I have this friend whom I talk to alot, he's in the army and deployed , we've sent each other pics and stuff, and he says he has started to feel something for me, but I think its cuz he's lonely over there,plus how can you develop feelings for someone without knowing them and spending time with them in person? I'm kinda confused, I dont even know whats up with that anymore,can yall' help??
2006-07-06 15:24:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I forgot to write that we already exchange numbers, well actually he has mine and he calls me and stuff, I dont have his cuz he cant receive calls only make them, where he's deployed...
2006-07-06 16:40:16 · update #1
NO!
2006-07-06 15:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way Internet relationships are for losers would be if they are already losers. You have no idea how many relationships start on the Internet and when the get together move on to marriage.
I know very well because it happened to me. And it happens to hundreds of thousands.
It is possible to have feelings for someone before you meet because over the Internet all you can do is talk. Sex does not get in the way. So you get to know that person a lot better.
When you get together you have a jump start on that relationship and it can go from there.
This can happen even if you never get together but it can only go so far.
Give your self and this guy a brake.
2006-07-06 23:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, it is possible. I went to high school with my husband but didn't know him very well. I was good friends with his brothers. Fast forward 10 years and he was deployed to Iraq. His picture was posted in our local newspaper and I decided to write him. We wrote for months. Then when he came home on mid tour we went out to dinner and hit it off. We went to dinner and a movie a week later followed by playing pool with his brothers the next night. I met his family when I saw him off at the airport. Over the next 3 months, we IMed and emailed constantly. We talked about all of the major decisions such as our outlooks on religion, politics, children, marriage, family, work, and others. We knew how each other felt on tons of issues. When he came back, we spent another month talking on the phone before I could get time off to go see him at his base. It was wonderful. We got engaged and have been married for almost 2 years now. He is deployed again and we handle this deployment WAY better than a lot of other spouses. We have a great connection. We truly can keep our relationship great through talking. The bottom line is that yes it is possible. I suggest you go with it, but talk about lots of things. Take this time to find out about each other. If you are really compatible it will spark. Good luck.
2006-07-10 21:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by accountant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that with any relationship you would need to spend time together in shared activities, "dating" face-to-face, so if the "Internet" or "the Bar" or "Library" or "College" or "Mutual Friends" "Blind Date" is how you meet, then you would not want that to be the only way you define the relationship, in other words, you met that way, but that is not important once you meet, and like decide to get to know each other as friends...start a friendship and take it slow as you would meet any stranger/pen pal or mutual acquaintance...you just have more to build on ...All relationships must grow into something better to keep it strong...or they stagnate...and as was already said someone or both gets hurt when there's a breakup
2006-07-06 22:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started talking to my man on the internet.. we talked for 8 months and i already had deep feelings for him from the start.. he was just awesome from the beginning.. we met after the 8 months in person and it was the best thing i have ever done in my life.. you hear horror stories on internet relationships and such but he was everything in person as he was sitting behind the computer screen.. so for me it worked.. for some i am sure it dont.. it depends on if ur honest with each other from the get go and not trying to be something your not sitting behind a computer.. cuz you can be anyone on the internet.. but he was everything he said he was and i was honest with him..
2006-07-06 22:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by jamieinia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself fall in love..with love. Real love comes from really knowing a person well and wanting to be with them, and that takes time to develop. He's lonely of course, and I think when he comes home, and you can meet and spend some time together, you'll find things are not what you have built up in your mind that they will be. I think you just enjoy the flirting online and getting acquainted. Have fun with it, but don't get lost in the fantasy of 'love.' Just have fun and see what happens when he comes home. No need to be anything more than great and fun friends for now.
2006-07-06 22:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by dmavina53 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet relationships are a SHAM. Do not trust anything anyone types over the internet. It's usually a bunch of BS. Never get into a relationship unless you can be with that person physically and spend time with them in person. Good Luck.
2006-07-06 22:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my fiance on Match.com and it is the best thing that has ever happened to me!!! (and I'm not a loser.) You really just have to go with your gut feeling about people. I wouldn't get too wrapped up in him just yet because he might just be lonely like you said. And later on down the road, if you get hurt, just try to move on to something better. I believe that there is someone for everyone, so keep looking and follow your heart. Just try to get to know him better. You could end up with a friend out of it at least. :)
2006-07-06 22:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know. He could lay that at night staring at your pic. Thinking how pretty and nice person your are. Sometimes, people falls in love in the darnest way. Just because you hear horror stories about relationship on here. Does not mean, that some of them don't work out.
Keep in touch with him. He could really have feeling's for you. You don't never know, till you find out.
2006-07-06 22:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how it all starts by bein friends frist, i have this friend that meet a guy own internet, an i thought she was crazy, but they spoke everynight than they started calling each other, 5 months ago he came an got her , just for her to see if things would grow, an it did now there getting married, an trust me she a shy girl , an ive met all of her boyfriends an they lived around us, they was losers, this guy she with is great. an is really good to her, so take your time with this guy, who no it may be the one.
2006-07-06 22:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe Internet relationships can work. My good friend met her now boyfriend and they have a great relationship. You may be right that he is having feelings because he's lonely or he could truly have genuine feelings. Take it one day at a time and see what happens!
2006-07-06 22:30:43 · answer #11 · answered by EllieMae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋