In a commited relationship, do you consider looking a porn emotional cheating? How does it make you feel to know that your significant other is gaining sexual gratification from looking at others?
2006-07-06 14:37:42 · 27 answers · asked by Lisa T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To add more detail the other half was using pictures to satisfy himself, when he could have me anytime he wants, in nearly any way. His excuse was that we had fought, and he felt justified in looking.
He knew before we got together that I did not approve of porn in any way, shape, or form. When caught the first time he promised not to do it again. He did. Broke my trust, my feelings, etc. Put a dent in the relationship, but we are working through it. He says it is a habit that goes back to when he was 14. He was also single, no sex, for a year before we got together, and used porn as a means of sexual gratification.
2006-07-06 14:58:36 · update #1
In a word...NO.
I would say you can't give a definitive definition of porn. What is referred to as porn by modern law isn't what it was hundreds of years ago.
There is nothing sinful or wrong or anything else about watching porn. Like anything else however too much of it and it becomes very boring and repetitive. Most people who watch porn only do it occasionally.
2006-07-06 15:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not cheating. It is what it is. you look at it because it is appealing and you want to get off does not mean that you are substituting it for a relationship or falling for the actors involved. It is something u can actually do with your partner to heat stuff up sometimes. I know me and my husband have a healthy sex life and we I am more prone to watch porn than he is believe it or not. But once in blue we will watch one together. Within 5 min of watching it we are already going at it. Don't look to into it.
Unless you are addicted to it then there is a problem and you will become desensitized to sex and will only be able to climax to porn and not with the emotion that comes from your lover.
2006-07-06 21:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on if the other person has stated that porn is not to be viewed...since your icon is a woman I'd assume that your man is watching porn behind your back...if this is the case, let him know that it bothers you and you do ot appreciate that he had "lied" to you. Ask him why he is watching it. Ask him if there is something that you can do in the bedroom that he would like to try. Although, it as to be something that you are willing to try. If you are not open minded in the bedroom, it could be forcing him to watch porn to satisfy himself.
Couples that play together, stay together.
Don't be shy or embarrassed to try new things in bed.
Most men do not watch porn to see other women have sex...it is usually just to see "sex," period! The women really have nothing to do with it...the acts of sex alone are enough.
I hope I have helped, even just a little
2006-07-06 21:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts like hell to know that the person you love watches it. I think it's similar to cheating, without the actual act. It's like your not enough for them so they have to go find pleasure else where. But a lot of time it's just a weakness. It's a habit that they picked up during their life, similar to smoking or drinking, that they just can't seem to stop doing....
I confronted my bf about porn that I found on his computer just a few months ago. All went well and he deleted it. But it did make me feel really down on myself. I felt like I wasn't enough. That I wasn't pretty enough. That I didn't give him enough. I cried for three days over it! :-P I know, I'm such a girl, but hey I'm a one person and one person only kind of gal. That means no porn, no cheating, nothing.
But like everything else in the world, everyone else has their own opinion about it. Guys are going to say there's nothing wrong with it and surprisingly most girls will too. So in our society, it isn't considered cheating. But I think that it's just as bad.
2006-07-06 21:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer7787 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, porn is cheating. He is lusting after other women, even if he never does more than look. If my husband were viewing porn I would feel like I wasn't enough for him. It would make me feel like less of a woman. It's degrading. I think I would have a difficult time wanting to make love with him, wondering if he was seeing those porn images instead of me. Everyone has fantasies, but using porn goes beyond mere fantasy. If he really loves you he'll respect you and your wishes and stay away from the porn. God bless!
2006-07-06 21:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. I would certainly feel betrayed and unworthy if my husband looked at porn. I think it is vile and destroys families. The people I know that watch or look at the stuff become obsessed. It becomes a drug for them. They treat their spouses with very little respect and expect them to perform like the people they look at. They look at porn stars and their phony body's and attitudes and make their significant other feel ugly and unsatisfactory. If someone in a relationship feels they need porn to be gratified then they should reanalyze their situation.
2006-07-06 21:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people is going to say no it isnt. I think it is b/c someone else is turning you on. Now if you both watch it then I think it is ok. I never understand why people watch porn anyway. Yea, we did as a kid but come on. If you are in a relationship you should have everything you want, if not then I would say you need to start looking again.
2006-07-06 21:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, yes. When you lack attention to your mate because you are busy looking at porn, then yes it is consider a dorm of cheating. If you give your mate the attention that you've given him before lloking at porn, then no it's not cheating, but remember looking at porn is a sin!!!!!
2006-07-06 21:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Tyletha D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating. I would not want my significant other to look at any other female except for me, I don't care if it is in a magazine or on a video or what it is. I should be the only woman that he looks at. He is cheating!!! That will only lead to something else. If I'm not good enough for him to look at then he needs to move on down the line or else I will.
2006-07-06 21:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,
because there is such a thing as an emotional affair...and looking at porn isn't it...that's when an actual person is present with no sexual activity...
then of course there's the sexual affair...
I don't consider porn cheating,but if you feel that strongly about it and he does it again,you have the right to be upset...
2006-07-06 21:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋