2006-07-06 12:49:22 · 10 answers · asked by Hudamans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's not allot you can do about this situation your ex has moved on with her life just as you need to as well, it would be understandable if you are in fear for your child's well been any father would be, do you know this guy has your wife introduced you and do you get on with him, i have been in your situation and i gave the bloke a chance, i just made sure i kept contact with my child after all that is the main thing right (children first)
hope you work this out with minimum hassles and all goes well for you and your child
2006-07-06 13:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. Stay the course!! Don't let that situation become a distraction. Believe it or not your "ex" has your son's best interest in mind. It may be hard for you to see that now, but be the good father and not the "dumb ex". If you run across an uncomfortable situation that involves the other guy, just be cool and focus on the task at hand. You son will remember that his father loved him and that's what's important. Once again, stay the course!!
God Bless
2006-07-06 13:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by yhmsnbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first questioned is do you know this guy that she's dating. If you do not know this guy, call her up and tell her how you feel, maybe you can ask her if its ok to meet this guy.,maybe more then one time even around the child. Just let your child no that you are dady know matter what. Now if I were you if you don't see him as much you need to do all you can to spend more time with him. Point blank if something mgo wrong or if you are suspicious of anything get you a lawyer and get your son. Don't let her think she's hurting you or confusing you stand guard and be there for your child.
2006-07-06 13:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is what kills me about people that get divorced.. didnt u realize this was bound to happen?? another man stepping in ??
This is nothing u can do anything about.. a judge will tell you she has the right to her own life , just hope and pray that your x wife wouldnt choose some ****** to be with around your son thats about the best you can do unless he shows just cause to be harmful to your son.. other then that, sorry this is what happens when people get a divorce that have children..
2006-07-06 12:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by preciosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time... it shouldn't matter as long as you are a positive father figure to your son. My husband's ex wife married a year after their divorce and his 2 1/2 year old daughterlived with them cause she had physical custody... It got pretty messy because of court stuff... But thank goodness for visitation. SHe got to see for herself that her real Dad was a great person, instead of the monster her mother claimed him (and me) to be. Good Luck!!! Don't give up your rights!!!
2006-07-06 13:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your wife has moved on but you have not. I am not saying this in a bad way, but you have to move on too. In regards to your son, as long as this other man treats your son good. And your son forms a relationship with this other man, that is ok. Try not to poison your sons mind with ugly remarks concerning his mothers relationship, that will only hurt your son in the long run. I know I am going through a stepmother situation now where my daughters stepmother tells her ugly things about me and my husband. My daughter is caught in the middle. She does not want to talk back to her step mother, but she is hurt by her ugly remarks. Please take this advise to heart, it is the child you have to think about.
2006-07-06 13:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by harliechick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I don't understand your concern. Are you worried that this man will replace you in your son's affections or are you concerned that he will mistreat him? These are valid concerns. Unless you have pretty convincing evidence that this man is doing harm to your son, emotionally or physically, you have to let this go. By all means, spend as much time as you can with your son. Let him know that you love him and that you will always be his father, no matter what. No one can replace you unless you allow it. God bless you and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-07-06 13:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by olelady55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. If the guy is treating your son good, then what's the problem? Obviously you two aren't getting back together. But it seems that you are jealous. Take control and if you want her back then tell her.
2006-07-06 12:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach your son want a person is not suppose to do to or not to say to him.
2006-07-06 12:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the child you are worried about its the ex moving on its time you do the same
2006-07-06 13:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋