I'm married, and i love my husband. Let me get to the point. I think i'm gay. I have throughts, about woman. All the time. I've had a relationship with a girl, but it was non-sexual. I need to know if i am. I just might be bisexual. I don't think so. I like the company of a woman more, than with a man. Someone help me! Be nice, i won't allow rude comments! Thanks!
2006-07-06
18:02:41
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My husband, does of me dating a woman. He knows all about it. I don't want a 3some! I really think i want a woman!
2006-07-06
18:08:11 ·
update #1
I DON'T WANT A 3SOME! I do, have real feelings for a woman. I want to be with a woman. I haven't felt, so strongly about anything in my life. I've just been scared to sleep with one.
2006-07-06
18:31:37 ·
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There is something about being with a woman intimately and I don't mean sexually...but just being close and personal that is very different from that with a man. There are somewomen that really enjoy and desire that feeling in the same way they desire the companionship of a man. Women understand women better and can relate on levels that sometimes men can't. The only way to determine if you are gay or bisexual would be if you actually enjoy physical intimacy with a woman as much as you do with a man or more. Personally you should explore what about this other woman made you feel the way you do. Specifics..Now however because you are married If your feelings toward your husband have changed or your desire for him then that is a different story and would actually mean you want to be with someone else because you are not happy in your marriage regardlessto if they are male or female. Talk with your husband about what you aregoing through if he loves you he will want to know and help you discover your answers. Then you need to ask your self how much you value your marriage. Unfortunately being with anyone other than your husband can cause a problem in your marriage especially if you do sleep with them because whether they be male or female it is still considered outside of your marriage. However some men like the idea of their wife being with a woman and even them being with the woman to some do not. That's something the two of you will have to discover. If you are totally set against that idea then you may have already discovered your answer and are just to afraid to accept what you've discovered. I discovered that I like being with women as well but I also love my husband very much. The idea of me being with a woman does not bother him because I include him in every way...if I spend time with her I tell him about everything...if we are intimate he has the option of participating... but there were many things we had to discuss and deal with before we arrived at that point. This iss what works for us and adds more excitement to our marriage. hope this helps.
2006-07-06 18:45:31
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answered by missconduct 2
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I think if you went all out...and you made every last attempt to make sure that your attraction to your husband and men in general is wilting...then and only then should you bring your man into this..it could be a phase...it could be something in the water...ya know? a bad week or stress or who knows..but try and figure it out..pray even for strength to love him more! it all depends on how you feel or how much you want to remain married to him..but do everything in your power to make sure of this choice..because devastation is what he will feel...and a divorce will happen just as quick..
2006-07-07 01:11:16
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answered by juanes addicion 6
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I find myself attarcted to women all the time. i am more attracted to the female body than the male, and I fantasize about t all the time. But I know for a fact I'm not gay. I think it's perfectly normal for women to be attracted to each other and to maintain healthy heterosexual relationships (married for 2 years:) If you're really worried about it, though, and you don't want a threesome, I would recommend talking to a sex counselor before you make any rash moves and make your husband worry.
2006-07-07 01:12:27
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answered by seven37us 2
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Maybe you just feel like you bond better with women. women know how to make each other feel good in a non sexual intimate way. This doesn't mean you are gay. It sounds like you just aren't emotionally satisfied by your husband. I would think about that and then try to talk to him about any ares you are feeling neglected. You are obviously lacking something in your marriage weather it be emotionally, sexually or even appreciation
2006-07-07 01:10:27
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answered by Anonymous
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I like woman company more too, because i feel safe, the guys may take advantage of me, and I don't want my husband to worry, so i like have female friends more, but i don't think my female friends sexually. i don't know your reason, if you think of them sexually all the time, you might be bisexual.
2006-07-07 01:10:33
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answered by Discovery 5
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I would suppose if you dont really hate being with men you are bi sexual, watch some threeway porn with your husband including two girls and a guy and then ask him what he thinks about it, maybe he would like to join in or watch , most men like to watch it and most would like to join in . I know of people who actually have a permanant threeway situation. they share each other and the household jobs and it can work out sometimes and sometimes there is jealousy.
2006-07-07 01:07:54
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answered by Anonymous
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First off...share your feelings with your husband if you love him. Explain to him and allow him to be a part of your feelings/desires.
2006-07-07 01:05:57
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answered by dooders90 3
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Are you IN love with your husband? Maybe it's just plain curiosity? I think you should be honest with your husband. First and foremost.
2006-07-07 01:06:27
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answered by Misty B 2
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Its ok. Go ahead. Invite her for three some. Its ok. Beware that ur husband may fall for her too. So be careful.
2006-07-07 01:17:12
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answered by Anonymous
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listen, you can have fun wit dis!! im sure your husband wont mind a three-some, RIGHT??? so bring up the idea at a good time {like after you have sex and you guys are chillin}. trust me, when i told my boyfriend i was bisexual, he was anything but mad!!! and it may bring more fun in your marrage!!!
2006-07-07 01:12:25
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answered by Anonymous
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