what do i do if my boyfriend likes to drink and i dont approve of it?

Question

need help with my boyfriend

Answer 1

You either have to accept it or move on. A lot of guys are not going to change their ways for a woman. You can't make him into the person that you want him to be.

Answer 2

The first question is, is his drinking a problem. Does he do stupid things, hurt you, get angry, etc. You don't want to stay with a person who won't admit a drinking problem. If he won't get help (AA is really a wonderful organization) then you need to say good bye.
However, if he isn't a problem drinker, he just likes to drink now and then, you have to really ask yourself if this is worth breaking up. Because you can't just stay in a relationship where you have decided to be upset by his drinking. I say you have decided because it is kind of like that, more like figuring out what is really important. As I am getting older I am realising I have to let my partner be himself in ways that I would not choose in a dream mate. For instance, I think porn is horrible. But if i had a bf who was wonderful in lots of ways, but when he was lonely and missed me he got off with porn, I would have to decide which is more important: my love for him or my hate for porn.
The point is this: You have to decide. You can't just stay in a situation and always be mad about it. You have to figure it out. There may be ways to compromise with him-- maybe you would feel better if he didn't drink in front of you. If he realizes you are serious about trying to be in a good relationship and are trying to make a compromise, he might be very happy to do so.
But if you really can't stand the fact that he drinks-- I can understand that, for instance if someone's parents were alcoholics-- then you have to decide to break up with him. But don't do it in anger. Let him know why. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Ask yourself whether or not his drinking is harming your relationship, beyond going against your disdain for alcohol. If it is affecting the actual relationship, you might tell him that and see what he has to say. See if you can work out some way so that your relationship is not altered or affected. This might mean that he cuts down on drinking at certain times. He might also have a drinking problem - if so you can't save him, sad as it is, just do what you need to do to take care of your needs.

Answer 4

First you should communicate your feelings to him about it.. Once done if he's serious about the relationship then he should take heed to your concern!If he's still persistant with his drinking (and your serious about his habit) Then you can either deal with it or try and convince him once more to leave the alcohal alone. (and dont just leave him if he continues just watch his intake cuz he cant completely just stop at one time..it's a process)If he still continues then most def you should leave. Because drinking habits can be very dangerous to a relationship!
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And if he doesn't stop you shouldn't be with him anyway because he's not even considering how you feel about the situation but is still thinking of himself and doing what he know's to do!

Answer 5

whats the problem with drinking? if you dont approve and he likes it then it wasnt meant to be. move on.

Answer 6

if he drinks to numb the pain then dont be with him, if he dose it on specail occations then thats ok, as long as it is half a glass of anything.And not all at once

Answer 7

I think you should talk to him and if he don't change you need to let him go because things can happen that you probably want like

Answer 8

join in, get drunk and do it with his best friend. He'll either stop drinking or leave ya either way your better off plus you get some strange :)

Answer 9

if you want to be with him enough you should except it if not then you should end it soon. They don't change do let him fool you

Answer 10

Either deal or move on!