does my boyfriend have the right to tell me this...?

Question

i am 20 weeks pregnant and i find out what i am having tomorrow and we are fighting over names he wants to name the baby elliot and i was being honest with him and told him that i really did not like that name well then he had the nerve to tell me if the babys name is not that he is going to break up with me and leave and i told him he should just calm down cause we don't know what it is yet then he said if it's not a boy and it's a girl he will be mad and not talk to me what do you guys think i should do thanks!

Answer 1

Sounds like you got a "my way or no way kind of guy on your hands" That sort of "tough" attitude may appeal to you now, but do you want to put up with it for 50 years, or until he wants to leave again over something else trivial. Or for that matter raise a baby in that environment. Stop thinking about tomorrow and start thinking hard about you and your baby's future.

Answer 2

How Old is this imature JERK?? the first thing about being a couple is learning to talk about things and come up with a reasonable way of deciding together, ask him if he would consider useing elliot for the middle name then the both of you could pick a first name. I have bad news for your boyfriend it's a 50/50 shot the man is the deciding factor on your little swimmers on who made it first BOY or GIRL so how could you get mad. as long as your baby is healthy. oh yeah does he want to help name if he has a daughter. he must not realize how wonderfull it can be having a GIRL to protect and teach her how to have a great man in life. All in all if thats all this boyfriend does is threaten with his way or no way you need to put your foot down and tell him to take a walk that you don't need him. Don't let him make you feel like you need him or you won't make it cuz you will, he sounds like a HUGE BABY!!! you really need to think about your furture with this boy, is he really worth putting up with, will he ever grow up? my experience a boy does'nt become a Man until they are around 40 no kidding. I'm 30 my husband is 45 and I could'nt be any more happy in my life than i am now, & believe me I have been through some CRAP with the father of my children we were young when we first meet, then had a child 1991 a SON 6yrs11months later in 2000 we had a GIRL that's what broke us he did'nt want another baby so he cheated we broke up, anyway my point is you can al ways make it without a childish BOY in your life making things harder on you.

Answer 3

I agree with fmina - if he's such a control freak that the name of the baby will make him deny his child and leave you on your own, it sounds like it's just a stupid excuse! Mark my words...if you cave in and name the child Elliot, he'll just find some other threat to hang over your head and eventually leave you anyway.

You're going to be the one (obviously) raising this child in the long run so name the baby what YOU want - I've known three men who pulled the same thing on the girls they got pregnant and neither one is with the girl or the baby today: one has a son who's now about 15, one has a 5 year old girl and the third has a 4 year old boy.

PS Hope you find out it's a girl!

Answer 4

Ignore it. My fiance said he wasn't signing the birth certificate if we didn't have a boy. Well, not only did he get a girl that time, our second baby was a girl.lol He signed the birth certificate both times.

edit-I honestly feel it's a guy thing. Men say stupid things. My fiance is far from a skunk. He's a great father. Works his butt off but ALWAYS makes time for me and our girls.

tieia, I said he did that when i got PREGNANT. He doesn't treat me bad at all. He's never belittled me, never hit me etc. I agree with Jewel. My fiance and I were both young when I got pregnant. Had some growing up to do you know. He doesn't still act like that at all. We were both just scared about having a baby for the first time. Having a baby makes you grow up really fast

Answer 5

He is most likely panicing about becoming a father. My husband and I had our first child when we were 18 and we fought all the time. Now that baby is seven and we have been together nine years and married for three. I would let him calm down and suggest that you both write down girls and boys names and you two can sit down and pick out a name together. Or just do like I did name the baby what you want for the first name and give him or her the name your boyfriend wanted for the middle. Good Luck

Answer 6

I think you should've waited longer to get pregnant. This is the problem with immature couples and pregnancy. Your boyfriend is an immature boy. He probably won't leave because of the name, but be sure that he'll leave at some point. Good luck in finding a real baby daddy later. Sorry, I tell the truth because I don't like to lie or sugarcoat things.

Answer 7

First off, the sex of the child is determined by the sperm donor & God. It sounds like he is very imature & self centered. Regardless of that, being that he is the Father, you need to tell him that is stressful & him making demands & arguing is not healthy for the baby or you. Tell him you'll discuss names at a later time. If it is a girl & he chooses not to speak to you, then that will be his loss. You have to be concerned with your & your childs health & well being. Go ahead & be making plans (especially financial) to raise your child without this young man. If he stays around fine, if not, then you'll be prepared to raise your child like a good mother would. If it is a boy & he still insist on Elliott, then name him Elliott, or use it as a middle name. It's your child, call him whatever you wish.

Answer 8

If he is going to break up with you over a name, then he's got alot of growing up to do. He shouldn't be having a baby! Besides the both of you should agree on a name. Both parent's should be involved. Why should he get to pick the name he's not the one that has to be pregnant for 9 mos. and then go through labor and recoop after that while still having to take care of an infant. You better put him in check!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

~Get the filiation acknowledgement now and save the paternity suit down the road. He's not going to be around long after the kid is born. Probably won't be there for the birth, in fact, which gives you namming rights by default.
I like the comprimise in your relationship.
You don't say how old you are, but my guess is, not more than 16. (At least, if you two are having discussions such as you relate, I hope you're not over 16) You other kiddies paying attention to this.
For your sake, and the kid's, don't marry this guy. For society's sake, don't have any more children.

Answer 10

What an idiot. You obviously already have a baby in the house already... you don't need to wait another 20 weeks to get one.

Personally, I'm with you. Think about this when the child is in school... "Elliot the Idiot, Elliot is smelly it..."

Think of a better name... how about DarthFangNutts?