she was only two. I dont know want to say. I am scared I might say something wrong and hurt her feeling.
2006-07-06 13:58:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I lost my youngest two years ago. Please do not avoid her because you don't know what to say! Be there, bring her a meal, help with the funeral, let her cry.
I lost several friends when my son died, she doesn't need that now.
And she'll need you for months to come.
Let her lead the conversation, but don't avoid talking about her precious child! You're afraid you might hurt her feelings??? Her feelings can't BE hurt any more than they are! Just let her share them with you!
Everyone asks what they can do, but many don't mean it. Besides, she doesn't know what she needs. What you can do is listen. It will be hard for you, but not nearly as hard as it is for her, believe me.
But please, don't tell her how sad it was when your cat died, or even your mother. Unless you've lost a child, you don't know how it feels. I lost a brother, both parents and plenty of pets, and NOTHING compares to the loss of your child.
She'll wake up every single morning for a long time thinking "Oh, God, I have to help her! No, she's gone! No!" You know that feeling when your kid is missing for a moment? Multiply it by weeks and weeks.
Sorry, I got carried away. But I wish I could be there for another mother, because I'd do those things. Do it for me, please? Do it for your friend. And do it for yourself, it'll make you a stronger, wiser woman.
2006-07-06 14:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do is stop avoiding your friend. You need to be there for her to comfort her. I know that in times of grief, friends of the people who lost a loved one are very uncomfortable seeing their friends. They assume they do not know the "right" thing to say or that their friend "wants to be alone in their grief." Actually the opposite is true. Your friend might wondedr why you are not there for her or even calling her. Just try to make an effort to have lunch with her, call her or even just plain old hang out stopping by for a visit. Maybe she needs someone to open up to. If you don't call or visit she will think her friends have abandoned her in a time of need.
You don't have to bring up the loss unless she does.
Good luck.
2006-07-06 14:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by katisadiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your sympathy and sorrow over her loss without mentioning the details. Let her know that if she needs you, you will be there.
(It's hard to believe a 2 year old hung herself. It must have been an accident?)
2006-07-06 14:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do is don't say anything. Just hug her and be by her side, listen to her, go to eat together, cry together and if she want to talk about it then talk with your heart. Accidents happens and after all that could happen to anyone. Pray for her please, God will help her and remember bad things happen all the time to good people.
2006-07-06 14:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mamarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a two year old hung herself?
i am scared to talk to you.
forget i said anything
2006-07-06 14:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by boss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how would a 2 year old hang herself?
2006-07-06 14:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by southern_wolf46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say what you would to anyone else who has lost a loved one. Tell her you're sorry for her loss and go from there.
2006-07-06 14:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST BE AROUND HER IF SHE NEEDS U N LISTEN MORE THAN U TALK CUZ TALKING IS WHAT HURTS PPL IF U SAY TOO MUCH
2006-07-06 14:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by kiddo=\ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then dont say anything dont bring it up unless she does.
2006-07-06 14:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by mojomuppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋