Do you think it is ok to be 28 years old and live with your parents?

Question

I am 28 and I have a 12 yr old son, I live at home with my mom and dad. I have never lived alone or independently. What are your opinions on this?

Answer 1

nice that you have that option.... but c'mon that has to suck. grow up and get your own life! Good luck :)

Answer 2

Having a friend who recently moved out from living with his parents (I think it was 29 when he moved out) I can say that living on your own is harder when you're older. Eventually, given the odds, you WILL be living on your own, so the more you can get used to it and become independent, the better - emotionally and mentally.

If you want to look at it from the perspective of a potential mate, it is certainly a turn-off to be around parents during any sort of relationship. It is interference, and eventually communicates that you are not ready to be yourself. Some employers even look poorly on this, basically showing that you have no drive or determination to seperate yourself.

Personally, I don't think it's that bad of a thing, but it certainly brings up a great amount of questions from people. It is considered the natural course of an adult's life to become their own person and forge their own life. If you stay dependent on another person your entire life, then how much have you really progressed? (then again, the rest of us are still asking our parents for favors all the time).

Answer 3

With the economy the way it has been, there are lots of guys and gals in your situation - living with relatives not so much because they're freeloaders as to help the family out. So no, I wouldn't disqualify you for dating on those parameters. I'm also a homebody, and I don't drink much, but you'll never find someone unless you leave the house, and the bar scene isn't the ONLY place to meet people (unless you live in a really small town where it is, in which case, sorry dude!). It's still totally socially acceptable to ask friends to set you up with someone, so ask your friends if they know any eligible ladies who'd like to go out for dinner and a movie. Go to bookstores and chat with any cute girls you see there. Put yourself out in the world some, and you'll find a nice girl who's fine with quiet evenings at home, likes to read, and likes spending time with a large and close-knit family.

Answer 4

America is one of the few societies in the world that doesn't have a prevalent extended-family culture (if you're from the US). If the situation is working out fine for you, your son, and your parents, why not?Living alone and raising a child is expensive, and the time you spend working would be the time he's left to himself (you know this is the absolute worst age for that!). Your parents have probably grown very close to your son, and your son to them.

Times have changed drastically over the last few decades. There is no RIGHT or WRONG way to live; only the one that makes you happiest.

Answer 5

I am happy to see that many people agree with me and that there is nothing wrong with your living at home with your parents. The only thing wrong is being upset or uncomfortable with your choice. That is needless guilt. It is guilt based upon the stigma others would place on you.

Go beyond that by feeling proud of your choice. You have chosen a lifestyle based upon mutual aid and support among your family. It provides a wise way to deal with adversity and to create an opportunity for your son.

Make sure to take pride in contributing to the well being of your parents.

At the same time make sure that you feel capable of being independent. This will bring you the best of both worlds Interdependence.

Answer 6

It depends why? Can you not live alone? Are you dependant on the help for reasons you can't control?? If you're saving for a place it's ok to have help but just being lazy isn't cool. By 28 though give them a break man!! They may love having you there but I'd bet they'll have a glass of champers when you leave. Give them their twilight years to enjoy aye...

Answer 7

You need to get out on your own. Your parents won't be around forever to support you. You need to learn to take care of yourself. Unless there are some other reasons why you are still living at home such as you just finished college, your parents are ill, you have just divorced, etc. you need to get out of there and you need to remember you are setting an example for your kid. Do you want him living at home until he is almost 30?

Answer 8

I think it's just fine. If you didn't want to leave yet then that's ok. if you want to move out then you need to make more money and start looking for your new house. but if you want to live with them its ok. plus your son knows your parents really well and that is great for the relationship between you,your son, and your parents!

Answer 9

Once you get out on your own you will find that things are a little more difficult, but you will also notice that you feel better about how things are. Also you will be setting a good example for your son.

Anouther thing to make sure you show is financial responcibility. It will add to you skills that will pass on to your son.

Answer 10

By 28yrs old you should be out on your own....but I guess every situation is different. Depends. You are old enough to take care of yourself, but are you able to take care of yourself and your son? Are you able to work and support the both of you?
Don't really know your situation, but good luck.
If you are able, you should and set a good example for your son. Keep good relations with your folks...they can be a good safety net while you try out your new wings.

Answer 11

because you are a single parent, I would say it's ok, you probably need all the help you can get! but i would consider your parents monthly expenses, power, phone ,water,groceries, and maybe chip in some to help out, you may want to take advantage of this time and start saving some money for you son's education or to eventually get a place of your own, this will show your parents that their efforts to help you are not in vain, and who knows "my son the doctor" may come out of this one!!