Do you believe that you could remain in a relationship with someone who doesn't satisfy you sexually?

Answer 1

NO. not if you are young and thriving and the other person is healthy and thriving. I mean if they are in a horrible accident and can not perform then yes it will if you love them unconditonally. But if you both are healthy there is something wrong if there is no sexual chemistry. It is important for both people to be on the same level for it to work. If you are with someone who can lay next to you at night and not want to touch you then you are either dealing with some major problems or homosexual hiding. It is unfair to u if they are not giving you that type of intimacy. I know for myself that i need that intimacy but i am young healthy and a person whom likes to express my love through sex with my husband as i do with caring for his children, our home, our business and caring for our marriage. If he did not want me sexually i would be devastated. now if you are talking about the fact that you can't orgasam then yes you can make that work and you can find many avenues to make it happen. Communication is the key to it. Both of you must be on the same page with different avenues but it must be worked out

Answer 2

I think that it is possible, but exceptionally hard, and in too many circumstances, not worth it. Needless to say, many "Intimate adult" relationships are differentiated from other family or friend relationships BECAUSE of the sexual element which allows for a greater degree of truly intimate communication. Since this is the general case, there is truly very little to differentiate an unsatisfying sex partner from a friend with whom you have no chances of sexual contact. Well, the really GLARING difference between the two would be the absence of frustration in regard to that friend. It is common, after all to say, "I love you as a friend, but not THAT way." So even a sexy friend isn't going to cause the frustration that a sexy (or at least sexually appealing enough) partner will.

It is possible that a person COULD remain in a relationship with someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually, and quite often, many marriages are confronted with this situation. But if sexual satisfaction fails to appear in such a relationship, the natural urge/inclination would be to seek satisfaction elsewhere, either in reality or in fantasy. In either instance, the unsatisfying partner is NOT involved...or exists as someone to "escape" from, if only for the span of a climax or two...or three...or fifty.

The bottom line is, if you're in a relationship that isn't satisfying you in the ways that you need to be satisfied, then you should get out. Even if you love the person who doesn't satisfy you, you're doing yourself a disservice and ultimately hurting that other person. IF satisfaction can be achieved simply by telling that person what satisfies you and explaining its significance, then definitely talk about it, get it out in the open. But don't confront your parnter. Don't talk about it in a way that belittles him/her or hurts feelings. Offer suggestions and be open for reciprocal critiques...in fact, encourage them, especially if you want the unsatisfying relationship to work.

All relationships exist as a form of communication. During the act of sex, two people are at their most honest. It's often been said that during lovemaking we are absolutely truthful about ourselves...we give what we so profoundly want. So, by this logic the person giving but not satisfying may actually be a completely incompatible person to you. And it is often for this reason that relationships end. Whether you love the person or not, you're gonna intinctively seek out OTHER people who satisfy you...not because it's satisfaction that you seek, but ultimately, compatibility. People who are not compatible with you ARE NOT going to satisfy you. There isn't enough common ground for this.

If sexual compatibility involves an idiosyncracy or even a kink of some sort, it's probably easy to teach the partner to express or allow the expression of this kink. If it's something a bit more deep-seated, it's possible that even after discussing the issue, the person may still not satisfy. In which case my advice is definitely to get out of the situation before you hurt yourself and the other person in the process. Get out, but talk about it first, do something to salvage what you can, if you DO have feelings for this person and this person has feelings for you.

But ultimately, the choice is yours, in regard to leaving, so trust your own intincts, and if you have friends with whom you can honestly discuss this, then discuss this with your friends, especially if they're good at giving advice and/or have been in a similar situation.

Answer 3

Definitely. By putting less emphasis on the sexual aspect of the relationship, you can explore other aspects and grow closer to one another. However, if it is very serious to you, communicate. Tell the person how you feel, and if he cares about you and the relationship, he will try to get to the root of the problem. Bottom line.

Answer 4

yes i believe it's possible, if everything else in the marriage/relationship is good.

Sex is all about discovery, rent videos buy the Karma sutra and have fun trying things out in the book, get naked and stay that way all weekend, play cards and have the loser fufill at fantasy, there's alsorts of things to rediscover or discover and make the sex good again.

Answer 5

1 Satisfaction is not only thro' sex but mentally & spiritly also required.
2 if u lov then satisfaction of above likely get.
3 however one if not satisfied but because of children u are bound to live & keep relationship with spouse.

Answer 6

I know I could because I did for over 10 years.

Answer 7

Most definately. I'm in it more to be with the person and spend time with the person. Relationships shouldn't be all about sex. At least that's how I feel.

Answer 8

I should believe though...I ask myself for that question and I answered back with "PATIENCE"....I mean,,,not everybody's good in bed or in sex..If you're good at it,,express it to him/her and teach her/him...I know that it feels good if your partner knows what you want,you know,,a little here and there....But, don't you think that it's more exciting,if you'll be the mentor and the other, apprentice...It's essential to love the person first before giving ANYTHING and RECEIVING everything...

Answer 9

nope, because when you are in a relationship most of the time sex is very important. if there are things that you want to do but cant do because of your partner, you will want to cheat. I know because of the relationship I'm in now

Answer 10

Yes i think i could if i had to , thankfully i do not have that issue with Fred....But if something arose that could not be fixed within those lines, i could deal with it because i love him so much, i could not imagine my life without him......for me sex, is just one small part of our relationship, now he would probably disagree with me on that one though...lol