He wonts to stay on the com. all the time or go out to his moms so he doesnt have to deal with his responsibility. and he doesnt really provide for him either.
2006-07-06 13:27:50 · 9 answers · asked by Mandy M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him. You and your child will be stronger and better off without thinking you'll have him to depend on. It doesn't seem like it would hurt you too much financially - you might even be better off.
2006-07-06 13:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds as though you have made a large mistake. If you can go back to your parents home or to another relatives home (grandma?) it may be a good idea to do so at this time. (before you have another baby to take care of alone) I hope you will take care of yourself and the baby and do not even try to have a marriage with this person until he grows up, if he ever does. If he wants to be with you he will have to prove that he can be a man. He must have a good job, a savings account, provide a decent home for you and the baby. Until he can prove these things to you do not continue a relationship with him. This may be a permanent split, but if this is how he is you will be much better off.
2006-07-06 13:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like what i went threw. it was a shock to me when it happened and the reality of it over whelmed me. i suddenly felt trapped, that my life was over and this is what it's going to be like from now on.
I don't know what to say it took me time to realize i wanted to be involved but at first the child use to scare me. i had no idea what to do to help why the child was crying. if my girl was hungry, needed to burp, needed a changing, or what?!?!? it's something overwhelming for me. and sorry to tell you it lasted for almost till the baby could start to at least gesture as to what she wanted.
what made me want to not get involved was that i had no way to communicate or understand my child and maybe that's what is happening to your man. when a man doesn't know what to do he feels very helpless, useless and would do anything to avoid the situation. sit him down and see if this it the situation. don't nag him or he'll just block you out or try to make his exit.
or you could not talk to him and take everyones advice on here and leave him. they could be right too that he doesn't want to be a father. after all that would be easier. just remember just because it's easier it isn't right.
good luck and congrats on the child.
2006-07-06 13:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- i am so sorry, parenting is such a priveledge. Second... do the best you can yourself, and GOD
dont have any more kids w this idiot.
Children will do well if they have ONE loving, caring, giving parent..
good luck :)
steph
2006-07-06 13:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his a**!!! are u crazy? u didnt make them babies by yourself. Tell him to go move with his momma. Then put him on child support.He'll wish he would of helped.But dont tell him, just do it. Men are scared of them papers
2006-07-06 14:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say his age but he sounds so immature and I feel sorry for you that he just does not seem ready for fatherhood. Wish you the best.
2006-07-06 13:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to raise the kid, he has a right not to, and the kid also has a right not to be raised around someone who clearly didn't want him or her. Leave your husband and raise the kid yourself.
2006-07-06 13:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him that same question and then make your decision on his response
2006-07-06 13:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do it all on your own what do you need him for?........You can get that anywhere and probably even better.
2006-07-06 13:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋