I feel bad, I so WANT to want to have sex, but I just would rather not. I used to be pretty normal, and I thought it might have something to do with my birth control, but I've changed it several times, and hasn't increased in about two years. Anyone else dealing with this? I've heard of women who nurse, or specific birth control issues, but nothing generalized...
2006-07-06 17:50:56 · 29 answers · asked by fireangel_92682 3 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Biology
seriously, this is a valid subject. I'm lucky that my husband supports me. I think I've been getting better recently, so critism isn't wanted if it's not going to be helpful.
2006-07-06 17:57:26 · update #1
A friend of mine received testosterone injections which worked really well for her....and her husband. This was given and supervised by a gynecologist.
2006-07-19 08:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of women suffer a decrease in libido when on ANY birth-control. Cosmo suggests, masturbation. However, anything that stimulated and sent blood flow to the area, would increase libido. Also, when having sex or masturbating, focus on the orgasm. This will cause you to crave that feeling.
Another thing that might help is to try some new things. Try bringing toys into the action. Try new places, positions, etc... Try to just surprise him by jumping on him when he walks in the door. That should get you both going.
My wife has been on birth control for 3 years now. We are just figuring out some of this. All of these have worked for us. One other thing...only for the more adventurous. Try having normal cowgirl sex, then switching to anal in the same position(use lube), and using a vibrator on the clitoris. That should send you through the roof.
2006-07-07 01:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ice_Man_VL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you. Its normal to become more horny during the ages 13-24. and its normal to stay horny a lot longer then 24.
It could be many things but I sometimes masturbate 3 times a day. I have only had sex a few times and each time it was great and I did not half to fake an orgasm at all witch was my worst fear well that and baby's.
But its also normal not to horny at all. and it will probably change overtime and stress is a major factor.
2006-07-07 00:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like chronic depression to me. Or boredom, which is much the same. I'd recommend a GP, psychiatrist, or psychologist, and give yourself some time. After all you'd see a doctor if you broke your leg. Feeling bad is not a good reason to have sex. It's likely only to make you feel worse. Sex is a celebration, or nothing. So until you feel good about yourself, and have someone else you also feel good about, it's no help.
2006-07-07 01:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term is asexual. There are several support groups for this. They are people woth little or no sex drive and people that want to stop thinking of sex. Look it up. There is probably even a Yahoo group devoted to the subject.
2006-07-07 00:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Joe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you are going through is so completely normal in today's society. I have been there, I know. You may need to see your doctor to rule out and physical problems. have you ever had an orgasm? if you haven't, that could definitely effect your desire for sex entirely.You are not alone. I would talk to your OBGYN and see what you can do to help yourself and help improve your sex drive. Sometimes a book on how to please yourself sexually can do the trick and get you back on track again. Good luck!
2006-07-07 00:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what your faith is, but christians believe that God gives various gifts to different people. One of them is referred to in contemporary society as the gift of singleness. It is assumed that the lowering of sexual desire is so that the individual can enjoy a far greater freedom to do bigger and greater works for the church without the pull toward the opposite sex. Originally only people of this particular gifting where called to be nuns or priests in the catholic church. Then they kinda went of track by making it mandatory. So they ended up with a church full of clergy still struggling with sexual desire and then centuries later countless lawsuits from individuals who where abused as children because of this misguided suppression of the sex drive.
Anyhow, point is, see if God is calling you to greater things in your life. This might be his gift for you.
2006-07-19 21:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being completely annoyed with the rest of the human race and not wanting to touch any of them?
I'm not sure if that's yer problem, I know it's not mine, but I have the same issue, I'm just fine with it :D
Be yerself, live how ya want, and don't let anyone tell ya how to do yer thing.
2006-07-07 00:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frigidity
2006-07-07 00:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Thermo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're going through is normal.
You say you want to want to have sex, but you just don't. You're just not ready or haven't found the right guy yet. I wouldn't worry, there's nothing wrong with you.
2006-07-07 00:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋