want any more kid the problem is i met a single guy who would like to settle down and have kid what should i do i am confused what to do i need your advise.,
2006-07-06 12:47:34 · 16 answers · asked by april 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your current boyfriend just wants to have fun.
If you want a family someday... consider your options, and decide whats best for you.
2006-07-06 12:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Satchmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm not one to say that age doesn't matter but sometimes it does. That is the same reason I don't date men that are more than 3yrs older than me. They always want different things because they've lived that already and you haven't. Try this thing out with this single guy, it's a much better experience because your are both around the same age and will be much younger and have more energy for your kids than a 50yr old person would be when they are 15. It's all up to you but I really advise you to really get what you want deep down in your heart. When you are 30, he'll be 43 and might not want to do the same things you want at that age.
2006-07-06 12:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by breni03_bsb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he denies his own children should immediately raise red flags above your head. You are 22 YEARS OLD and you should enjoy being young and meeting new people. You are not forced to make a commitment to his kids and they're not even yours. This guy is 13 years older than you and you don't need excess baggage. Leave that dude alone and move on with your life. Go out with guys YOUR AGE who DO NOT HAVE ANY KIDS and they're doing something with their lives just like you're doing. Do what you think is best for you.
2006-07-06 12:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously because of the gap in age... it's common that he has gotten over his "I want to start a family to get my seed spread" phase... You are still so young and have yet to experience all that. I just don't think it's seriously going to work out. You should know that you will just set yourself up to a relationship in which you become bitter or resentful towards him for not wanting to do with you what he's already done. So, explain why it won't work out and move on... It's not your fault or his... You guys are just at different points in your lives. You shouldn't change anything about you or your goals becaue of anyone else... Good Luck!!!
2006-07-06 12:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want children? Is not wanting to have children a deal breaker for you? Do you love your current boyfriend? Those are questions you must answer going fwd. I would also urge you to take your time. You are only 22; there is no law that says you have to make a permanent commitment to anyone unless that is what you really want. Good luck to you.
2006-07-06 12:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by jimel71898 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly think you know the answer yourself.
Why take so many chances by being with a guy 13 years older and so much baggage??
Move on with your life, you are not forced to be with anyone. There is nothing wrong with being single and enjoying life until someone much betters comes along.
Take care =)
2006-07-06 12:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jet7263 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say just throw in the towel because he already has four kids and he might feel he is getting too old to be taking care of any rugrats so i suggest you move on and find someone who has the same wants you want.
2006-07-06 12:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you drop him, especially if he lied to you about his "status" and his kids. a real parent doesn't deny their kids. your young you can find someone around you age. besides lets say that you do get with him, do you really want to deny yourself the opportunity of one day having kids (yes they are a lot of work, but they will make it all worth it at the end of the day) think about it
2006-07-06 12:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by martha1314 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you have to dump him for your own good...he will expect you to help him with his kids and that may be hell..and he doesnt want you to have any by him is ridiculous..my girlfriend in Tulsa did that cause she wanted a husband and after 13 years she gets abused by them verbally and physically and she gained 180lbs and is a virtual wreck,and has no self esteem left.there is a saying "a new broom sweeps clean"
2006-07-06 12:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by aminuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun......
U need to sit down and think about this....
Who do u really love?
And if having ur own children is important to u maybe u should be with someone closer to ur age.
But this is something that u need to deide on ur own hun!
Good luck!
2006-07-06 12:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋