If stay at home moms are worth something like $28 an hr. What are working moms worth?

Question

It makes me mad to hear stay at home moms whine about how hard their job is and how hard they work. Hey, I work a full time job and in the evening time, I take care of all the things the stay at home mom had all day to do, and then they whine about it. I cook supper, take the kids to the park, clean the house, do the laundry, mop, vacume and take out the trash. I go to parent teacher confrences in the evening. I wash the dishes, clean the windows, sort the clothes and put them away. I read books with my kids. I take them to piano lessons and football games. I take my kids to the doctor, and I still get up with them in the nite. All this while working a full time job.
What the crap is all this Oh, woa unto me I am a hard working stay at home mom. Well, I am a working full time mother and you don't hear me whining.

Yep, I couldn't stay home with my kids. I am kind of jealous, but my mother stayed home with us. I never heard her complain. There were 7 of us.

Yeah! Im whining. I think if anyone has the right to ***** and complain its me. Not someone who gets to stay home with their kids all day. Working women don't get enought credit.

I am a nurse. I see everything. No I don't own a new car or a new home. My house was built in 1904 and the siding is falling off of it. My jeep is junk. Nothin new here. The father of my fine children is a garbage man.

Answer 1

I don't hear any SAHM whining either, you must be jealous because you can't stay at home with your children, for that I am sorry.

Answer 2

I use to work and come home and take care of our daughter. I was a stock broker, worked weeks, some weekends and some evenings. I know what a career is like and after 22 years, my husband and I decided I'd be a SAHM. After 22 years of working and building my career, I can honestly say that being a SAHM is much harder. Per Dr. Phil it is equivalent to working 2 full time jobs. I work 24/7, no weekends off, no evenings off, and unlike when I had a career and came home around the same time as my husband, I have our daughter all day and all night long. And how can you knock what SAHMs do if you have never done it? Am I whining? Not at all. I love being a SAHM as what I get from being able to spend time with my daughter that I could never get from working is so worth the effort. Both my husband and I agree, it is better for me to see her "firsts" (like her first tooth, her walking for the first time) instead of someone in a daycare seeing it and sharing it with me/us. My husband would rather hear it from me if he misses it or see a video if I catch it tape.

You are whining and not about being a working mom, but the fact that you aren't a SAHM. I agree with prev. posts that you are very jealous that you can't have what the rest of us do. And if you think you are bragging cause you can accomplish all this while working a full time job, it is easy to keep a house clean when the whole family is out of the house not making it a mess cause they are at school/daycare and work.

Walk a mile in a SAHM's shoes before you criticize. And really figure out if you don't like their whining (which I haven't heard from any SAHM) or the truth of being absolutely jealous of the opportunities with their children they have that you miss out on.

And if anyone can complain about their 40hrs./wk job, why can't SAHMs complain when they have had a hard day at work? Why do we have to stay quiet? How many husbands come home and complain about some jerk at work? How many times have you come home from work to complain about a co-worker? But a SAHM has to stay quiet? It is obvious you haven't done the job otherwise you would have never posed the question.

Answer 3

You seem bitter about it. Being a working mom IS hard work and so is being a stay at home mom. If you haven't had the opportunity to do it then how do you know how difficult it can be. In no way am I saying it is easy being a working mom...believe me! I know it IS VERY hard work. When you work though you get a break from the 18 year old that is whining and irritatting you and rebeling or the two year old who has a biting problem that no matter what you can't fix. And usually stay at home moms DO also have other jobs or volunteer work to do that working moms CAN'T do because they "WORK SO MUCH".Both jobs are very difficult and each person is different in the way they handle it. My children get to grow up knowing Mommy was home BECAUSE of them. And as far as whining goes, you proved your point!!!

Answer 4

You are certainly a good mom. No, your a great mom and person. I have heard some of the moms you are talking about bi tch and complain and I do realize that they got it tough. Alot of men do take them for granted, and maybe thats why they complain. some complain and don't do anything really, but alot do. And you really have your hands full and should really be praised. My hats off to you. Don't let them other women get to you. You know and now alot of us readers know what kind of person you are. If it wasn't for women like you where would people be? Serious? I think you are great. Keep up the good work and it will pay off with your kids and other ways. My mom was like you. (smile) I have no idea how you can do all you do and I do realize that you (and my mom and other same women) are not shown enough recognition. These complaining women are something else eh?

Answer 5

Well I believe what they mean by the net worth of a stay at home mom is that we don't get paid and if we were to, then that is what we would earn. both stay at home parents and working mothers are "working full time mothers". The difference is that a mother that leaves the home to go to work gets paid and a mother that works full time at home with the kids doesn't. But actually it is priceless, because we get to raise out kids full time and no one else does. So don't make it sound like you are so great because all mothers no matter what they do are good. and the most important job in the world is raising kids and if you are lucky enough to get to stay at home and raise them without daycares then that is wonderful. don't knock them.

Answer 6

You do sound jealous and self admitted you are jealous. It isn't the fault of Stay-At-Home-Moms that your family cannot afford for you to stay at home. If you have reason to complain because you have to work, then what did you do in your life to save up/prepare for parenthood that would allow you NOT to have to work? Maybe you are just upset with your husband because he IS a garbage man, not that it is anything to be ashamed of, cause it is not, he is doing what he can for his family. I agree with previous posts that you really aren't happy with your life and instead of taking ownership for how and where YOU got yourself in life, you are blaming those who have everything you want, but don't have.

My wife is a SAHM and we both discussed it and agreed I would pursue my career and she would give hers up to be a Stay-at-Home-Mom. She works damn hard 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, she has no benefits, no sick days, no vacation days, no personal days, no state required 15 minutes breaks or required lunch hour, she doesn't get paid overtime, she doesn't have a company matching contributions to a 401K and is doing a great job with our daughter. You may be working at a business, but my wife (along with other Stay at Home Moms) is working daily with our countries most important commodity; our children, our future. She makes sure our kids are doing what they should and unlike some moms, not letting them run around tearing up the neighborhood and then claiming their child is oh, so innocent.

So don't knock what my wife does. You have no business when you don't know what the CAREER of Stay-at-Home-Mom really entails. Get educated.

p.s., you aren't a HAPPYDAWG..... Happy doesn't seem to be in your vocabulary.

Answer 7

I feel sad when I see questions like this. Why does it have to be working moms versus stay at home moms? I have done both and feel that there is no reason for resentment.

One thing I do have to say in defense of stay at home moms is that while we are out working, they often fill important volunteer positions at school, such as room mother, library volunteer, or Girl Scout leader. I know I just have time for my children because of my work schedule.

Answer 8

Wow! Someone hates their life!! Sounds like you have a problem with me and I don't even know you. I am and always have been a stay at home mom, and, yeah, I do get tired and I do compain. But, you know what? Just because I don't go out to work doesn't mean that I don't work as many hours as you do! While you are at a job where you get paid for your time, us stay at home moms are the ones that volunteer at the school, at church, at fund raisers, and anywhere else that we are needed. You know, all those things that you don't have time to do for your child because you are at work.
Since I didn't work, I have always been the room mother that planned and worked at all the parties and fall festivals and all the other things at school that your child enjoys. I am, also, the one that was up until 2:00 AM because some of you working moms were supposed to bake, but didn't, because at the last minute, you didn't have the time. You may take your child to these functions, but remember, there wouldn't be any functions without us whining, stay at home moms. I am the whining, stay at home mom that was at school when your child fell and needed a hug to soothe her crying, maybe, she forgot to tell you about that, when she saw you several hours later. There are many working moms who have no choice but to work, and there are many who choose to work, so they can have a bigger house or a newer car. I have no way of knowing who has to or wants to, that is not my concern. I just want to be there for my children and any other child who needs me. I have never resented working moms not doing any of these things, but I do resent working moms who think that they are something special because they work! So what? I am the one taking care of the needs of your child because you can't get off work. I love your children and will do any thing to help them, but please don't accuse us, stay at home moms, of not having as much to do as you, just because we don't get paid. So, next time you see that whining stay at home mom in that old car at the school, maybe instead of resenting her for staying home, you should thank her for being there and doing so much for your child. Because, dear, she does so many things that you never even think about doing. Actually, you owe every stay at home mom an apology.
Oh, and one other thing, for someone who doesn't whine, you should re-read what you wrote. It sure sounds like whining to me!

Answer 9

Please don't generalize. I worked out of the home for well over 30 years and cared for a family as well and usually commuted 2 hours or more every day, and now I'm a Grandma who is home but I watch my Grandson. Both are very challenging. That's why we Mothers should stand tall and be proud of all that we achieve every day of our lives, usually doing it without any prodding or praise, but because we are loving, giving, caring souls.

Answer 10

Then whats the big deal They can whine because for some it does seem hard but thats great you can handle it well