On a gay date it is difficult to know who should pay. Should the older guy pay or the more wealthy? Should one pay for the entertainment (movie, performance, etc.) and the other pay for dinner? Should the sexual top pay or the sexual bottom?
2006-07-06 15:36:29 · 34 answers · asked by Rusty A 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thats always a tricky one, but the same rules apply for same sex dating as oppsite sex dating. Whoever feels the best paying should pay, or if you feel that splitting the bill is best do that. I do like the idea of one paying for one event and the other paying for the other. My boyfriend and I are both in college, so a lot of times I will pay for one thing and he will pay for the other. Sometimes one of us will pay for the whole thing, whoever has the money at the time. If one of you feels the need to pay for it all, let it happen that way. Just because your boyfriend gets this date doesnt mean that you cant get the next. Unless you both believe in highly traditional roles and you need one person to pay for everything, just take it as it goes and have fun. It would be a shame to worry about who pays when you two should be having the time of your life! Just go out and have fun.
2006-07-06 15:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Man Coon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, it is statistically proven that more heterosexual people are spreading the HIV virus in TODAYS society than are homosexuals.
Second, to answer the real question at hand. When I go out with a guy on a date the most appropriate thing to do is to pay separately. If you really like your date you can say "Hey lets go get ice cream" its your idea so you should pay for it as soon as you can and as fast as you can. Then he can say "Let's go watch a movie" its his idea and he can reciprocate the generosity, if he doesn't reciprocate that tells you alot about the kind of person he is, and leads us down a wholly different subject that is equally as interesting.
By the way, never let the wealthier person pay because he is wealthier, the can of worms you can open up by doing that has the potential to biting you in the *** later on down the road. If you can't afford it save up for it and offer an alternative in the meantime.
2006-07-06 15:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by M D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think etiquette would call for the person who invited the other out should pay on the first date. If there's a second, then it would be appropriate for the other person to pay or simply split the tab.
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Jeez! After about the three-thousandth comment such as his/hers, I'm beginning to wonder if they don't all have the IQ of a bed of kelp.
2006-07-06 16:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao.. I liked the last ?? the best.. I think the person doing the 'asking' for the date should pay (or maybe be in charge of straightening out who should pay.. how bout that?) It's not important really about wthe older person thing.. or more wealthier.. I mean some stuff ya go to doesn't have to 'bankrupt' ya, right? I like the idea of one person paying for entertainment, other the dinner. I don't know tho.. what if one cost more? do you mention it? (boy, that opens up another subject..) ha.. good question, tho.. So what are YOU going to do, eh? (You obviously want to know for a reason..) hey, it's all kool, Romeo. I think what's more important is to consider the other person's finances.. it's just plain good manners. I mean simple stuff like watch what they order (kind of indictes 'cost'/how much they have to spend.) It's nice to think up (maybe if one can) a 'couple' different activities too, not just the dinner.. name something pricey, not so pricey.. you need to keep tabs on costs of items. (You sound like you are from a bigger city than I.. I live in quite a lame li burg here.. we don't have many options of crap to do.. hell, we don't have even one gay person I can name in town here.. lmao) bye again
2006-07-06 15:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I take a girl out on a date, I pay, just because that's the way I am. I like to 'play the gentleman', especially if a relationship is not yet underway. Later on down the road, when we know each other better, I don't mind going dutch, or even having her pay, but on the very first date, I pay.
2006-07-06 15:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't the person who invites pay?
Once the relationship is secure and/or becomes steady then i would think you could take turns springing for the check or whatever, but at the beginning when you're first getting to know each other I think it's more formal and the person who does the inviting should be expected to pay.
2006-07-06 15:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person that invites (or makes the date) should always be willing to pay for the evening.
It's just that you generally do not know what the other person's financial situation is (if you've just met) and I think that it is just common courtesy... especially if you are trying to make a good impression.
I don't just mean the dinner, either. The person that invites should pay for dinner, drinks, cab, movie ticket - whatever... unless the other person wants to do something different than you want to, then he/she should pay for whatever it may be. I'm not old fashioned, I just feel like that... asking the other person to help pay for YOUR ideas iss like inviting someone to a to YOUR party and asking them to bring their own refreshments.
May be weird, but hey... that's me.
2006-07-06 15:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by AeroMidwest82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. older guys tend to be more old fashioned, and they often will pay. but in my book, the one who asks for the date pays, unless it is agreed that the date will be dutch. that of course is also considering factors such as if it's a birthday-then the birthday boy or girl doesn't pay. one paying for dinner, and one paying for the movie is very acceptible, if agreed on before hand. no one is a mind reader, so you must make this crystal clear before the date.
2006-07-06 16:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Krazie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think on the first date, the person who did the inviting should pay. After that you work it out. If one person is MUCH more financially able than the other, he should pay more of the time, but if both are quite able, they should split or take turns.
2006-07-06 15:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this modern world of dating, typically the person who asks for the date is the one who pays. This is true for gay or straight dating couples.
2006-07-06 15:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by atlanta_quester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋