If you are in a relationship and have been living together for over 6 yrs.. and you find out your spouse is cheating on you. You cry over it .. i mean boo hoo!!! but you dont want to leave them. Why? and Why is it so hard to get to that point?
2006-07-06 15:45:35 · 35 answers · asked by deepthoughts38 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because of the good times you shared together. If he cheated on you, he doesn't feel respect for you at all. He should want to be with you and only you. Perhaps there were good times, but more bad than good. It's hard to let go.
2006-07-06 15:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a natural reaction on every human to let go someone that you once treasure so much and yet it was also him who causes the most hurt to you.
Actually its wouldn't hard to say goodbye is just that you felt there's no fairness to you. You done nothing wrong and yet he did that to you. Its a mixture feeling of hate, unfairness, missed...etc. With such feeling you are now into a confusion state because your mind at times project images of happy times when you both were together and next it reflects the unhappiness moments. The worst cause of it were the years you had committed into this relationship.
Don't be too hard on yourself whereby you done nothing wrong. It not worth feeling upset over someone who don't appreciate your love. Life got to go on and maybe it this a blessing in disguise by god. You may find a better partner in the near future just that don't give up on yourself. Give yourself some time frame and time to look in re-solving your problem but don't take too long as there still many wonderful people out there waiting to see a smile on your face. Take Care and god bless you. (^_^)
2006-07-06 16:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Simple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's heart breaking. After all the tears are dry up. You sit back and think. Why was you crying over him for. He didn't think of you, when he was with the other woman. He needs to cry a load of tears over you. Cause you are staying with him.
You don't won't to leave him. Cause being with him for so long. The things and feeling's that ya'll share. You are torn apart between right and wrong.
Take time to breath, and think over things. Let him know how you feel about it. How much hurt he done to you. It's up to you, on what choices you make. If you want to remain in this marriage, then you both need to work things out. Get some therpy and try to make the best of it.
If the pain too strong, or he got more lies in the closet. Then get out. He is no good for you.
2006-07-06 16:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because breaking the emotional attachments you have together is hard and everything takes time to come to terms with and more importantly to realise does he really love and respect you if he can do that
why dont you want you want to leave him? is it because your afraid to be alone, financially dependant on him and fear starting all over again? or is it a case where your staying bcause you dont want the 'other woman' to win in any shape or form. Maybe these can be some of the reasons you are holding on and not letting go.
Not all marriages were ment to last and that even happens in longer term marriages to, but the reasons why people choose to stay in a marriage thats broken down is numerous as well as daft sometimes. But its your marriage and your decision wither you remain in it or not, but seriously consider the reasons why your actually staying and can you live with the real reason/s as to why.
2006-07-06 16:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because six years is a long time to give up on. I have just currently left my bf of 4 years cause i was fed up but a person can only take so much of the bullshit. I mean when u are ready to leave u will know and it will be hard and u will cry cause here was this man that u thought was dedicated to you and loved you and he screwed around on you and messed up your thoughts and stuff it is ok to feel bad for a while but you need to realize that time will heal all of that pain and sometimes it is better to get out before u end up getting hurt again cause trust me that can put a ware on your self-esteem.
2006-07-06 15:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to leave him cause you are already use to him and you don't want to have to go through all that getting to know your mate again. Also you certainly don't want to be hurt again. But sooner or later you will get over him or find it in your heart to forgive him, cause trust me if you were good to him. He will come running back begging you. Then the choice will be up to you. So cry cause it's a sign of healing. If you didn't cry then I would be worried. Just don't let that stop you from doing what you need to do in life. Cause if things don't work out with you and him , there is some out there that does want to treat you right.
2006-07-06 16:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by QUEEN R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Anytime we enter into a relationship based on love and/or trust, we have the tendency to put all of ourselves into that relationship emotionaly. Even more so when its a love based relationship. As a result, we develop strong emotional ties to that person for better or for worse. Its very hard and in some cases almost impossible to sever those ties. But it can be done. It just takes time. Another main factor that has to apply in order for us to break an emotional tie is that the pain of enduring such a tie must become greater than the tie itself. Good luck in finding the strength to do whats right for you.
2006-07-06 15:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, doubt you are comfortable with this man but at the same time you're making it comfortable for him to cheat on you if you don't lay down the law. First ask yourself if you have good communication, next, what was going on in yall's relationship at the time he ventured out, finally, ask yourself can you handle him doing it to you again and maybe again. ANALYZE your LIFE! You found love in him but there is always another deserving enough of the love you have to offer. People come and go for a reason in our lives it doesnt mean their meant to stay.
2006-07-07 05:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Leo79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are female from your pic. What sin does is it brings sorrow. Shacking was never what God intended. That is why this guy feels he can just pick up and leave because there was never a legal commitment to you (via marriage). What I learnt in Bible Study was the female was to receive "seed" from the male.
His sperm creates this residue which resides in you. Along with the soulish portion of him. This is what causes the female to mourn or linger even after the relationship is over. You need deliverance from the soul tie you have established. See a pastor at a church of God in Christ or Pentecostal church.
2006-07-06 15:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by agcgartner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are tied together mentally, physically and emotionally it takes anyone time to process what has happened. we all respond differently.
It's hard because we really do not want to get the point because it means we have to deal with the relationship actually ending and what that all means. The hurt is the big thing and dealing with it properly is even bigger.
Take time to take an inventory of yourself and who you are and want you want to be. Once you do this facing this end of this realtionship gives you firm and stable groung to deal with it. It will give you realistic goals for yourself and your relationships.
I wish you the best!
2006-07-06 15:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋