Has anyone here been sexually abused as a child by a relative. and if so How did you deal with it?

Answer 1

Seek counseling.

Answer 2

You would not believe the number of people that have been incested. I was raped by my father when I was 11 years old. That coming after being molested when I was 3-4 by either my father or mothers boyfriend, and then again when I was 7 by my then-step-brother. It something that you will never get over. Don't think it's going to be something that fades away after a few years. I'm almost 20 and still wake up with nightmares. If you're still in the situation, GET OUT!!!! Go to the authorities. Make the sicko pay for what he did. Then you need to get professional help. It's amazing how much talking about it can help you. Remember, the therapist can tell no one about it. You are completely safe. Also remember that it's not your fault. No matter what, you did not ask for this. I know that sounds kinda stupid to say, but a lot of people go through life thinking that they some how caused this. So it never hurts anything to say that. Think about what you could do to help YOU. Like, if pressing charges is going to help you, do it. I remember after my dad raped me. He dropped me off at a relatives. For months I checked every knook and cranny looking to make sure he wasn't there. I really wish I had pressed charges, but I had no family that would help me. Their idea of dealing with it was to sweep it under the rug and act like nothing happened. Don't do that!!! Don't let this be something that ruins your dreams. Go on to become a strong woman and shove it in his face that he couldn't keep you down. You have every excuse in the world to melt down. Don't do it. If you do, then he still has control over you. Please feel free to e-mail me. I would love to help you in anyway that I can. It's always a little easier to talk to somebody you don't know and will never meet.

Answer 3

I was abused by my dad when I was 12 yrs old. It is something I still deal with sometimes on a daily basis. I sought out counseling and TOLD anyone who would listen. The first person I told was my mom. She called me a liar! I was hurt, but I went and told a friend who told her mom! Everyone kept my confidence and helped me to cope. If I was to tell you anything -this is the most important thing to remember ..."sexual abuse is NOT your fault." The person who is doing this to you is VERY sick.

I do not have a relationship with my dad to this day (I'm 45) and I can't tell you that from the time I was 12 until the day I moved out (18) was the most terrify years of my life...not knowing when it would happen -if it would happen again. I was lucky (if you want to call it that) my dad did not abuse me a second time. I discovered later that my friends mom -whom I told -confronted my mom...and though my mom never told me...she confronted my dad...But what ever went down...it was enough to keep it from happening again. The reason I may sound like I should be so happy...it was those years of not knowing and living with the fear that still effects me today. But through all of this...I still was able to get married and have a family of my own...in case you are young...just know one day you will be okay.

Answer 4

The best way to deal with this is to talk about it, to either a friend that you trust or a therapist. Or if you can't bring yourself to do this, read some books about the issue.

Answer 5

I too was abused by afamily member..unless you talk to someone about it will always be in your mind ..jsut now my husband..found out about it...only cause i told him about it...i never talked to anyone about it..til now... at the time i was around 8 yrs old..now im in my early 30'smy husband is the only person i told..i wish i would of talked to someone back then..you should find someone to talk to..