You need to clearly and directly communicate your feelings to him so he can understand what's going on and what you need from him. If you do this, then hopefully he'll open up to you and let you know what he's been feeling. He may just still be adjusting to a new life with a small child. For me, getting past the first year of fatherhood was a big relief as things got a little easier after that.
2006-07-06 16:26:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Unplug the computer. Take it out of the room when he is not in the house. Tell him that you have serious concerns about the amount of time he spends of the computer. Suggest that you would like to spend more time together and make suggestions such as going to the movies, visiting friends, taking walks, etc. If he is not willing, suggest that you and him talk to a counselor for one session. Give him a day or two to think about it. If he does not relent I would still go to counseling alone.
I wound up divorcing my husband (no children involved luckily) because he was addicted to the computer and Internet porn and was very angry toward me, my friends, my relatives, just about everyone. He refused to get help even though I pled with him. I finally realized he did not want to change. I was very sad, but several years later, I found someone else and I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life.
2006-07-06 23:28:26
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answered by CH 1
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I am married with a 2 and 5 year old. I spend time online doing stuff like this either when my wife is reading, or asleep. Talk to you husband when he is not online, and maybe try to make some time to get away. It could be less than a vacation. maybe a picnic out on day, a trip to a local attraction, heck, a walk around the block. Make sure there are other alternatives to the computer for you as family, and if he still won't participate, I would seek spiritual or professional help.
Or, throw the computer away.......
2006-07-06 23:08:53
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answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6
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You should not have allowed it in the first place.
As you said, he is married to the computer. How can he be married to you and do this? He is cheating you with the computer (who knows he actually is, chatting with some woman, and talking about sex).
You need to do something serious about it. Get counselling or throw out the computer. Normal people do not stay at the computer after they come back from work. They are so sick of it and rather relax watching the TV. Go on, do something.
2006-07-06 23:08:21
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answered by Anonymous
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Drag him out. Make him realize that there are better things to do. Make him go out somewhere. If you do make him dinner, tell him that he can only have dinner at the table. Have a serious talk with him. If he doesn't listen, unplug the computer. MAKE him listen. Let him know that you want to spend more time with him and that he spends too much time on the computer. Let him know how you feel. Tell him you feel lonely and like he doesn't care. Find something else he really likes to do (maybe football) and spend time watching, playing, etc.
2006-07-06 23:06:36
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answered by goshimwaycool 3
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i wrote sighns and posted them right by his computer said something like" your wife and daughter need you more than your computer does!" it helped a little, he still plays his computer all the time, its been bout 6-7 years since i did sighns, but, after 2 more kids, he gets up for brief periods to help with the house, kids, use potty, make something to eat, or have sex(usualy) and he is doing better, every now and then, i can work a shift and hell stay off the puter the whole time i was gone, but soon as im home....back on....i wish you good luck with this problem, if you love him, except it as one of his faults and gradually help him spend LESS time on it...it will not happen over night, i promise, but, he will improve as he grows up more and more, you will not see any improvement for a while, but then a lot of stuff you start to notice is getting better.
2006-07-06 23:23:48
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answered by Rose 3
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Is there another problem that he is trying to avoid by staying on the computer all the time? Try to think up some really "interesting" things to do to get his attention away from the computer. Buy some new lingerie or some new toys for the bedroom, if that doesn't get his attention then he has a major problem.
2006-07-06 23:06:09
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answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6
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What you should be doing is figuring out what bar to go to this weekend. Get a shitload of your buddies, get yourself all dolled up, and paint the town red! Whoopy! Party like an animal all night long, grab a sack full of White Castles, then puke them babies up all over that damn computer of his! Yea! Good luck to ya!
2006-07-06 23:19:34
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answered by ndvsne1 4
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You went from attentiveness, to sharing your husband with the PC, to losing your husband to the PC.
I guess your husband has two wives and you are second best.
I suggest you ask your husband if he still want to be married to you.
If he answers yes. Then, you two need sit down and resolve any issues the both of you may have. Constructive criticism is always difficult to hear and it is not your or his interest to yell at the same time. Both of you need to stay calm!
2006-07-06 23:14:43
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answered by SLOWTHINKER 3
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I have had the same problem.We have two computers.I finally
took the laptop.And told him its me or the computer so choose.
I dont care if he's on a short time but that all day crap had to stop.
I also took up a hobby to show him I was serious.
2006-07-06 23:08:22
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answered by ksgal 3
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