Should I be worried he'll do it again?

Question

Two months ago, my husband and I seperated briefly. We've completely reconnected, but during that time, he slept once with a girl he knows. He's cut off all ties with her and I trust him not to do it again, but I still find myself worrying and being paranoid. Should I be worried he'll do it again with someone else?

More details: We were in a bad place emotionally and sexually. That's fixed now and we're very open. Also, I know all the details already and we've been very open about it. He admits full guilt and says it was completely wrong

Answer 1

Hard to say with out truely knowing your husband, but the good thing is, it was during a seperation, not while u were still together, so that is a plus cause although tech. you were still married at the time u obviously at that time werent living as man and wife.. and he seems to have come clean about the situation.. so thats also a plus.. i know its hard to get over for sure, but id say just by the little u've told us, that i think u shouldnt worry, unless u are seperated..again.. but i would make it very well known that if that happens again that its definately over..

Good luck ..

Answer 2

If you are still worrying and being paranoid, you don't trust him. I would suggest marraige counseling and individual counseling to help you get through his infidlity. You always take a chance with a cheater. If he doesn't do it again, you'll always wonder when? If he does, you'll think, I was right, he did it again. I would talk to my husband and find out why he thought it was ok to cheat in the first place. You were seperated, that doesn't give him the ok to look for sex somewhere else. There were no Divorce papers.

Answer 3

I dont think so because you were separated at the time (not because he cheated?) and he was probably just trying to get over you.. Most men think totally differently about sex then women when they arnt married or in a serious relationship, like the kind of easy, nasty sex he had with that other woman. Just keep all lines of communication open and let him know how you feel. You cant be paranoid though its not good for your health.. really, I'm serious!

Good luck and I'm glad that you are back with him I'm sure it will work out this time

Answer 4

This is a tough one. Me personally in this situation... He shouldn't have done anything unless you two were legally seperated and the fact that he did it, means that he didn't care to make your marriage work. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't have even ever talked to her ever again, unless their were kids involved. But I'm a no BS kind of guy, so maybe I might be giving you a critical answer.

Answer 5

if u know that ur husband is truely truthful then no he wont do it again! but actually he shouldnt have done it in the first place! When guys do that it means that they're losing intrest or they just want to have sex! Maybe he isnt the one for u...u need a man that u can REALLY trust and wont be paranoid or worried that he'll do somethin! so i think that maybe ur husband is really goin to do it! but this is just wat i think u might have a different opinion...soooo thats all i got to say!

Answer 6

hi Hun
to tell you the truth you have to have trust if you have fears things are going to go wrong i would rethink about everything you cant spend your life saying what if
you have got to sit and tell him your worries and try and forgive him because you may think you have forgave him but deep down you more than lightly haven't
maybe sitting chatting to a councilor may help you
you could keep that to your self you have not got to tell him you have seen someone
about your fears
have you got a really close friend you could talk to if you wouldn't want to go see a councilor ?
i wish you every luck in the world to sort your problem out
respect
shaz

Answer 7

I experienced the same thing a few years ago. My husband had an affair when we were separated for a few weeks...We went back together and I tried to forget about the affair...I also worried about it happening again...I was worrying so much that I couldn't think straight...I just couldn't forget about it...We finally divorced and went our separate ways..

Answer 8

Make sure you keep an eye out for any signs that he did. Dont go TOO deep but just make sure that you keep a perked eye out for things that could tell you he was doing something he shouldnt have done.


Or you can talk to him, and tell him about what you know and how you feel about it and him for doing it. Remind him that you love him and that he shouldnt be sleeping with other women.

Answer 9

Any man will do it again and again when ever he gets chance. Dont be in fools world. What you need to do is that make sure he does not get chance. Thats it.

If chance is given, i would too like to fall in love with every girl on earth, but no chance so , u know men and we dont know women.

Answer 10

By you saying that you trust your Husband but you're still worried that he'll do it again, you're totally contradicting yourself. If you trust him, trust him.... You'll only worry yourself sick. If he shows signs of deception, deception that leads to acute paranoia, then by all means be a Columbo.