going out with two people at the same time but want to know who right for u but confuse on that
2006-07-06 17:17:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
well first of all, who ever you started out going with at first was obviously not satisfying you. you started considering another person to the point that you went out with him also? so.... which ever makes you happy but it appears that the guy you started out with wasnt doing his job because you considered another person...also.. choose fast or you could lose both :(
2006-07-06 17:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by sjc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, Kick yourself. Stand up right this instant and kick yourself. SERIOUSLY. Do you have any clue about how foolish you look posting this question up on here right now? You mean to tell me that you were smart enough to hook up with two separate people, keep them unaware of the other for x amount of time, but obviously long enough to consider love, and yet you aren't smart enough to figure out which one you "love"? Are you kidding me? (I just wanna go on record for stating that infidelity is the FASTEST spreader of STDs, not that you have them, but just so you know) Ok, Let's face the bold, true facts; 1) YOU ARE A CHEATER (sorry, but the truth hurts), assuming that you chose one and got away with it, you would still have to live with that guilty conscience for however long you stayed with them. 2) You would be lying to yourself and the other person if you ever did make a decision about which one to keep, you would only be doing it to eliminate your own self-guilt. Truth is, You don't really "LOVE" either one, cause you cheated on both constantly without flinching, so to say that you love one is complete and utter BULLSHYT and you would only hurt yourself and those around you by attempting to live a lie. 3) GOSSIP SPREADS LIKE WILDFIRE! If you make a committment, word will eventually reach the ears of the one you ditched, and if they're smart, they'll investigate the longevity of your relationship, and that's when all hell breaks loose. 4) You need to look within yourself and realize that you f*cked up the whole operation from the start, that you need to be more honest, and that you are in a catch 22 situation-damned if you do, Damned if you don't. What you need to do is break up with both, stay single for a minute, get your shyt straight, and try this relationship thing again. If you found my words harsh or insulting, GOOD. This means that you can improve and probably will. If you can just shrug off this advice, then you need more help than I can give you.
2006-07-07 00:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by sevillian16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to be in a relationship with 2 people just to get everything you need you shouldn't be with either. If you can't decide if you love some one it's because you don't. Love isn't a "maybe," it's a "yes," or a "no." Everyone at some point *thinks* they're in love but when they actually *DO* fall in love they realize that they were wrong the first time.
PS
Date both till you find someone better then break it off with both of them. Just because you aren't in love doesn't mean you can't have some fun ;-)
2006-07-07 00:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by wad_go2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. I think it was a difference between love and lust. The lust relationship was exciting, and there was great sexual attraction and energy, and the 'love' relationship was comforting, supporting and caring. Ultimately I decided on 'love'. It is confusing. I think it is possible to care and possibly love to people at once, but like its been said before --go with the one that you feel in your gut, that you couldnt be without, the one that cares for you the most and SHOWS it, and gives you butterflies. The answer will show itself eventually...
2006-07-07 00:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...if either of those guys were the right ones, you would not be fooling around with the other! Trust me...I went through the same thing! I know this is pretty horrible for me to say...but...go out with both! Eventually time will help you figure out and decide!
2006-07-07 00:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its two people then your not in a relationship with neither. So you are free to choose which one you want to start a relationship with. Honestly, if you are confused on which one to choose, maybe you should keep dating others as well until you know what you want in a person you want a monogamous relationship with.
2006-07-07 00:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by honiebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always decided that who ever i was more comfortable around would be my choice.and here is how i did it.who would nurse you around the clock if you got sick.who can u burp and fart in front of and just laugh or shrug it off.?who knows more intimate details about you.such as when u have a girly issue or the latest gossip that you can't tell ur best chick friend?
2006-07-07 01:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by sunkissed299 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the record, "Torn Between Two Lovers."
2006-07-07 00:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what you want out of a relationship and see who is most compatible with those needs and be honest with the other one
2006-07-07 00:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by evian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know, its not love. My advice is to ditch both and look for something better. any other way will be very messy.
2006-07-07 00:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋