Should we find out?

Question

I have been debating if my husband and I should find out what we are having!
I want to find out because i would like the nursery and everything perfect a month before the baby comes!
He doesn't because he wants it to be a surprise! But you mother's out there probably know that after having kids, surprises are the last thing you need!
My husband says we can decorate the nursery neutral colors for babies like yellow and green, but has any one seen a jaundice baby in green or yellow? Yikes!
Any thoughts or experiences you would like to share?
Please Help, I need to convince him!

Answer 1

i found out..becuase i wanted to have everything ready to go..like a pink nursery *we ended up using classic winnie the pooh* but i also was able to buy clothing for a girl..instead of Unisex..

i liked knowing..plus i wanted a girl badly..and i got it..so it made me happy. i loved being able to know what i need and if its for a girl/boy

My daughter had jaundice too..but it is harder to notice in nuetral colors.

you could always find out..and he could wait til its born?..its just such a relief knowing what your having!

Answer 2

I loved not knowing what I having. It made the whole pregnancy so much fun, we were always guessing and everyday my baby felt like something else. There were always so many fun possibilities. When my daughter was born and the doctor handed her to me I didn't even think to look I was so absorbed in her beautiful face, and when someone said "its a girl" I burst in to tears it was so wonderful. My second is due in three weeks and we don't know with this one either. There are so few true surprises in life, this is one of the best. Don't worry about the nursery or the clothes, your baby will be beautiful in whatever color.

And as a side note, when people found out we had a girl we got so many packages filled with cute little dresses I didn't know what to do with them all!


I noticed that a lot of people are saying that you can find out and your husband can wait... I think this ruins some of the fun. My husband and I have a great time talking about what our baby could be, coming up with lots of different names, and making little jokes about what each of us hopes it will be. How will you and your husband discuss names if you know its a boy and he's thinking it could be either?

Answer 3

I heard that I shouldnt find out becuase it is the only true suprise in life~ However, I found out because I really dont like the unknown and I just like you, wanted to have the nursery theme picked out and everything ready for the baby. It sure made the shower easier too because I could tell people what I was having and I got a lot of cute clothes. Otherwise, you get a lot of gender neutral outfits!

Answer 4

We have three kids. With 2, we found out; with 1, we didn't. I enjoyed being surprised - especially because I was certain we were having a boy but was proven wrong - but I will probably not be surprised again.

I think it made it slightly more difficult for me to bond with my baby before she was born, if that makes any sense. I didn't know anything about her, she was like a little stranger who happened to live in my womb. :-) It was frustrating that we couldn't buy any new clothing for her. I had a lot of boy stuff, but all the stuff I had from my daughter was on loan so we had nothing for my new baby girl.

Also, if this is your first, you will be stuck with nothing but green and yellow clothing! If you have a baby shower, no one will know what colors of anything to get you. YOu'll get better stuff if you know the gender. :-)

You could do what I did with my first. I wanted to find out the sex and my husband didn't. With his approval I got my ultrasound and had the technician write the sex on one of the pictures. I put it in my purse and didn't look at it. When my husband and I were together later, we debated over whether to look or not. He finally decided we should because he couldn't stand having it written down and not being able to read it!

Answer 5

Surprises are nice, but when it comes to what the baby is, I'd rather know. With my son, I decided to find out because I was a single mom on a limited income at the time, and finding out made it easier for friends and family to help out. For the nursery, you can do neutral themes (like winnie the pooh and precious moments). Plus, if you already have kids (and saved their clothes and other items), you can see what you have and figure out what you need.

Answer 6

Yes, find out. Your nursery can be ready and names picked out. You have the control to find out. Your doctor will not tell you husband because it is your body. Your husband will get over it. Tell him your the one carrying the baby and you will be the one birthing the baby. Most likely the one feeding the baby and changing the baby.

Answer 7

My doctor told me that we were having a girl through my whole pregnancy, then he reached in and pulled out a boy! Fortunately, his room was done in bunnies. You could find out the sex of the baby without telling your husband. Pick a theme for the room instead of a color scheme. Sesame street characters, Blues Clues, Noah's ark, bears. There are many generic themes that can go for wither gender. Good luck!

Answer 8

My thoughts:
If my husband doesn't want to know that's bad, because
I am one of the more curious people who want to know so
I am prepared. When I had my boys no one could tell and by the time I waas pregnant with the 3rd. I would have given anything
to find out what sex it was. By the way it was a girl.
I don't know how you can convince him, if you really want to know he should respect your wish.
I DON"T like Surprises either. EVER!

Answer 9

It's a surprise no matter when you find out. Plus, all babies look like litlle old men (no hair, no teeth) and if you dress her in yellows/greens (that is what everyone will have to give you), she will look like a little boy. Find out--then you start getting excited when you see cute little gorl or boy outfits.

Answer 10

I had my son back in 1983. back then they didnt do ultrasounds unless you were having problems. There is nothing wrong with decorating a nursery in light blue even if you wind up having a girl. You can always pick up pink accessories and they will go fine.