OK... true, i was traded in for a younger model, a 19 yr old to be exact. YUCK!!! Quickly found gorgeous male who is pretty awesome, asked me to marry him... soooo why am i soooo scared???? And apprehensive to remarry he is wonderful, kind, beautiful, christian, loves my children. and loves me soooo much.
2006-07-06 13:28:52 · 20 answers · asked by Stephanie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for it
2006-07-06 13:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by stone cold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be scared. I am divorced as well and have had several ask me to marry them, fear did play a part of not doing it again but when it came right down to it I wasn't ready and maybe you are not ready yet either. How long have you been with this guy? Is it truly fear from the past or maybe there is something more to you not being sure. Only you know the answer take some time, if he truly is Mr. Perfect he will understand you want to wait a bit just be sure to explain all your feelings about it openly, if he is not willing to wait maybe he is not the one for you. Once you are ready you will still feel some fear but it won't be so overwhelming.
2006-07-06 13:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by tarows_sorrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 100% normal to be leary about re-entering into another situation that could possibly resemble ur last. That's a good thing, too, it shows that u learned from ur mistake.
However, a good man is hard to come by. Since u know how ur last husband was, sit back and watch ur new-love. Does he have any characteristics or traits that resemble ur x-husband's bad behaviors? Have u been with him long enough to know EXACTLY how he reacts to situations...wat he would think or what he would say?
Watever u decide to do, remember that actions speak louder than words. It's so easy to say, "I love u" and "I won't break ur heart". And never, EVER try to look over anything that's not acceptable to u...it won't change.
2006-07-06 13:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to fear something like this after all no one wants to go through the same thing again so you don't have a problem, you should talk to Mr right he sounds alright, he would be understanding to your situation so don't let this bother you
but understand the way it may make him feel if he has asked you to marry him he is taking a chance to, so if you love him then say yes don't let this opportunity pass you might regret it if you do
we never know the outcome of anything in our lives and it's taking chances that sometimes find us happiness
i hope your decision brings you all the joy you deserve and good luck with the future
2006-07-06 13:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being hurt by your husband the way you was has made you create a wall against men. One that you may not even know about. Just remember this is not the same man. You may still be scared it would be a new marriage. Just go with what feels best in your heart.
2006-07-06 13:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fear your feeling is one of repeating past mistakes I too was traded in and I too have a great partner and we have made an agreement that we will not talk marriage untill both of us feel settled and comfortable doing so it works for us but your man sounds great.... give the poor fellow the benifit of the doubt. By the way saying no kills a relationship quite often so be careful if you break it to him that your not quite ready yet. Tell him how you feel you may be pleasantly suprised he may be really understanding of the way your feeling.
2006-07-06 13:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal, yes, but unfair to your current guy to judge him by the ex's behavior. I was married to a total jerk and it took six years after the divorce for the right guy to come along. We've now been married 8 years and have a wonderful relationship, and the passion is even stronger than it was at the beginning.
If you burn yourself on the stove, do you stop cooking?
2006-07-06 13:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very normal reaction to have. You have to learn to trust again. Not every male is like your ex. Give the guy a chance to prove that he is worthy of your love. Take a chance. That's what life is made of.
2006-07-06 13:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by lifes_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen him angry?
Have you seen him happy?
Have you seen him stressed?
Have you seen him tired?
Have you seen him overworked?
Have you seen him under worked?
Look at his behavior under all of these circumstances and than make a choice But really you can not reduce this down to risk free logical choice. You must know he is the one and that can only be done, by meditating(or praying in silence) and just listening and letting your intuition tell you the best answer for you and your family.
2006-07-06 13:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by don 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why say no to Love? Lets just hope this time your eyes are open. Then let your last marriage go to waste. Not that I'm saying anything about you but "A smart wife never loses her husband to trash without getting the bigger half of EVERYTHING"
2006-07-06 13:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by MARIA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is not abnormal but you should not say yes if you are having these feelings of doubt.Only remarry when you have no seconds thoughts and know in your heart that it is right. Best wishes. Sarah.
2006-07-06 13:42:23 · answer #11 · answered by sarah8here 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋