She's curious as to how to why after 6 years my brother, (her boyfriend) wont commit, by marrying her or even proposing, They have a great relationship, but she's also looking to have children soon.
2006-07-06 16:50:59 · 36 answers · asked by Lakeview22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She can propose, but the man is really suppose to propse. Anywho though, I think she does need to talk to him about it instead of just propsing.
2006-07-06 16:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well she could propose, there's no harm in that, but don't you think that your brother hasn't proposed for a reason? He has to have a reason but she can't wait forever. The best solution would probably be for her to hint at it, although that scares men, if he wants to one day marry her, and they've been together for 6 years, he should step up I would say. There are key words like "future" and "children" that can hint at a man that it's time for marriage, she just has to be careful not to scare him with it, because you don't know if he's ready for that yet.
2006-07-06 16:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by bone_thugz_2pac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can propose, but I'm not sure she wants to take it there. Sounds to me like the boyfriend won't commit no matter what. She needs to have a straightforward conversation with the guy. Ask him why he resists making a commitment. If they have a great relationship, he should be able to commit, or be honest with her that he will never commit. but, yeah, she can propose....
2006-07-06 16:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by canary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ask a question that you are not prepared to deal with the answer you get. From your question it seems that she wants to be traditional and wants a proposal, so she should not propose to him. She should be honest with him and tell him that she wants marriage. This will be difficult because of the saying, "Why buy the cow, if the milk is free?" If they have been together for six years without having sex or living together, she really needs to ask herself, if this is the man I want to spend my life with?
2006-07-06 16:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she feels that they are at a point where she can propose, i don't see why not. it's just not traditional, but there isn't anything wrong with that. but if they haven't talked about getting married and having family, she might want to talk to him about it before she pops the question. she might get rejected for something like that out of no where. And under no circumstances is it okay if she does something to get pregnant, to try to get him to marry her. (it happens, not saying that she will do it). I hope her the best!
2006-07-06 16:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by majaji_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly okay for a woman to propose. However, I think these two need to have a long talk about where their relationship is going before she does anything else...
2006-07-06 17:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Foster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking more about it. Let him know, they both ain't getting any younger. That six years, is way to long for her. Down here in Kentucky, I don't know if other states do this or not. That after living together for seven years.. You and him are consider married.
Does not matter, where they are at. She can pop the question to him. Hopes he say yes. Good Luck.
2006-07-06 16:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes leaving hints or well downright talking to him about it is best. I dont think its really right for the girl to propose- i talked to my bf before we did get engaged about commiting to a relationship. Some guys are afraid of it- and some need alittle encouragement. It took my guy loosing me (i left him cause he wouldnt commit) before he realized that He wanted to commit. Sometimes you just gotta know whats best- cant wait forever.
2006-07-06 16:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're willing to ask this question for her maybe you could do her another favor and talk to your brother. Don't tell him she wants to marry him just say something like "So when are you going to propose to her?"
2006-07-06 16:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure she can propose, but that isn't going to change whether or not he wants a commitment or children.
2006-07-06 16:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason I can think of that a woman can't propose. unless of course she doesn't want to. think about it, a woman is normally more of a romantic anyway, so it just stands to reason that she should be able to propose marriage. It just might make it unforgettable.
2006-07-06 16:55:44 · answer #11 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋