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Im 17 and im pregnant, i was just wanting to know if your a parent how would you like your 17 year old teenager to tell you? please dont be rude about it ... i just really would like to know.
::about me::: ( turning 18 in a few months..a-b student) (24 on acts) (plans to go to college)

2006-07-06 17:30:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

27 answers

If my daughter came home at 17 and told me she was pregnant...being a mother, I would have to support her decision. There isn't anything you can do now...I would never tell my child to have an abortion because no matter what a baby is a baby. Adoption...probably not I wouldnt want one of my own out there with someone else. You can stil go to school and be a mother, It will be hard, but there are teens that do it everyday and survive. I am a mother of 3 and when you are a mother you have unconditional love for your children no matter what they do in life, right or wrong. Good luck to you

2006-07-06 17:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First of all Girl whats going through your head? I'm not being rude Just a Parent. If I were you I would wait for the Proper, time and have all my thoughts, and ideas for the future of my child and myself in order.(not am easy task) secondly Get ready for some anger from your parents(righfully so) after the screaming stops (maybe you will get lucky and there will be no screaming) Sit down and Logically discuss what the hell you are going to do. Apparently in the beginning your parents are going to be TOTALLY responsobile for there grandchild. Also just to let you know unprotected SEX is to say the least, DANGEROUS(you could DIE for a little FUN?AIDS) secondly You are a Baby having a baby-yes you are not an adult YET BUT you will grow up FAST now. Good luck with your new baby. Be patient with your parents. This is a GIGANTIC shock and now they also have decisions to make about themselves, you and your babies future. By the way CONGRATULATIONS. Make a Beautiful Future for your new baby. the baby is completely Innocent and should never be under any stress because of an inadvertent loss of Judgement on your part. Hopefully the father will be part of this babys life also. one more thing go to the website dr. Phil.com he did a 6 month show about EXACTLY what you are about to go through God bless You your parents and most of all your new baby

2006-07-07 00:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by HENNY 1 · 0 0

Sit down with them at a time of day that they aren't caught up in a million things already, so they have time to listen to you and make sure they are calm when you tell them. Talk to them like a real person - no matter what you decide to do with news in relation to the result it brings (a baby) you are going to have to do a LOT of growing up in a very short period of time and your parents are likely going to have a lot of extra work on their own plates as a result.

Try and respect whatever reaction they give you. Might even be best to tell your mom first, I know it would be for me (I was 19 when I got pregnant - 21 now). They could be really shocked and upset at first - especially dad - hence why I say try telling mom first. Whoever the father is, you're gong to need to evaluate this relationship. Is he responsible? Does he work? Does he want to stay with you? Does he want to take care of you, live with you, be involved in yours and this baby's life in the future? Your plans of school and future will probably be drastically changed if you keep this baby but regardless - you need a lot of support. You are going to need your parents a lot so try and remain calm and let them get through the shock - you are still their baby and its a hard thing for a parent to know their baby is about to undergo one hell of a train ride (and even you probably dont really realize the impact of this - it will come over time)
I hope all goes well.

2006-07-07 00:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa N 4 · 0 0

just lay it down. i hope u do well l8r. im only 13 and already i no that 17 is 2 young 4 a child in your life. u r spending 18 years with a child from now till their 18th b-day. thats 18 years that you can finish school, go to college, get a job then meet a guy and maybe settle down w/ a family. but if i were ur parents i would want u 2 just tell me that ur pregnant.

2006-07-07 01:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0 0

I was a mother at 17 and the easiest way to tell my parents was to just tell them straight. There is no use hiding it or trying to wait for the right moment. There is no such thing as the right moment you need to just be straight maybe write a list or a letter of all you want to say to them and let them respond as you are probably worried they wont be impressed but sometimes if you say this is what i want and make sure you think about it clearly and make you feel and look more responsible.

Good luck and i hope all goes well.

2006-07-07 00:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0 0

First, you have to sit down and think. Get a plan for how you can juggle a baby and college, and not just wishful dreams, an actual plan. Then, sit your parents down and just tell them. Let them know it has nothing to do with what kind of parents they are, because they will think that. Be ready to answer about what role the dad plans to have, cause they will ask. Then tell them your plan for how you will manage college and a baby and ask their advice. Ask if they think it will work or if they see any possible changes. You don't have to take the advice, but this will help. I'm a mom, so I know, they will struggle with it, but showing you are thinking ahead, planning, and being adult will help. Asking for their advice will show them that they havent lost their daughter and hopefully reassure them somewhat.

2006-07-07 00:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by x_lil_redangel_x 3 · 0 0

hey babe as long as have a good head on your shoulders u have nothing to worry about,i got pregnat at seventeen i am now 19 and my daughter is 20 months on the ninth, i love it more than anything and wouldnt change it for the world, just accept the pregnancy and your good, dont be upset or stress it out because not only does it effect u but it effects the baby too,get as much support from family members as possible, and always remember that if u have a mom or dad that is up set dont worry about it they will soon get over it, a baby is bonding and no one can help but love a baby,alway be open minded and accepting of yourself,and hint hint i used cocoa butter like crazy like five times a day and then about my 7 or 8 month i used cocoa butter with elastin in it and didnt get any stretch marks,keep your head up and congrats

2006-07-07 00:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel V 2 · 0 0

My brother actually had a child and didnt tell my parents or anybody in my family but my brother and I, he was 19 and the girl was 17. It was when my nephew was about 1 and a half when my brother told my parents, they didnt get mad at all (I was surprised having foreign parents) They understood and supported him. I think your parents would like to hear they have a grandson or daughter on the way. I know if i was a parent i would want to know. Now my brother is happily with the same girl he was with.

2006-07-07 00:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Potathao 3 · 0 0

I was 17 when I was pregnant with my little boy. I will tell you straight out, there is no easy way to tell your parents. It is VERY hard to deal with. My mom would not even look at me for weeks. I felt awful, but I knew that I was going to have my baby regardless of what they thought. They wanted me to give him up and said that they ould make me because I was underage. I knew better. When they got over the shock they accepted me and now they give him every thing. I would just take a deep breath and prepare for the worst and just tell them. Give them time and space to accept it and then things should be ok.
P.S I don't regret any of it.

2006-07-07 00:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by gilmore_girlsfan 2 · 0 0

Well atleast you care how your going to tell them. I know your scared crazy right now but you'll make it. I did. I was in the same situation. 17 pregnant. I'm 25 now and the mother of three. I married the father and he died four years ago. I'm now a nursing student and happy. I was terrified of telling my parents and told them after dinner one night sure my mom was going to freak out. She didn't-I'm still alive. They will be upset at first then they will come around.

2006-07-07 00:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by chris w 1 · 0 0

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