you attempt to have a romantic relationship with another person?
2006-07-06 12:53:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes and no. Must have enough respect and love for yourself not to be ahshamed or self-punishing about faults and weeknesses, for a healthy relationship to really last. But no, not "completely", in the sense of no self-doubt or vulnerabilities. That's ridiculous, and probably a symptom of a personality disorder, lol. It is human to be , and to feel, inadequate sometimes:) And it is beautiful, and often very healing, to allow yourself to connect and love and be loved ANYWAY. I think the whole "co-dependant" idea got just a *leetle* out of hand. We all need other people. What makes us human.:)
2006-07-06 13:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's "a good idea" for a healthy relationship. Maybe not a necessity (cause there are always exceptions, I guess). But for a lasting, healthy relationship, I really think that's a good place to start.
If you admit that you're probably going to have some not-so-lasting relationships, then I do think some of those are potentially a big help in getting you ready for "the real deal" (I personally go for monogamy; not a judgement or assumption on anyone else), and other people may very well help you get to a place where you can love yourself. I think it's very challenging, though, for that existing dynamic to have to change (usually pretty drastically).
2006-07-07 19:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't found that to be true. I've fallen in love with people while still quite a mess about myself. I found that those I loved helped me and the relationships were good, so I don't think it's necessary to love yourself completely before you can love someone else. Maybe they have something you need in order to fully BE yourself.
2006-07-06 20:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to love yourself in order to have SUCCESSFUL relationship. Romantic or otherwise. Just my opinion though. I have been married for, well, a long time and my marriage was not that great until I learned to love myself as well. Good luck, hope everything works out for you...:)
2006-07-06 20:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I used to hate myself...but I got into a romantic relationship. However she helped me grow into a better person, and in turn helped me be okay with myself and learn to love myself. I am still with her today. I think in the end you must eventually learn to love yourself. But your partner must see that you need help in doing so.
2006-07-06 20:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Holls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. When you know what you want, you can accept yourself and connect with others... If you're not looking for a deep connection, then you can enjoy the moment but it won't last
2006-07-06 21:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Magi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you don't love yourself, why would you expect anyone else to love you?
2006-07-06 19:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Phillip B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God no! Otherwise, I wouldn't act promiscuous and use sex to make me feel like somebody out there loves me!! j/k ... kinda
2006-07-06 22:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be in a SUCCESSFUL relationship...absolutely!
2006-07-07 16:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by johneo40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is mostly true,,,however most people learn as they go....
2006-07-06 22:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋