my girl friend wont go to the doctors and she is 9 weeks pregnant?

Question

we arent talking right now but can i do anything legal wise like go to court or anything for the wellfare of the baby

like to force her to go to the doctor

Answer 1

she has the legal right to refuse medical treatment and to even have the baby at home

sorry there is nothing you can do

Answer 2

Whoa...give her a little time, at 9 weeks a lot of women don't know they are pregnant for sure. She should probably be making plans to go. Most OBs will want proof from a regular physician as well. (OTC pregnancy tests don't count for most of them.)

If you choose to start a battle now, it will continue throughout the pregnancy and into the child's life. That is bad for you, your girlfriend and the child.

Learn to agree to disagree. If you can work it out, both of you need to give and take to do so. If you can't work it out, agree to be civil. Not speaking is not civil.

She may need a few days or weeks to get over the shock. It is a big life change for you and an even bigger one for her.

By the time you went through the legal dance to "make" her go, she will have probably already had the child. Good luck with that legal process. (Judges are going to be on the side of the mother when she is still carrying the child.) If it isn't illegal to drink and smoke while pregnant, there really won't be much you can do about her putting off seeing a doctor. Just focus on what you can do to learn to be civil with each other for the sake of the child. (I don't necessarily mean being in a relationship with each other, but just respect each other and work together where the child is concerned.)

Good luck.

Answer 3

As far as legalities are concerned, I don't think there is anything you can do. (Seek actual legal help if you are very concerned in this aspect.) And I would not try to force a pregnant woman to do Anythingl. However, I agree that most OBs just chuckle the first weeks and tell you to lay off alcohol when you go to see them.

But there is something you can do otherwise. I know you two aren't talking right now, but try your best to be supportive and gentle. Being pregnant is extremely difficult, physically and emotionally. Be supportive of her decisions--don't worry, they'll probably change tomorrow. Just let her know gently that you are around and that you will go to the doctor's with her, or her Mama's house, or the natural food store to get watermelon, or just be there for her. It means a lot.

And just for your mental sanity, many women don't even know they are pregnant at 9 weeks so they don't seek prenatal care early. Babies come out fine.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Though you can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, you can always sit down with her and talk to her. If she doesn't want to go know, a least let her know she should make an appointment soon. Does she not want the baby or if she just scared? If it's a matter of not wanting the baby, she should really think about that, let her know you want the baby and you'll be there for her every step of the way. She's probably scared. If she doesn't want the baby, then she shouldn't wait to figure out what she wants to do. Let her know this baby is important to you and it should be for her too!

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

What is she hiding that she doesn't want the Dr. to know? A drug habit? Why aren't you getting married if she is pregnant? Don't you want the baby to have a name? You have lots of rights if you are married. You young people need to go back to the old ways if you are continuously going to pop those babies out like puppies. They aren't PETS! It's time to grow up and take responsibility for your new family....both of you. Your baby deserves better. Life is tough. A baby needs a mother and father. Why aren't you talking? Is it your baby? Maybe that's why she is avoiding you and POSSIBLY lying about NOT going to the Dr. Anyway, I could not figure out why my daughter would not go to MD Anderson for a brain tumor but, learned a year later that she also had a secret Meth habit that NO ONE knew about. That's why I asked what she is hiding. I am not being mean. How old are ya'll? Good luck. You sound like a loving, concerned man who is worried about his new little family.

Answer 6

Is she refusing to go all together, throughout the pregnancy? Some people wait a bit, let it sink in before going to the doctors, others go right away (I went at 4 weeks) and the doctor did see me and I continue going regularly. I wouldn't worry right away if she is not going but I suggest going soon.

Answer 7

As long as she is caught up with STD testing, and her pap smear, then the dr. usually will wait until 10-12 weeks. Is she refusing to go altogether? Even if she is, I don't think there is much, legally, that you can do. If you are truly concerned, your best route is to consult a lawyer.

Answer 8

Most doctors do not see patients until 12 weeks. She should be fine unless she has had problems. Bleeding, cramping would be a reason to go sooner.

Answer 9

You are not her husband so you have no rights to the baby.Without marriage babies are considered illegitimate.So basically that's Mama's baby Papa's maybe and without a DNA test to prove you are the Baby's Daddy there's nothing you can do.

Answer 10

It ALWAYS a good idea to see a doctor as soon as she finds out she is pregnant. To make sure she doesn't have any complications, such as ectopic pregnancy, excessive fluid build up, check her blood pressure, her pulse, the baby's heartbeat, etc etc etc!!!