daughter with any other girl-its just gonna take time for him. be good if ur gf puts in good words for u aswell.
he'll come around.
hope it goes well :)
2006-07-06 18:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOnt worry about his dad, if res tof family likes you than DAD is no worry, there are lot of poeple this world who are really frak'n troublemakers.
Dont give a dam to his dad and live happly with your GF.
2006-07-06 18:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fishi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you two love eachother then whatever you know there is nothing that can stop the two of you from being together. Im kind of in the same situation but im in the shoes as your g/f and its with my boyfriend. but anyway really no one can stop you who you can love, its his fault he hasn't started to get to know you. So whenever you get a chance prove to him your daughter is safe with you and that there is no way that you would want to loose her
2006-07-06 18:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerNator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on how old ya'll are. The Dad may just not like you because you were the gal she was with when he found out. He may think it is a faze or your taking advantage of her you know "making her gay" who knows? good luck with that
2006-07-06 19:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by kcpanama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't your genuine father. Our Lord Jesus is. i'm very sorry you've a propose father and boy even as he meets the Lord even as he dies he extra acceptable seem out. God could have him pay the outcomes. you want to communicate along with your mom and on your college counselor about it. you won't be able to cope with this on my own. i'd even call Social amenities once you may want to. call youngster Hotlines. they could handbook you.
2016-10-14 05:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him and let him get to know you. If he don't accept you then, at least you tried and then you can tie him up on a railroad track. Just kidding about the last part. hehehe just trying to get you to smile..........
2006-07-06 18:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not hate you. He is probably not going to accept anyone for a while. Hell, if she just came out to him he probably still thinks it is just a "stage' she is going through, takes them a while to see this "stage" as who we really are and accept it.
2006-07-06 18:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by phaz7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋