My hubby is a truckdriver he is gone all week home on weekends he goes to tiity bars but i cant go out?

Question

while he is on the road he goes to titty bars and spends money and no telling what else then lies and says he dont go to them but ive been told different so i guess my question is why is it alright for him and not me i sit at home all week clean house take care of our 4 kids and then fuss and argue when he is home we dont hardly ever go out anymore together see we have invited other people in our relationship(women) so i like going to titty bars to but when i ask him to go with me there is always excuses im not allowed to go out and have fun but he can im so tired of the bull we have been together 13 years this november

Answer 1

I'm sorry, I can't answer this question because I'm trying to comprehend why any woman would say "titty bars" really...?

Answer 2

Sounds like my ex-husband...but he was a printer. Marriage is a joint relationship...what's good for the goose is also good for the gander. Do you have access to bank account. No...SOL...if yes...then when money gets put in...make sure to take some out so that his spending is a little...not alot. Then get a sitter, go out by yourself or with a friend. You are not his maid or nanny...your his wife...which is an equal oppurtunity marriage. Start doing things you want to or you need to get out of the marriage and let him know you are serious about having a life outside of the house.

Answer 3

Hun he's gone most of the time why do u need his permission especially when he's gone, as long as u dont do anything to breach your marriage while your out having time to yourself he'll just have to get over it, your entitled to a life of your own too.. I totally understand how lonely it is being married to a truck driver, my husband just recently quit being a truck driver for a job that keeps him home every night.. and it really sucked, not knowing where he was all the time, knowing he could cheat anytime and i would never know it cause he's out of state..and when he came home he was always tired and i was excited to finally have his time.. we have 5 kids so i know about needing a break.. and you deserve one, his break is when he's on the road cause although its work, he still only has to worry about himself only.. where u have to worry about u and your 4 kids constantly.. Just find a babysitter and go out with out him.. u dont need his permission your not alittle kid and as long as your not doing anything that would put your marriage in jeopardy you have all the right in the world to have some free time..

Good luck

Answer 4

IM a truckdriver married 8 yrs w/ 4 kids.I would never dream of doing anything on the road that would make my wife and kids lose respect for me.My trick is I imagine my wife and kids standing ther even when they arent. If i feel like a cad , I dont do it.

Answer 5

Try to provide a decent home for your four children and keep it together until they are all at least 18 years old. A guess it takes all kinds and maybe you and your husband were meant for each other. While you have minor children at home just worry about raising them and leave you and your husbands escapades alone until the children are grown.

Answer 6

Start going out, he is only trying to control you and thats not good. If he is going out so should you, if I were you I would not go to those kinds of bars though but there has to be other things that interest you, go do some of those.

Answer 7

That doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. Its up to you if you want to continue something like that.

Answer 8

maybe you should set down have a little talk about separating and child support and you getting money to see what he has to say then.

Answer 9

Lets see, could it be because he has a job and you dont.

Answer 10

find a babysitter one night and go out anyways...that isn't fair!