i have a friend and she is is so annoying sometimes and her mom and dad r great friends wit my mom and dad. and i want to tell her that she is really being annoying. how do i tell her that without her getting mad? And my mom and dad will find out and i'll prolly get in trouble and they will take it the wrong way!
2006-07-06 17:42:49 · 10 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's no way to do it without anyone getting offended. Talk to your parents first, and drop subtle hints to the girl about the annoying things she does. Good luck.
2006-07-06 17:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be in the way you phrase things. Instead of saying, "You're annoying," you could say, "It makes me uncomfortable when you [whatever it is she does]," or, "I have a very high sensitivity to [whatever it is she's doing] and it makes me feel stressful; would you mind toning it down when I'm around you?"
You could point out any positive attributes she has to temper the blow, since people generally get weird and defensive when you ask them to change their behavior. So it could go something like this: "You know, [her name], you are really friendly and I like your smile. I think you'd make even more friends, though, if you stopped [doing whatever it is she does that bugs you]. What do you think?"
It's all about your own grace, and preserving her dignity. Also, it could take some time. She may never change, but I think you have a better chance of encouraging her to change by being gentle and kind yourself--instead of ham-fistedly blurting out that she is a pain in the ***.
2006-07-07 00:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend the same way and I just told her. that's all. i laugh it off and tell her i love her anyway, but i didn't make a big production out of it, or a big serious talk, i just mentioned it. she was fine with it and told me some annoying things about me too...we are still friends today
2006-07-07 00:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by cheesey :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she tries to be annoying or is she unaware of how she comes across sometimes. This way you can express your feelings and give her an out at the same time.
2006-07-07 00:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents first that you find this girl annoying and explain why. you cant just go and tell your friend that you find her annoying! maybe tell her next time she does something you dont like, say so
2006-07-07 00:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if u tell ur parents what shes been doin theyll understand and for your friend just come out and tell her nicely to stop what shes doing im sure shell understand and if u guys fight about it ull become friends again in no time
2006-07-07 00:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, there is nothing wrong with telling someone, calmly and in private, that they are being annoying. I do it all the time!!
2006-07-07 00:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest, but do in a friendly way so she understand that u dont want to jepordize yall friendship
2006-07-07 00:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by againstallodds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a trip to band camp with her as your bunk-mate.
2006-07-07 00:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom... she will help you word it right... just explain to your mom what is happening she will help....
2006-07-07 00:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by luv2lysalittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋