My husband and I are seperated. He refuses to go to counseling or discuss our problems. Whenever I try to talk he RUNS. He recently took off his ring. Should I keep trying to get through, wait him out or take off my ring. I have the child.
2006-07-06 16:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by vicky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just move on.
2006-07-06 16:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can play it cool forever, and it will not change the fact that he is finished with the relationship and wants to move on. Do the same, do it calmly for the sake of the child, and be sure you have the child's needs taken care of after the divorce within the settlement. The fact is that he wants out, that is the reason that he took the ring off, why he runs when you try to talk, the refusal to discuss anything. Open your eyes. Get out of it, and remember there are others out there, this does not mean you will be alone forever. Allow the child to have you both in his or her life, and don't throw out blame - or there will be guilt feelings laid on the child for life, thinking that perhaps you broke up because of something he or she did. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-06 23:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Husband is more than a Boyfriend. Boyfriends move on, thats why you look for a Husband to live your life with. A Husband knows(as a Wife does), hard times are always just around the corner, these things have to be worked out.(Between a Husband and Wife), you had a Boyfriend, not a Husband.
2006-07-07 00:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by NrmS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for trying or not, sorry I cannot help you there. When my husband said he didn't know if he loved me, I took my wedding ring off my finger and put it around my neck. This allowed me to mentally take a step back without breaking my commitment and I was still wearing it, just not traditionally, because I still had hope and it stood for more than just our marriage, but my responsibilities to my home and children.
2006-07-07 02:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the key signs that it is time to move on is when you are the only person in the relationship that is still trying to make things work out. It sounds like he has given up so maybe it is time to accept that fact so you can focus on your life and not on something that is already gone. You and your child will be fine without him I'm sure.
2006-07-10 10:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, of all continuing to wear your ring symbolizes that you still recognize what you have together as a relationship. Let him know you are willing to work it out. Give him a time frame to decide if working it out is what he wants to do too. When the time frame is up you will know wher you stand. However, first an foremost is remaining strong for your child and ensuring that he/she feels important throughout the ordeal.
2006-07-06 23:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by andreadawn75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need marital counseling. It sounds an awful lot like he is leaving you emotionally. Don't blame yourself. It is the cruelest lie on the planet that it takes 2 to wreck a marriage. It only takes one that is hell bent. I'm living proof. and I have witnesses!
Hang in there and keep your dignity. Don't let Him reduce you to an ugly, bitter or vengeful person or on the other hand throw you into depression or desperation.
I'm praying for you 'Cause I've been there and I know it's scary!
2006-07-06 23:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm going through something simular, and most likely, he has moved on. I have the child to, and if he ever tries to come back, keep your guard up. Hard lesson learned. Took me 11 years to learn it.
2006-07-06 23:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Why? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just needs his space for a while stop chasing him and let him come back to you then sit down after you both have had time to think and breath and re-evaluate the situation
2006-07-06 23:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is time to move on. I'm sorry, but if he isn't willing to try, there isn't anything you can do.
2006-07-06 23:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋