If someone passes away for example, is "closure" just a way to not feel guilty for not feeling as bad anymore?
2006-07-06 17:53:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I don't understand this word "closure" and don't use it. Because my brother died in a tragic way ten years ago, there was never a day when I said to myself "oh, I have closure now, so I can forget and move on". Of course you never forget. Over time though, the loss becomes just part of your life, not a great overwhelming shadow. You think back on happy times with that person more than on how it ended. And life does go on. It fills up with new experiences, new friends, new adventures. There is never any reason to feel guilty about not staying stuck in the past. Life is for living.
2006-07-06 18:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Closure to me is the generally accepted end of an event or period of time. Some would therefore use the word to mean the end of the emotional experience attached to that event. That becomes problematic for most people, because the fact that a death or trauma is in the past does not take away the emotional effect. The concept of closure could then make the person feel worse by proscribing for them what is or isn't appropriate in terms of their grief.
2006-07-07 03:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there really closure after losing a loved one? I think the pain diminishes with time, but never really goes away. I would associate closure more with a loss of someone who was previously missing, and then found murdered or had passed on without the mourner's awareness. Once they find out the truth, then they can begin to go through the mourning process...I hope this makes sense. I'll read it again when I'm not so tired...
2006-07-06 17:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read up on the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in South Africa. That's a perfect attempt at finding "closure" on a large scale.
I think it is relative, in that one person's definition of closure in light of a particular event is different from another person's definition of closure in light of that same event. So, yes, I think it's just an individual's way of doing away with any guilt or pain associated with a particular moment.
It gets interesting though, when you think of closure beyond what it means for an individual, and this is why I mentioned South Africa. Here we have a nation trying to come to terms with its horrific past in such a way that redefines its national identity, all the while, there are South Africans who are not getting the closure they need via this truth and reconciliation process.
2006-07-06 18:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by nava_clue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think closure is good for you. It is not so much a way of feeling less guilty, but it is a way to move on. Sometimes you need closure for something that someone else did wrong. It is sort of like a double-check on your emotions. Sometimes you will feel a certain way, and in order to justify or disprove the way you feel, you will try and get closure.
2006-07-06 17:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by newsblews361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Closure is definitely a real thing.
Ask any parent who's child was kidnapped. As hard as it is for them to get the call that their child's body was found, they no longer have to worry if their child is scared and crying or being abused. They may continue to blame themselves (warranted or not) for the kidnapping but they now have peace of mind as to the fate of the child.
Ask any family of those missing in action from the Viet Nam conflict (or any other war). Is their family member still alive and being tortured? Once a family gets the call telling them that the remains of their loved on have been found, they feel a sense of closure. When they get to have a funeral and bury the remains, they feel like they brought their loved one home to rest in peace. There was no guilt on their part but now they have closure.
2006-07-06 18:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Closure is knowing that you didn't leave something unsaid or undone that nags at you when you can no longer get that closure.
It's a real thing in some people's lives and the loss of closure can profoundly affect them.
Sometimes we all need the peace that closure provides.
2006-07-06 17:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by KERMIT M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human mind seeks emotional stability. When an event happens that causes you to have an emotional reaction, your logical mind begins to seek answers or solutions to fix the event. This very act cause the brain to manufacture various chemicals that can cause the feeling of pain or other emotions. Closure is simply the final answer to many of the unanswered questions your mind is seeking and in turn, returns the mind toward emotional stability making you feel better
2006-07-06 18:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dutchhall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah it's BS.
you will Always be affected. It's a form of denial to think you can "be done" with the memory of a person or event. It's something really miserable people do to stop a profusion of bad feeling. They wail on the casket, seek "answers" to why they were brutalized, confront their oppressor.. search for redemption, justice, revenge, meaning.. But if you ever find such a thing.. I guarantee it's arbitrary, an artificial object of catharsis. Nothing will be the same, you have to just COPE with that.
2006-07-06 18:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by -.- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Closure is real and not an excuse. It is acceptance of the way things are.
2006-07-06 17:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by buzzman_hst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋