i mean sometime he is with his friend and i just stay home with the kids so what can i do
2006-07-06 15:32:49 · 31 answers · asked by jamie p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say to talk about this to him...don't over react to him...because it will send him screaming...but ask him if he can set aside some time for you and the kids. Tell him you miss him and love him dearly...you need to come across as more sad, and in need of that partner you married...not as a controlling wife...ease into it...make him feel bad...set the mood...and bat the eye lashes...etc...you girls are great at making us fall to our knees...
even maybe plan some things...some family day activities...like camping...things like that...try and get him involved without being to obvious about it...
just don't point blank him...like i said it will prolly send him running...and don't sound like your forcing him...
and keep us posted...
2006-07-06 15:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Take turns. Draw up a weekly schedule. When it's your turn to go out, he has to take care of the kids. Fair and square.
Whatever you do at home, make sure you get him involved be it grocery shopping, playing with kids, going for a picnic, to the pool, see the doctor, dinners out etc. Say you need his help. Being too independent will do you no good. He will find himself redundant in raising the kids. Don't make him feel like he is second best to the kids. Encourage the kids to want to play with him and be with him. When it's his birthday or the kids' birthday, get the kids to celebrate the big day and make him stay at home the whole day.
Don't make it all about the kids. You need to pay attention to him too or he will feel shortchanged sexually. Are you fulfilling him in that department? Or is it that you are too tired for it most times?
2006-07-06 15:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate...my hubby plays basketball and sometimes golfs and I stay home with the kids. Well, get interested in what he is doing. Make a date nite once in awhile. Its good to have friends. If you go out with yours and him with his. But then their must be a time that just you two go out and have some alone time. If he is spending too much time with his friend, then I would think maybe your boring(?)I wonder sometimes myself. Find out what he is interested in and be a part of it with him. Good Luck!!
2006-07-06 16:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by gasncal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time.
Take your kids to the park, walking, exercise, sewing, talking phone with your friends etc.
Let him out because men do not like to be told to stay home. However, make sure you know where the destination is. Here are the sign:-
Porker,card= Dinner with secretary
Bar= Stripper
Coffee= Quickie
7-eleven= Making quick phone call on mobile from his car.
Fishy= Cleaning his 'rod'
Outstation= Mistress
Gym= erotic massage
Internet= xxx website
Hockey games= 'Scoring' another girl
2006-07-06 15:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No couple should be together all the time, it isn't healthy.
He needs to get out with his friends occasionally, but so do you.
Inform him that 2-3 times a month he gets to stay home with the kids and you and a couple of your gf's are going to go out.
And then 2-3 times a month, you need to get a babysitter and go out together.
2006-07-06 15:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start putting on your clothes before he does and leave him home with the kids. 2. Start calling a babysitter to keep the kids while you go out. 3. Let him know that he started this family and he needs to remain a part of it. 4. Marriage counseling. Hope this information helps.
2006-07-06 15:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need someone to be with you all the time then you need to get other interests. No one person can be everything all the time for another Spending time apart and with other people is healthy and normal. Go out there and start living YoUR ife and doing things that make you happy. Your husband will thank you for it
2006-07-06 15:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by DW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can be a little the same as a Battlefield so its the war on love now. Study what he likes and what his friend does if u can and do the things his friend does without getting the kids involve. Know your enemies and know yourself
Conquer your man Dominate him hahaha!
2006-07-06 15:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going after something that you can never reach. Men have that drive while dating you to succeed and get her committed and with only you. Once they have succeeded, the game isnt fun anymore.
There is something that you can do though, and that is to, at the very least, act interested in the same things as he. You never know that may start something and you could always be with him and want space by then!
Speaking of space, you do need it! You need time, as well as he, to be who you are without just being someone's wife and having no other identity.
2006-07-06 15:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by texricki26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly I don't want the man around all the time. He is retired and thank God has now a part time job. There is such a thing as too much togetherness. I enjoy being able to get something done before he is ready for us to go play.
2006-07-06 15:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He has to take responsibility and do his share. You have to demand that. But he needs free time too. You should arrange at least one day a weekend and a couple of nights during the week that are sacred for you and your family, and then you should take turns having time off the rest of the nights and days.
If you try to force it, he'll just resent you.
2006-07-06 15:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by tianjingabi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋