So you guys are my comfort area right now. So i have to ask this..how in the heck do i deal with my jealous cousin? She is really jealous that im pregnant and shes not..she wants a baby really bad, and shes mad because im pregnant..and shes not because i guess she has been trying with guys. The thing about her is she goes both ways(so to speak) and she likes ATTENTION really bad. We had a family bbq today, and like she wanted the attention really bad..everytime someone would ask my boyfriend and i a question about our baby or what we were going to name it or anything at all to our baby, she would blurt something out like ''I know when i have a baby..blah blah blah'' its pisses me off, and i dont know what to do?!?!
2006-07-06 14:55:43 · 19 answers · asked by xxlilmekristyrae32xx 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hey ~ new to this answer thing but .. thought i would give it a go ...
some people need lime light all the time .. they suck themselves deep into a "hey look at me" phase in their lives and don't always realize they are in it.
as i see it you do have a couple of choices .. depending on how close you and your cousin are and what you truly wish to achieve.
*you can quietly dismiss her behavior ... knowing she has a fickle mind set to want a child of her own and that she feels you are getting the attention for being with child ... (which is probably not the one you want to hear .. else you would not be in this forum)
*if the relationship between you both is a strong family bond .. then you have to decide if speaking up is the avenue that might make her see how imature her behavior is ... and maybe set her in the place with something like .. "Cousin, you know you mean the world to me .. but this constant 'hey put me first attitude" is sucking my resorces dry ... I am sorry that you are not finding the results in what you are praying for right now .. but when your turn comes .. I will be right here with you to share in the special moment .. could you please for this moment let me revel in what miracles are coming my way ... "
*or just get up and walk away ... leave the conversation enough times ... and she may just get the drift ... but don't let her spoil this for you ... its all a matter in your choices in how you let her get inside your headspace ... you dont have to give her the free rent sign .. just walk away like you were not even aware she was there ... its hard to stand center stage when there is no audience.
may i be so bold now to say .. congradulations .. may this pregnancy be a delight and the birth of your child a miracle to last your life time ..
ever thought provoked and in search of ~ blyss
2006-07-06 15:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by wyldeblyss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. It sounds like she wants a baby and she is having a hard time dealing with it. It is always better to be the bigger person. If you take the high road, you will avoid the retaliation she would throw your way.
Anyway, she sounds like she is self centered and she is going to have a rough time when she does actually have a child. When you are pregnant, the attention is all on you. But once that baby arrives, mom no longer exists. If you are not already reasonably well-adjusted, it is a big shock.
2006-07-06 15:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is selfish. I'm sure everyone else can see that too. It's too bad she is so starved for attention, but there isn't much you can do to stop her unless she decides to change her attitude.
Maybe talking to her would help. Tell her that you care about her, but not the way she is acting. It's possible someone can get through to her. Let's hope she doesn't get pregnant until she straightens up because someone so selfish would not make a good parent.
Don't stress yourself out over this. It wouldn't be good for you or your baby.
2006-07-06 15:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's just the 2 of you, let her know that you realize how badly she wants a baby. (It doesn't sound as tho she is mature enough to be a Mother) Let her know that this is a very exciting time for you & when her time comes, you'll be just as happy for her. In the mean time, let her know that it hurts your feelings that she is mad & acting out because of your pregnancy. When she is confronted about it one on one, she will probably soften up. Tell her you want her to be there for you & help you buy new baby clothes, etc., but if she continues to show out, that you'll have no choice but to distance yourself & the baby from her. Being stressed out while pregnant is not healthy for you or the baby.
2006-07-06 15:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by inthepecangrove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more than a few ways that I can think of when it comes to handling the situation. However, the adult thing to do is realize that she has issues. As difficult as it may be to overlook them, I doubt you would resolve anything by confronting her. The next time she blurts out let her finish what she has to say and then look at the person who asked the question and say "to answer your question we......." Try not to let it get you to so much. It sounds like you are really excited and it would be a shame to let her spoil this special time for you.
2006-07-06 15:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that she's jealous, but its hard to go through trying to get pregnant when people close to you actually are pregnant. Maybe your cousin doesn't realize she's doing that. Enjoy your pregnancy and ignore your cousin whether she's intentionally or unintentionally trying to steal your joy, don't let her. Hope you have an event-free pregnancy and a smooth labor (is that an oxymoron?
2006-07-06 15:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to pry too much into his stuff because than it puts up a wall of defense between the two of you. I use to be the same way and it did me no good to get worked up and upset. If your boyfriend says he loves you, and treats you well, wants to be there for you and the baby, than trust him. My boyfriend (husband-to-be) talks to a few female friends, and the only reason I don't like one of them is cause she is a nut case, but other than that, I learned not to get crazy or jealous. You don't want to cause friction between the two of you cause who needs it? I wish you luck and congrats on the baby:)
2016-03-27 07:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being depressed will affect your baby, if you keep on getting pissed by your cousin you should do a move. tell her to go to a doctor and have her body examined to know the reason why she couldnt bare a baby. dont let your happy pregnancy be affected by crazy people around you. enjoy having her/him in you. congrats and take care
2006-07-06 15:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how she makes you feel. You say she's trying with guys so maybe she should consider waiting until she is settled down with one guy. If she doesn't understand then just try to ignore her for now, but return it when she is pregnant by saying when we have another baby we're going to................!
2006-07-06 15:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by missee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it and dont let it stress you out. Maybe you can stop hanging out with her so much, at this point in your life you need supportive people around you, Some people just cant stand to see other people happy.
2006-07-06 15:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by momma2jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋