we're almost 1 year and 3 months. for that months im always the one who pay the expenses food, fare. sometimes when im in their house i am the one who buy food for them. because he has no work, he was with his grandmother. right now he has a work but when he had his medical he has a uti he decided to not to wokr he decided to rest first.he has a credit to me worth 2k. another thing was, we fight always, because of small things, i told him that i want to end our relationship because when he mad at me he told mo things that really hurt, he told me bad things. but he didnt want me to let go, he use to blackmail me, he always told me that if i leave him he will tell my parents that his my boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months. Im afraid for that because my parents didnt know about our relationship. I really need some advice
2006-07-06 13:56:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok i know this is hard but to beat a blackmailer you have to take away what they have. so suck it up and tell your parents then drop the dead beat. he is obviously using you and so is his family. you don't need that.and as far as the credit you might as well write it off unless you want to spend another 2 years trying to get it back.
2006-07-06 14:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u are so cool, and a nice person. If I had a girlfriend like you who would do all these things like 2k free hahah I would never do those bad things to you.
Unfortunatey i never did.
Anyways, to ease up your worries, your parents are probably more worried about u than your secret relationships. I do not understand the blackmail at all. Are your family really conservative and strict that they might kick you out of the family for good? Is there more to the story that u dont want to share?
If u are really worried about your parents, maybe u can just tell them that he is lying and perhaps take legal actions? lol
2006-07-06 21:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by kevin k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End this relationship, and end it fast. To begin with, it looks like he really does not want to work and is freeloading on you. It bothers you, so you need to stop doing for him as far as finances go---what is worse though is that he does seem to be an abuser(verbally), and that has a tendency to escalate and get worse---first it is hurtful words, then hurtful hands---he will hit you sooner or later and you do not have to allow it.
You do not need his permission to end the relationship. You simply tell him it is over. If he doesn't want to accept that, that is his problem, not yours. It is time for you to enjoy yourself again. This whole thing doesn't even sound like a loving and caring relationship, it doesn't even sound like a friendship--so get out. Those who care about you will not verbally abuse you.
2006-07-06 21:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to continue any relationship that you are unhappy in. Do not let him bully you. That is a form of abuse. Get out now and dont look back. You deserve better.
2006-07-06 21:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by lifes_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to beat this guy at his own game. I think you can do that!!! This guy is dead wood (an expression). This will never quit!!! Get out while you can. FAST!!! And never look back.
2006-07-06 21:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn how to write. go to school, leave that loser.
2006-07-06 21:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by nthny_dms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋