My wife left me with my son, Peyton when he was 2 weeks old, shes been gone for 4.5 month and ive done perfectly well tking care of him, but now his mothers parents think that they have the right to take him away from me and theyre going to fight me for him, what can i do, with out my so i would have no reason to livew i love him with my whole heart and i really need ghelp.
2006-07-06 17:13:00 · 35 answers · asked by clueless 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
They won't get custody from a parent unless you can't take care of your son. The law's on your side.
2006-07-06 17:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck! The courts are on your side. You are the natural father and have been his primary caregiver for over 4 months. As long as the court feels that the baby is being well taken care of and not in any danger there will be no reason for them to take him away from you. Call social services and get help from legal aid if you can not afford an attorney. You can also call local attorneys and see about getting a free consult. It might help ease your mind or give you some ideas of what to do to ensure you don't lose your son. Again, good luck! I hoped this helped.
2006-07-06 17:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the Dad, despite what G-ma and G-pa think they have no right to have custody of the child. The ONLY way a judge would award them custody is if you are not a capable Father. If anyone brings up the point of you being at ork all day and way from him anyway just metion that a lot of 2 parent and single mother homes opperate the same way. If they try to take you to court get a lawer to help it will be easier for you and your son. Good Luck to you, I wish you the very best! (see if you can get the mother to sign away her parental rights...she obviously doesn't want to be a parent or a wife.)
2006-07-06 17:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by EmmaGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a good lawyer, right away! I really don't think that they can do that, unless they could prove that you were unfit in some way, but a lawyer can tell you a lot more than I could, and defend you, too.
This must be so difficult. Hang in there and be strong, I'm sure that you and Peyton will be together and doing well for a long time to come. Best of wishes, and may God bless you both.
2006-07-06 17:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is provided for, shows signs of being taken care of and your home is adequate, you won't have any problems. The only reason judges take a child from a parent and give award custody to a grandparent is if the parent agrees or has been deemed incapable by the state. Parents have more rights than grandparents.
Good luck and keep your son and yourself healthy and happy.
2006-07-06 20:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, honey, listen....if you are a good parent--you don't use drugs, you work and support your child, etc. the girlfriends parents have no legal right to take your child away from you and they will not succeed in doing so lawyers or no. Calm down, take a deep breath and relax. Why don't you contact social services or a place called comtrea to see if they can provide you with legal assistance if you can't afford it on your own. In the end, if you truly are an upright parent, even if you don't have a lawyer I think you'll be alright. It might get rough but don't panic. You'll be o.k.
2006-07-06 17:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by hecatesmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO the right things for your son. You have the rights to him.
Everything will be ok, just relax, try to be calm.
You need to get an attorney, if you cannot afford one there should be programs where you live that will provide one for you. You need to find out if you can file for a termination of maternal right on the grounds of abandonment- what are the limitations for that, ASK. Make sure you ask every questionyou have, keep a notebook handy and write down everything you think of. Are your parents involved? if not sit down and talk to them about needing their moral support. Discuss with the mother's parents the need for you all to get along for the childs sake.... be polite, sincere, and remind them that as his father you know it is important that he have a relationship with them and want to make that happen peacefully. Remember this is their grandchild - not thier child and you have the right to esercise your rights.
Discuss everything with an attorney- remember that.
Keep yourself together now - make sure you are supporting your son, bills ar epaid, etc etc. Be a good father for him, he needs you!
2006-07-06 17:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Intuit Birth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a big applaud for you for taking care of a young newborn. You coulda spli on the baby too but you did not. You stayed and your the one giving baby the care. Unless the grandparents or anyone else can prove your unfit, or that you are not competent to take care of your baby, you are the paent and noone can take your child or have them taken from you. Maybe you should though be looking into some programs that can offer more support for a single new parent.
2006-07-06 17:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by tiffani72kmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to worry about??? Unless you have been abusive or negligent of your child, they have absolutely NO rights to your son. Don't worry. Start a journal dating back to the time the hoser mom left. In it, write what happened that caused her to leave, what she said, did/didn't do. What kind of a mother she was for the two weeks that she was with your son. Record each days schedule of your son. How you took care of him, doctor appts you took him to, who he is left with when you work. Get letters from people you know (like from the person who watches him when you are gone), neighbors, family and friends. If you have the means, find a lawyer that can help you in family court but honestly, they have no right to your son.
Good luck to you. I pray for you.
mb
2006-07-07 16:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they haven't filed anything legally then I would say move away so they don't know where you are--otherwise they could get visitation or depending how nasty they are accuse you of being a being an unfit parent. You really need to hire a lawyer. You need to get the law behind you before the in laws beat you to it. Don't say you don't have enough money to do that you need to do it. Ask for help from social services if you don't have the money.
2006-07-06 17:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely the law is on your side as you are the father. Definitely talk to a lawyer, or some of the other suggestions here. They are grandparents, and do have grandparent rights, where they can see the baby, but, that doesn't mean they are going to be the one raising him. (Kinda like if mom were to come back into the picture now, you have to let her have visitations, grandparents have the same rights.)
Good luck in getting this resolved.
2006-07-12 17:38:26 · answer #11 · answered by colleend01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋