My best friend and i just got in a fight over my ex-boyfriend. she hates him and every guy i go out with. but it seemslike the guys that she hates the most are the ones that i like the most. were not even talking now and i really lovemy ex- boyfriend. well at least i think i do. thats another problem. i broke up with him and have regretted it ever since. but somedays he seems all nice and the others he acts really mean and says he dosent even wanna talk to me. my family is all mad at me for something that happened and dosent even wanna be around me. i feel really alone and want somebody to be there for me but all my friends either have boyfriends and are to busy or there mad at me too. am i over reacting or am i really losing everyone i love? please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 15:48:33 · 18 answers · asked by Abby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by the sounds of it your friend seems to be looking out for you. From what you said about how your ex doesnt want to see you one day, but is pretty cool the next, then you need to ask yourself whether or not that something you want in a man, and if you love him, then whether or not you want to be around someone like that. Breaking up isnt a bad thing when you are sure about it, but it also gives us a chance to see how the other person reacts and deals with very emotional situation. Stability can be found in those who can still be themselves when facing adversity. friends are the key to your future. without them there is no one there to keep you in check. As for your family i dont know what to say, you would need to explain the situation with them in more detail. for starters, reconcile with your friend and find out what it is that she doesnt like about him, and about the types of guys you choose. if they are all assholes one day, but nice to you other days, then what are their intentions and are you giving in too easily to allow there nice side to be evident at only certain times.
cheers and hope this helps.
2006-07-06 15:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone to talk to--that is not involved in your life. Sounds like you are or are very close to being depressed and it doesn't get any better. Ask yourself why others don't want to be around you or are mad at you. Have you asked your friend why she reacts this way to your boyfriends? Something doesn't sound right. It is very hard to do---but take a long close look at yourself. It is possible that without realizing it you are causing the reactions by something you are doing.
2006-07-06 22:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by skipped82451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all in the end you will learn that your friends are your enemies. Don't play their games. Second of all if you love you ex then be with him...if he will treat you right. If he is acting different to you one day and then the next he turns 360 degrees and is acting another way, wel then I suggest you find someone else. Family problems are a *****, but you will overcome them. Be strong and if you did something wrong to make your family members mad at you, swallow your pride and make your appologies. If your friend can't except the fact that your ex-boyfriend is the one you want then tell her to get lost. Friends should be behind you 100% IF they are truely friends. But like I said, keep a wary eye for true friends are hard to find and few and far inbetween. Maybe she wants him to herself.
2006-07-06 22:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't have to agree with your friend, agree to disagree. Butttttttttttttttt! If everyone is mad at you because of this guy, maybe they have a reason. Maybe they are frustrated because they are afraid he will hurt you or even kill you and maybe you just don't want to admit it.
Is he as abusive as he sounds? I'm not judging him, but it sounds like he's abusive. If he is, physically, emotionally whatever, he doesn't love you. Love does not hurt. If you love someone you don't hurt them in any way. Maybe he needs to get help himself and if he's abusive, you can't help him. It starts small and escalates. Do you want to end up in the hospital or even dead?
Think long and hard about this.
2006-07-06 22:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you are a teenager more than likely you are over reacting when you get to that teenager stage you think that everyone hates you and that you no more than everyone just try to calm down a little and if you think that you have been a little mean to your family members or your friend maybe a little apology will help change things up a bit
2006-07-06 22:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by sony93931 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true friends should'nt influence your choices regarding who you see, they should be supportive of you and put their personal feelings aside, and just be cause your family is upset with you doesn't mean they don't love you, but if they won't discuss anything with you, perhaps your minister or a guidance conselor could help, time can cure all things if left alone long enough, maybe some appologies are in order? you have to start somewhere!!
2006-07-06 22:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by trekkie1972566 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think ur overreacting at all it's really hard to have no one be there for u when u need them most maybe u should talk to your ex and explain y u broke up with him and just tell him how much u want to get back together
2006-07-06 22:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by e_sizzle_12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is VERY jealous of you for some reason. Either she loves you or she is envious of you and your life. Either one theirs a problem their. You need to examine this relationship much closer or take what comes to you like these fights!
2006-07-06 22:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not worth it to lose your friends and family over a guy. if he is mean to you for a stu[id reason, or to just be an ***, then he is seriously not worth it. what has he done that has made him worth all of that? my best friend is the same way, and almost all of the boyfriends she didn't like weren't right for me... she is your friend and she only wants you to be happy... same with your family...
2006-07-06 22:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by dsfg_rb_sls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit, yes. Life sucks, sometimes. It always gets better, though. Its a series of peaks and valleys.
2006-07-06 22:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Noodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋