My fiancé?? and I have been together for 3 years and have been engaged almost 2 years. We bought a house together in October 2005. The problem–he’s still legally married to his wife. When we started dating I thought that he and his wife were divorced, and he never stated otherwise. What really makes me want to strangle him is that now he insists that he told me that he was still married. I'm like wtf... are you kidding me? He told me that she was just about to get all of her stuff out of the house and that he was happy that it was finally going to be over. I admit; I was naïve..stupid even. Even after I found out he was still married (from her), I accepted his proposal, thinking that he'd get divorced really soon after if he wasn’t already in the process. I wasn't even a question in my mind at the time. I gave him back his engagement ring almost 3 mos. ago, he went to the courthouse to get divorce papers just 2 weeks ago and they are still sitting on the coffee table barely touched.
2006-07-06 16:49:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add that, to my knowledge, the two of them are no longer romantically involved. He tells me that the relationship was over for a while and that its just a matter of paper work. He says that his hang up is because he doesn't want to deal with her bullshit and that he's afraid she might make his life a living hell. He's first answer was that he didn't her trying to take his inheritance.
2006-07-06 17:15:35 · update #1
I recently started sleeping in the guest room. I felt uneasy around him we haven't been intimate for about 6 months. I always feel like I'm on the brink of a breakdown or something. Sometimes I don't even want to come home and that is one of the worst feelings in the world for me. We argue alot and I find myself unable to look at him in the same way now because he told me that he didn't understand why I was making such a big deal out of it because I knew he was married when he proposed to me. It's weird, now all the little things that bother me about him (i.e., not turning off lights when he leaves the house), bother me 10 fold after he made that statement.
2006-07-06 17:27:05 · update #2
It sounds like you boy hasn't quite finished moving on from his last wife.
As to weather or not you should leave, are you happy? Forget weather or not you love him, does he make you happy? I am not talking about sex or feelings, is your life better with him in it? Is it brighter? More positive? If not then I would seriously look at my options if I were you. If it is, then you need to be honest with him and tell him how all of this is making you feel. If he does not repect your feelings then you have another problem.
If you stay, get premarital counseling before walking down the asile. It will help you both learn how to communicat effectivly.
2006-07-06 16:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by cerwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that until he is ready to get the divorce, you should just leave him. I understand that you are in a very hard situation because you own a home together. This is tough, I really don't know what to say.
2006-07-06 16:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't be offended by my response. When I was single, I met a man who was quite the charmer. We went on one date and he called me at work and told me that he was a married man. I told him that we could never have a relationship because I know you reap what you sow. Ask yourself " Would this guy do you the same way (cheat on you) if you got married? Don't settle for anything less. GOD has someone special just for you. leave him have respect for his spouse and yourself.
2006-07-06 17:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. Also it will give you a "bird's eye view" of a guy's psyche.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good luck
2006-07-06 17:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he lied to you now whats to stop him in the future but on the other hand if you love him i mean enough to spend the rest of you life with him then do it but you are only on who can answer that question follow you heart and your gut
2006-07-06 17:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you have too do what you feel. if it say get out then get out .Get with someone who only want you .who wants to wake up and greet you in the mor . and hold you and never let you go .he just want your body next to him.
2006-07-06 17:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by bigdaddy e love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta wait and try one more time
2006-07-06 16:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by theguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋